I wouldn't call it a red flag, necessarily. It certainly is a difference though, a point of friction.
She wants you to be a bit different in this regard. So good luck with that.
Remind her that you can force what doesn't feel natural, and that it is very possible to complement one's differences (though being more similar is way easier.)
Option A. Dump her and find a more chill girlfriend. When I was your age I dated some women who seemed boring to me at the time but they got 100x sexier by their 30s (because your POV also changes) so if you're looking for long term/serious, don't ignore the "boring" ones.
Option B. Women are always trying to change guys. If they got their way we'd all be wearing lipstick and have lace chokers with flowers around our necks... oh, and be 100% their slaves with no right to disagree about anything. Don't be that guy. Just ignore her demands. If she can't handle that then she can hit the road.
I think it's a red flag.
I also think you're boring to her, I don't think you're boring though.
I think that can become a problem down the line, I can imagine a scenrio of her finding a guy who is actually "on her level" and then she'll break up with you because she thinks he's a better match for her.
I'm not telling you to break up with her, but it's worth trying to work things out if you value the relationship.
That's just my take, take it with a grain of salt.
Not necessarily a red flag unless she makes it her red flag. I think her comment somewhat brought you down, which I’m sure she didn’t intend for it. I think you can talk about it with her how it made you feel and you guys can have a better understanding of each other’s personality 😊 opposite attracts all the time! I think sometime we just want someone to get excited with us that’s all (her side). I can be like both her and you, so I can see both sides to this.
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You are opposites, and they can attract. I think you should let loose and have fun. She's challenging you to open up emotionally. why are you so reserved... let your hair down and have fun.
I didn't hear energy I heard range of expression. That is different than energy.
yes this could be a problem especially as time goes by.
Well she's wrong for believing your wrong not to be like her. That's a concern and suggests immaturity.
Opposites can attract sometimes. Maybe she appreciates your calm and grounding effect on her. On maybe you appreciate that she livens things up for you.
Other times you just frustrated one another. Red flag. Move on.
What's weird is that she is so neurotic that she can't enjoy the song without you singing along, and going as far as trying to control you through shame and guilt to get you to do what she wants.
You're normal. Your girl is being weirdly controlling. And my guess is she's the one who put the idea in your head that you're not "on HER level" when really she is just weirdly over the top
I dunno how many time passed in your relationship but with time, if you really love each others you will converge at one point maybe little steps can make you both happy, or she must respect you because some people cannot live in extremes and just can't act like crazy. And I'm sure that you're funny. Also you or she haven't any wrong, if this situation influence the big part of ur relationship it may be kinda red flag..
Actually it's the perfect blend, stability and enthusiasm/wild energy.
You could easily adapt not always but be care free for once or twice so that she might feel that you are vibing, her energy levels will come down with age and she would need an stable guy so I dont think there is any red flag but depends on what you guys think that you could be together or not but no red flags for sure
It is a red flag, not because there's anything wrong with the way you are, but because I see it as a bad sign anytime someone begins complaining about their partner's personality.
You are just different. And sure you are boring from her point of view, but she's probably cringy from your point of view. I'm the same way I never sing, dance or act crazy and it annoys the fuck out of me when someone tries to force me to be like them.
It depends cuz if it’s often now and u notice her getting annoyed then it’s a red flag but if she did it and it brought u down but she’s still the same and energetic then nth is wrong. But if ur still unsure after this just ask and confront.
You're not boring because you are not the same as your girlfriend. Communicate with her so you can work it out
that is pretty normal for people dating when they are on different mood levels, You should do it with her sometimes though, you don't want her to think you are giving her the cold shoulder.
So you’re boring because you just like to relax? If she thinks you are so boring why is she with you?
You probably are to chill and need to be more energetic LOL 😂
Get rid of her. She will only turn up the volume of the female noise machine until it is intolerable. She will eventually cheat on you with an "energetic" guy.
Actually I'm kinda energetic as well and I like to be silly sometimes. It would upset me a little that we are not on the same page but it's definitely not something to break up for.
I guess it's a red flag. You may want to ask her for examples and try to understand it better. May be go bold. Ask her does that mean if I don't get my shit together I am about to loose you?
y'all just different, relax man, she's not cheating on you.
It's normal you may to try to match her level every once in a while though. It helps to play along
I can relate to your girlfriend lol y’all are total opposites
She sounds like a moron
Polar opposites nothing wrong with that
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