I would support her as much as I can in this situation. I would ask her if she wants to keep it or not and according to her decision we would take necessary measures. However, if she decided to keep it I would tell her that once the baby is born she needs to find a job because I won't be responsible for her expenses.
I would be sad and disappointed that she didn't feel comfortable enough to talk to me about it right away. I would give her all the support she needs but I would also want to know who the guy was. Then I would load the shotgun, go find the little prick and blow his nuts off for having sex with a 16 year old girl. As a Dad, I'm protective.
I'd be shocked. I wouldn't be mad or yell, but I certainly wouldn't congratulate her. I'd of course sit my daughter down and explain to her, why this is not ideal. I'd tell her what's happened has happened and that I'll help her get through it. After that I'd contact the parents of the father, and I'd make sure that they don't let their son walk away from my daughter and the child.
Many moons ago my sister fell pregnant when she was 16/17. Being old and religious my parents reacted very badly and made her life do so difficult for a few years. She had to give up on college and my dad did his best to scrape enough money together to get us all an education. I swore I would never make my kids feel that bad.
Just say "i hope you studied Gilmore Girls well" lol. Guess she would just have grow up fast and learn how look after her kid properly, she didn't get aborted it so that means she is willing to parent it with all responsibility's unless she's putting it up for adoption. And if she wasn't thinking about protection before she probably wanted this, or extremely dumb either way she has to live with her choices.
We would take it one step at a time, acknowledging too that it is high school and it is dumb to say that people don't have sex there. So... I'd ask what she wanted to do and how it happened. It is really about being there to support her and help her through the process afterwards
A pregnant teen must feel anguished and horrified, especially if she waited 4 months to tell me, so I think I wouldn't reprimand her straight away. I'd support her, I'd try to help her so she can move on with her life and care for the baby at the same time. I wish things were not like that, but there's no point crying over spilt milk.
Adoption would cross my mind. Other than that not much.
Would just remind her that one last time how much she fucked up and she better go get a job and work some while she still can. Because she will now work for the next 20 years, if not more.
Ask about the father and contact his parents or him if he is 18. Work up a child support system or a tiny house living solution in the garden for those 2 fuckers, depending how they get along.
Give her nutrients because she's young and is still growing, which means her body requires an extraordinary amount of nutrition already, and even more with a baby to nurture.
Teen mothers are at more risk to give birth to defective babies ("reee, babies are never defective!!") Than are mothers over 35, Because of being depleted in basic nutrition. Amino acids, fats, minerals, vitamins, are all necessary for the proper synthesis and maintenance of enzymes, cells, tissues, and organs.
If she's wants an abortion, i would force her to get sterlized as well, cause she is a moron with a demonstrated laxking of the capacity for taking responsibility, and she should not be allowed to make a serious mistake teice.
Oh I'm sure you have known a few. You are only 20 and you are talking about a possible daughter you won't have for years, if at all. When you have a kid you will love them and protect them, not throw them to the dogs for making a mistake. It takes more than a few mistakes to make a girl a slut. Maybe you would be better off without kids?
present her my darth maul lightsaber that glows red. Then get out my luke skywalker lightsaber and have an all out fight to the death until she chops my hand off. Then say "nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!"
You will have to wait for Return of the Chewie to know what happens next..
No no it isn't about me my boyfriend and I aren't having sex until I turn 18... And even then it would be occasional and protected, as I know what my parents will do to me if I become this scenerio hahaha 😅. Thank you.
@just_a_potato Thank you so much for putting my mind to rest, and for now knowing that you will be extremely sensible in taking all precautions and protection when you do decide to give yourself to your boyfriend. Please do take care and stay safe.
Immediately find out where tf I went wrong and look into abortion/adoption possibilities. Also, I would consider my wife's influence on her and maybe consider divorce if I find out she has a part to play, as I'd likely not be the sole reason for it. Any complaints about abortion/adoption from my wife would mean immediate divorce considerations.
I would throw her out when she turns 18 - Fatherless homes and raising either a son or a daughter without a father is a real fuckin problem that people still don't get - promiscuity at its finest - talk about thugs or emasculated men and daddy issues - and yes she must talk to the father how the hell do you have a kid without a commitment with a dude - he doesn't care - Men hold the keys to commitment women hold the keys to sex - those keys have been extremely cheap as of late - hurting your son's or daughter's quality of life and personality - all the while hurting your own chances at getting a new partner - try telling a guy oh hey yea i like you too I can't wait for you to meet the kids - single moms have it worst - he'll bounce like he was never -there - I'll give you the benefit of the doubt of a hit and run - value your virginity as a woman that's all you got...
There are so many things wrong with this, but I value all opinions fortunately so I'm going to leave this passive aggressive comment to rethink your thoughts on this subject instead, sir.
@jaybee281 there's too much to unpack here. And as much as I like a good debate I have a feeling i'll be incredibly biased. Just please don't have kids. 💀
@just_a_potato sometimes I do sound more blunt than I'd like to be - but I didn't even mean harm - All of it was advice because the only one whose left losing is the woman - most men leave and wouldn't give half a fuck - she raises her son alone and he suffers same goes for her daughter - Same goes if only the dad was raising them both need each other - so don't do it in the first place - and my daughter if I have one hopefully will know the value of what I'm saying because I hate abortions
I understand what you are saying, however I believe throwing your daughter out on the street with a kid won't do her much good either. Of course it's your child and your life, but you should at least give the kid a chance to pick herself up and get a job while knowing she's safe at home. You know? As they say it takes two to tango and more often than not, the blame is put on the one who is pregnant instead of the one who got them pregnant.
jaybee is correct men hold the keys for commitment, women have either accept that or be single for the rest of their lives caus they struggle laying down their guard down or have trust issues 🤷♂️ 🤷♂️ c
They are both to blame obviously - but again it all goes back to whom has more to lose - much more to lose in this scenario and that's the woman - It's like the rich middle aged dude marrying a very young gold digger after being warned about it time and time again - then gets divorced and loses half his shit - one of the reasons middle aged men peak those suicide rates - Saying that it's a mistake and that it happened takes away all the past actions and talks and context and just leaves you with the act - all the context in which I would have taught her what I know and made sure she gets it - I'm not saying she doesn't do anything sexual - just don't lose your virginity with a guy because you have too much to lose when it comes to that - All the rich guy's power lies in having money and not giving the gold digger a commitment (but he doesn't know that) - all the girl's power lies in her virginity and not giving it away to some lying fuck (but she doesn't know that) - My daughter will know that and if she acts on it after I told her that it's wrong and gave all my real reasons - from her suffering to her child's suffering and she still acted on it - then she clearly seems like she's able to make her own decisions...
Ground her for 5 years until she is 21. Find the kid that did it and give him the hospital bill for child birth and the lawyer's bill for paternity test and child support. Put an add in the school paper congratulating the kid on becoming a father soon.
I think no one can predict your own parents reaction. However, bad or good the initial reaction is not a problem if you thought it up. They most likely will stand by your side and calm down later. Don't over think it. Everything will turn out okay eventually.
The only way they'd get extremely upset is if the dad was an adult who took advantage of you. That's different.
First I would slap the heck out of her, because I definitely didn't raise her to live a fornicating life, then I would talk to the guy and the parents of the guy, and make sure he takes responsibility for his child. Then I would take care of my daughter and keep my eyes on her and teach her her self worth and value. That she's worth more than a good excuse my language fuck from her little boyfriend.
Of course I would educate her on sex, but education is not just enough. You also need self control. Temptations do happen, if my child doesn't grow close to Christ things like these are bound to happen. So it's something I'm going to have to pray abou too.
No a days especially young teens don't care about God or even think that having sex is a huge sin. This what I hate about my generation and the younger generation they think it's all cool but once huge responsibly happen. Look what happen to Jamie Lynn spears when she ended up pregnant. She tough it was all cool and popular until bom pregnant.
T Ell about it. I feel ashamed of my own generation. Lets be real people born in the 1970's and 1980's were actually the good example well behaved kids. Now a days people my age and yours no longer have respect at all.
I would discuss with her what she was planning to do with her life (keep, adoption, etc). Then I would encourage her to seek a GED and focus on working until the baby came. I would also let the parents of the father know.
I would be supportive and then help her with the child. I would understand that the reason she waited so long to say anything was because of fear of judgement, so I wouldn't give her a hard time about how far along she was.
I would ask her what happened as she may have been raped. Or the appropriate action depending on the answer. I would fully support her not matter what she choice she makes. She is my daughter after all and I love her.
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I would support her as much as I can in this situation. I would ask her if she wants to keep it or not and according to her decision we would take necessary measures. However, if she decided to keep it I would tell her that once the baby is born she needs to find a job because I won't be responsible for her expenses.
I would be sad and disappointed that she didn't feel comfortable enough to talk to me about it right away. I would give her all the support she needs but I would also want to know who the guy was. Then I would load the shotgun, go find the little prick and blow his nuts off for having sex with a 16 year old girl. As a Dad, I'm protective.
Interesting, the older the user, the more likely they are to offer support and feel compassion towards the situation. Hmm.
I'd be shocked. I wouldn't be mad or yell, but I certainly wouldn't congratulate her. I'd of course sit my daughter down and explain to her, why this is not ideal. I'd tell her what's happened has happened and that I'll help her get through it. After that I'd contact the parents of the father, and I'd make sure that they don't let their son walk away from my daughter and the child.
Many moons ago my sister fell pregnant when she was 16/17. Being old and religious my parents reacted very badly and made her life do so difficult for a few years. She had to give up on college and my dad did his best to scrape enough money together to get us all an education. I swore I would never make my kids feel that bad.
Just say "i hope you studied Gilmore Girls well" lol. Guess she would just have grow up fast and learn how look after her kid properly, she didn't get aborted it so that means she is willing to parent it with all responsibility's unless she's putting it up for adoption. And if she wasn't thinking about protection before she probably wanted this, or extremely dumb either way she has to live with her choices.
We would take it one step at a time, acknowledging too that it is high school and it is dumb to say that people don't have sex there. So... I'd ask what she wanted to do and how it happened. It is really about being there to support her and help her through the process afterwards
A pregnant teen must feel anguished and horrified, especially if she waited 4 months to tell me, so I think I wouldn't reprimand her straight away.
I'd support her, I'd try to help her so she can move on with her life and care for the baby at the same time. I wish things were not like that, but there's no point crying over spilt milk.
Adoption would cross my mind. Other than that not much.
Would just remind her that one last time how much she fucked up and she better go get a job and work some while she still can. Because she will now work for the next 20 years, if not more.
Ask about the father and contact his parents or him if he is 18. Work up a child support system or a tiny house living solution in the garden for those 2 fuckers, depending how they get along.
Give her nutrients because she's young and is still growing, which means her body requires an extraordinary amount of nutrition already, and even more with a baby to nurture.
Teen mothers are at more risk to give birth to defective babies ("reee, babies are never defective!!") Than are mothers over 35, Because of being depleted in basic nutrition. Amino acids, fats, minerals, vitamins, are all necessary for the proper synthesis and maintenance of enzymes, cells, tissues, and organs.
If she's wants an abortion, i would force her to get sterlized as well, cause she is a moron with a demonstrated laxking of the capacity for taking responsibility, and she should not be allowed to make a serious mistake teice.
Are you sure about that? It would mean no grand children for you or a boy to carry on the family name.
@JuliaStyles i dont care about sluts.
Oh I'm sure you have known a few. You are only 20 and you are talking about a possible daughter you won't have for years, if at all. When you have a kid you will love them and protect them, not throw them to the dogs for making a mistake. It takes more than a few mistakes to make a girl a slut. Maybe you would be better off without kids?
1 mistake is a slut
And how many women have you gotten pregnant? Do you date "sluts"?
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present her my darth maul lightsaber that glows red.
Then get out my luke skywalker lightsaber and have an all out fight to the death until she chops my hand off.
Then say "nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!"
You will have to wait for Return of the Chewie to know what happens next..
🤣🤣
Maybe better would be a fight with the baby's father and chop off his impregnator?
"Impregnator" lol
Initially I would offer all the help, comfort and advice that I possibly could.
@just_a_potato I do hope and pray that this is not you in this situation.
See, this is why I say you’re a peach and a much nicer person lol
@Agape93 And this why I keep repeating that "It Takes One To Recognise One" ❤
Awww ❤️❤️🥰
No no it isn't about me my boyfriend and I aren't having sex until I turn 18... And even then it would be occasional and protected, as I know what my parents will do to me if I become this scenerio hahaha 😅. Thank you.
@just_a_potato Thank you so much for putting my mind to rest, and for now knowing that you will be extremely sensible in taking all precautions and protection when you do decide to give yourself to your boyfriend.
Please do take care and stay safe.
Immediately find out where tf I went wrong and look into abortion/adoption possibilities. Also, I would consider my wife's influence on her and maybe consider divorce if I find out she has a part to play, as I'd likely not be the sole reason for it. Any complaints about abortion/adoption from my wife would mean immediate divorce considerations.
I would throw her out when she turns 18 - Fatherless homes and raising either a son or a daughter without a father is a real fuckin problem that people still don't get - promiscuity at its finest - talk about thugs or emasculated men and daddy issues - and yes she must talk to the father how the hell do you have a kid without a commitment with a dude - he doesn't care - Men hold the keys to commitment women hold the keys to sex - those keys have been extremely cheap as of late - hurting your son's or daughter's quality of life and personality - all the while hurting your own chances at getting a new partner - try telling a guy oh hey yea i like you too I can't wait for you to meet the kids - single moms have it worst - he'll bounce like he was never -there - I'll give you the benefit of the doubt of a hit and run - value your virginity as a woman that's all you got...
There are so many things wrong with this, but I value all opinions fortunately so I'm going to leave this passive aggressive comment to rethink your thoughts on this subject instead, sir.
What were the wrong things that I said? I would love to discuss that - might help myself rethinking my thoughts through it, ma'am
Jesus wtf
@jaybee281 there's too much to unpack here. And as much as I like a good debate I have a feeling i'll be incredibly biased. Just please don't have kids. 💀
@just_a_potato sometimes I do sound more blunt than I'd like to be - but I didn't even mean harm - All of it was advice because the only one whose left losing is the woman - most men leave and wouldn't give half a fuck - she raises her son alone and he suffers same goes for her daughter - Same goes if only the dad was raising them both need each other - so don't do it in the first place - and my daughter if I have one hopefully will know the value of what I'm saying because I hate abortions
I understand what you are saying, however I believe throwing your daughter out on the street with a kid won't do her much good either. Of course it's your child and your life, but you should at least give the kid a chance to pick herself up and get a job while knowing she's safe at home. You know? As they say it takes two to tango and more often than not, the blame is put on the one who is pregnant instead of the one who got them pregnant.
jaybee is correct men hold the keys for commitment, women have either accept that or be single for the rest of their lives caus they struggle laying down their guard down or have trust issues 🤷♂️ 🤷♂️ c
@hasdrubal164 so what exactly are you saying, sir?
They are both to blame obviously - but again it all goes back to whom has more to lose - much more to lose in this scenario and that's the woman - It's like the rich middle aged dude marrying a very young gold digger after being warned about it time and time again - then gets divorced and loses half his shit - one of the reasons middle aged men peak those suicide rates - Saying that it's a mistake and that it happened takes away all the past actions and talks and context and just leaves you with the act - all the context in which I would have taught her what I know and made sure she gets it - I'm not saying she doesn't do anything sexual - just don't lose your virginity with a guy because you have too much to lose when it comes to that - All the rich guy's power lies in having money and not giving the gold digger a commitment (but he doesn't know that) - all the girl's power lies in her virginity and not giving it away to some lying fuck (but she doesn't know that) - My daughter will know that and if she acts on it after I told her that it's wrong and gave all my real reasons - from her suffering to her child's suffering and she still acted on it - then she clearly seems like she's able to make her own decisions...
Ground her for 5 years until she is 21. Find the kid that did it and give him the hospital bill for child birth and the lawyer's bill for paternity test and child support. Put an add in the school paper congratulating the kid on becoming a father soon.
Assuming I have a daughter and that she got pregnant through concentual intercourse. Also assuming she decides to keep it.
I would talk to the guy's parents and force them to marry. If the parent don't agree with my proposal I may need to open up a can of whoop ass.
Cause I know for sure I ain't taking care of my daughter's mistake.
I actually really like that approach
I think no one can predict your own parents reaction. However, bad or good the initial reaction is not a problem if you thought it up. They most likely will stand by your side and calm down later. Don't over think it. Everything will turn out okay eventually.
The only way they'd get extremely upset is if the dad was an adult who took advantage of you. That's different.
First I would slap the heck out of her, because I definitely didn't raise her to live a fornicating life, then I would talk to the guy and the parents of the guy, and make sure he takes responsibility for his child. Then I would take care of my daughter and keep my eyes on her and teach her her self worth and value. That she's worth more than a good excuse my language fuck from her little boyfriend.
How about you say that will never happen because you will educated your kid on sex. You teens seriously
Of course I would educate her on sex, but education is not just enough. You also need self control. Temptations do happen, if my child doesn't grow close to Christ things like these are bound to happen. So it's something I'm going to have to pray abou too.
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No a days especially young teens don't care about God or even think that having sex is a huge sin. This what I hate about my generation and the younger generation they think it's all cool but once huge responsibly happen. Look what happen to Jamie Lynn spears when she ended up pregnant. She tough it was all cool and popular until bom pregnant.
Yes, young teens don't care about God, but my child will.
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Ell about it. I feel ashamed of my own generation. Lets be real people born in the 1970's and 1980's were actually the good example well behaved kids. Now a days people my age and yours no longer have respect at all.
I know, it's sad...
I would discuss with her what she was planning to do with her life (keep, adoption, etc). Then I would encourage her to seek a GED and focus on working until the baby came. I would also let the parents of the father know.
I would be supportive and then help her with the child. I would understand that the reason she waited so long to say anything was because of fear of judgement, so I wouldn't give her a hard time about how far along she was.
I would ask her what happened as she may have been raped. Or the appropriate action depending on the answer. I would fully support her not matter what she choice she makes. She is my daughter after all and I love her.