Why would a guy ask about my body count?

[Anonymous]

I was out for a drive with an acquaintance, just talking listening to music, we didn’t talk much about really just about random stuff here and there. Anyway he randomly asked me what’s your body count and I was like my what and he said how many guys I’ve slept with and then said you don’t have to answer like wtf why would he ask and then tell me I didn’t have to answer.. anyway I just told him too many just to mess with him, and then he asked about my virginity when I lost it, how I lost it and how I even picked the guy I lost it too and yeah it was just weird and I was a bit annoyed and a little offended and then he had the nerve to suggest coming over to my house and telling me to set it up with blankets and popcorn and a movie and get drunk like what, I just felt so disrespected I felt like he didn’t really see me as a person but as an object I don't know maybe him being only 19 that’s all he cared about, but I truly truly thought he wasn't like most guys, until he proved me wrong he was indeed like every other guy

[kkirk4442]

It is odd that a guy would ask you about your body count, or how you lost your virginity, out of the blue. Also, this is a subject a guy would only discuss with a female friend if they were very good friends, for a long time, and something led up to the discussion and question. And then, only if there was a clear history of trust and emotional (not sexual) history between them. This guy may have been angling to get in your pants, and was testing the waters. Re. he was like every other guy. Believe it or not, but not every guy friend want to get in the pants of his female friends. Yes, many do, but far from all.

[Not_Average]

Tell him “I must’ve misunderstood your intentions, but if you’re looking for a casual hookup, then you need to look elsewhere because that’s not me. I feel as if you’re disrespecting me with this approach and it makes me feel uncomfortable. I liked talking to you before. I think we should just be up front and end things if this is what you want out of this, because I wanted something entirely different. It’s best to be honest now.”

Boom. You were straight-forward. You were confident. You showcased self value and let him know you will not settle to be just another slut. You let him know you’re above that.

[JuliaStyles]

I don't know. Probably because there has been a lot of questions on body counts here lately. It seems like everyone thinks it's their business when it is no one's but the person you are considering to be married to. I'm not sure but I would think no girl would like to hear these words:

[MzAsh]

Yeah he’s a pervert. Any guy who asks that isn’t worth the trouble.

[Birdlegs]

Yo it’s really just a conversation question. Like asking “what’s your type?” They’re personal questions that have a lot of “conversationability” I might’ve made that word up but it means opportunities for conversation or like talking points

[tzdc21]

Well he probably was thinking about taking you seriously. I'm gonna be honest with you. No guy wants a woman who's been ran through for a relationship. They'll have sex with you, but they won't commit IF you have a high body count.

[poneglyphs]

Probably because he was curious and was just wondering?

[Wewladdy]

Because he wanted to know if you were quality or if you were just another hole.

[DarkSideCorrino]

Maybe to see your experience
some guys can get intimidated by a girl with lots of experience

[Asker]

ok but why would it matter? Like what’s the point. I know for a fact I’m more experience than him, but he didn’t really give a reaction... I don’t even remember if he said anything. I’m sure he thinks I’m a slut now or something

[DarkSideCorrino]

Well if its not intimidation
its probably just investigating what you are into
or being a bit nosy about your sexual tastes

[Asker]

Well I don't know if he was intimidated or not, seemed like he still wanted to hang out, well seemed like he just wanted to hook up from my pov

[DarkSideCorrino]

that might be a possibility to?
i guess it depends on how well you know

if most of the convo is about sex
thats probably what he wants

[Asker]

hmm, it wasn’t ALL about sex, but he was just so curious about me losing my virginity and how it was.. it just seemed too early on I think I don't know. Can’t tell if it’s a good he asked or a bad thing

[DarkSideCorrino]

Well honestly
im super inexperienced with sex stuff :(
im just trying to think how id handle the situation...

[Anonymous]

Being that you are Asian, he probably assumed you spent at least a couple of years as a prostitute. Maybe he was just curious about how business was?

[Anonymous]

specificially, what do you mean you picked the guy?

[chriscdi]

its something you ask if you wanna get serious

[Asker]

Really why would it be a question to ask if you wanna get serious just seems like a silly question meant for people who just wanna hook up I don't know I’m old fashion

[chriscdi]

well wouldn't it be the opposite, if they wanted to hookup they wouldn't ask, they would just clap cheeks and dip but if they wanna get serious then they would want to know how many people youve been with, if i was gonna date a girl, id like to know how many people she's been with, it can really say a lot about someone