I feel like one of my roommates just ask for favours constantly what should I do?

[Anonymous]

[Flash314]

It sounds simple but stop doing them favors. There's psychology behind the one doing the favor versus the one asking for the favor, but I won't bore you with that. Next time they ask you for a favor give them a polite and firm no, then after doing that a few times, ask them for a tiny favor here and there (even if you don't need it, this is more to change the psychological dynamic). From then on they should stop asking so much, but if they do, ask yourself if you truly want to help them, if the answer is no then respond no, if the answer is yes then respond yes. But you are in no way obligated to go out of your way for them, you should never feel guilty saying no, the choice is yours.

[Asker]

They wanted me to look after a case but I literally had to go to the other end of toronto to get it. I said no and they are not talking to me now...

[Flash314]

That is actually a win for you. They have shown that what you can do for them is more important than having a pleseant relationship. For now just let them not talk to you. You'll have less stress and more time to focus on what you want to do

[Asker]

These roommates were pretty bad also. I mean they never looked after there cat and then it peed all my belongings. Then one of the girls took in furniture which caused bedbugs which meant I had to throw away a $120 bed frame slot of money considering I was laid off.

[hellish669]

Say "what am I ur mother?"
"Want me to wipe ur ass for u too?"
"Are ur feet/hands/arms/legs, etc broken?"
(Sarcastic)"sure! Right after I *insert extremely time consuming task*"
Or some over smart ass response that tells them to get off their ass.. or u could just tell them to get off their ass... Now this approach could b considered blatantly rude... But them constantly asking for ur help if they don't actually need it is passively extremely rude. I call that, speaking their language... Which can occasionally backfire w animosity. But to that remain alloof and w time the roommate dynamic will transform in whichever way u both choose to mold it

PS I dare u hehe