My boyfriend friends compliment me more than him, is it an issue?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is friends with a lot of guys. They're always filling me up with compliments. My boyfriend gets very worried when they do that but they don't really cross the line. When they do compliment me, he agrees with the guys. My boyfriend doesn't compliment me but he randomly kisses and hugs me a lot. I don't ever remember my boyfriend complimenting me. The only thing I remember was him telling me I looked younger than my age.

[caring__1]

Sometimes, when people feel pressure or obligation to do things, resistance to those things develops. When he was younger, he may have felt he never quite measured up, with people focusing on what he could have done rather than showing appreciation for what he did do. His friends' actions may be doing this for him. It may not be that he doesn't want to do these things or please you, but he may be fearful of not measuring up or he may feel inadequate to do so. Show appreciation for what he does do rather than focus on what he doesn't do.

The quickest way to lessen the likelihood of something happening is to turn it into an obligation. If you tell him he should kiss you at least 6 times a day, do you think he will kiss you more or less?

You can ask him how he feels when he hears his friends giving you compliments. You can ask him how he feels when people give him compliments. Understanding him better can open up opportunities for you to be a more effective partner.

[spartan55]

@caring_1
Sage advice.

[Dongtai]

Any random guy can “say” nice things about a woman he likes. But how many of those guys are “doing” nice things for you? When you get in a relationship it becomes easy to overlook the nice things our partners do for us for novelty compliments from people who aren’t in our personal lives.


Let the things he does for you speak for him. Words are abundant. Action takes time and effort. Does he do things for you?

[KBird]

My boyfriend also doesn't express his emotions a lot through words, in the sense that he doesn't compliment me often. He'll say he likes my outfits, or that he loves my hair the odd time, but he doesn't really say I look pretty or beautiful, or anything like that. But I definitely feel it when Im with him based on his actions. When he kisses me, hugs me, or holds my hand at the park, I know how he feels, and it gives me butterflies every single time he does it. :)

[Cherokeehp]

Everyone has their own love language. Maybe compliments don’t seem that important to him because he values other things like physical touch or quality time. If it’s that important to you why don’t you just talk to him about it and ask him to compliment you more.

[Paris13]

My Fiances throws Me compliments when he Feels Like it. He Hates braggers. lol!!! Just the way they Are by Far. xx

[JackofSpades]

Words are cheap.
I think a lot of guys would agree with me that we prefer to show love and affection in just about any way other than words.

Try dropping hints (or better yet just tell him) that you really like and appreciate verbal complements and you may start getting more.

[NyxandLoki]

It's only an issue if you think it is..
If you're wanting verbal compliments more from him, then you need to speak to him. Otherwise he'll probably assume it isn't an issue he doesn't do so that often. Like others have said he might be trying to compliment you in the way he behaves and by doing things that make you happy

[DaMack999]

His jealous. That's healthy. No need to worry. But give him a hint to do the same the other guys girlfriend next time his around. So his friends see what it feels like to be in his shoes. When they are doing that to him.

[boggboss]

I dont think its a issue unless its something u have a issue with

[Yourman89]

Enjoy the compliments. Sounds like he doesn't know how to treat you.

[Adam-eg]

Yes its normal and maybe your boyfriend compliment their girlfriend more than them

[Adam-eg]

No drama for today

[spartan55]

How often do you compliment him?