I would cry with her first thing. She needs my support. As for the father, it depends on his age. Either way, I'd contact him and plead for him to stick around, keep the child safe
I would see if she was willing and able to put it up for adoption. If not I would talk to the parents and try and see if he will marry her. Even if it does not work out it offers her more security.
I would find out from her what she wanted to do and support that, if the person that got her pregnant was over 2 years older than her, in my state thats the limit when someone is under 17, I would see to it that person spent a lot of time in prison.
@JuliaStyles Irrelevant. If he commits statutory rape he gets to pay. He will either go to prison, or i will end his life my self. there is no middle ground here. I can't believe you would be ok with statutory rape. I feel sad for you.
Send her far away to have the baby in another part of the country, she'll put it up for adoption then move back here and try to pick up the pieces of her life, continue on as before and try to salvage her future. My daughter has a trust fund and its for law/medical school and she better not get pregnant that's all I have to say. Luckily she is way too smart to let some asshole get into her panties and mess up her future.
I would hug her and tell her that we would get through it, and That I loved her. The rest is not important. After reassuring her, maybe up to a week later, I would ask what she would like to happen, listen to her. And give her advice if she seems to need it. She is SUDDENLY a woman now... she needs to grow into that role
So would you go after the daddy for child support? And no, she is not a woman as 12 year old girls get pregnant too. But she would need lots of support.
@hahahmm Well, there goes her teenage years to become a mother. You know she couldn't work as who would be taking care of baby? I guess you are volunteering. Paying for child care ( babies have to be a certain age for that) would cost more than she would probably make.
@JuliaStyles Oh, stop. If you're old enough to make a baby you're old enough to figure out how to provide for it along with your boyfriend. If you don't want adult responsibilities then don't make a baby.
@JuliaStyles Responsibility is a word. Look it up. It's not your parent's job to be your free babysitter even tho some grandparents are dumb enough to do that for entitled kids. IF a kid is 100% responsible that's a different story. If a kid tried to make me raise their baby while they party/show bad judgement I would give them two choices: get out or give custody to me. Period.
You'll get it when you wise up. Maybe in 20 years.
I would be angry that she felt like she could not confide in me, and come to me for support as her mother, but other than that id ask her one simple question. "What do you wanna do honey?"
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Wait a min. I had a 16 year old daughter? But whose the Daddy?🤔
I would talk to her, tell her that I love her, reassure her that it is not that big of deal, and ask her what she wants to do and if she wasn't sure, I would explain her options. And, tell her that there no hurry to make a decision.
If the father was older and mature and going to be a good man to her id be happy!
If it was some shit hole id have to be the man for her because she's never going to get a good man as a single mom, only shit. So id have to be the dad to the kid instead of grandpa.
Well, I'd be very upset, but I'd give her a crash course on parenting and contact his parents/guardian to talk about his responsibilities.
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Tell her to abort it. If not then get out or just don't bother me with your mistake. She's not entitled to get anything from me if she didn't cared enough about her family and SOLD HERSELF to a stray man. She decided to betray my trust and is shameless enough to make my life more difficult by expecting me to take care of her shit?
getting pissed off would accomplish nothing. she is my daughter, i love her, she like the rest of us isnāt perfect. so forgive the mistake and try to support her.
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I would cry with her first thing. She needs my support.
As for the father, it depends on his age. Either way, I'd contact him and plead for him to stick around, keep the child safe
I would see if she was willing and able to put it up for adoption. If not I would talk to the parents and try and see if he will marry her. Even if it does not work out it offers her more security.
I'd be okay with it. I'd take her to the dr right away so we can see how the baby's doing. Then ask about the father n such.
I would find out from her what she wanted to do and support that, if the person that got her pregnant was over 2 years older than her, in my state thats the limit when someone is under 17, I would see to it that person spent a lot of time in prison.
He can't pay child support in jail. Don't you think your daughter would be half responsible for the pregnancy?
@JuliaStyles Irrelevant. If he commits statutory rape he gets to pay. He will either go to prison, or i will end his life my self. there is no middle ground here. I can't believe you would be ok with statutory rape. I feel sad for you.
Send her far away to have the baby in another part of the country, she'll put it up for adoption then move back here and try to pick up the pieces of her life, continue on as before and try to salvage her future. My daughter has a trust fund and its for law/medical school and she better not get pregnant that's all I have to say. Luckily she is way too smart to let some asshole get into her panties and mess up her future.
I was about to lose hope in mankind's logic - Finally a good answer - especially the last sentence
Oh. That guy would marry her at least he's payment something if he's older im getting him for the pedo he is.
I'll find a way to fuck with him till he man's up.
Her? Id be disappointed but really nothing would make me stop loving her. He kid is my grand kid I mean what could I do?
Be there with her, for her, and hold her, as we catch our breath, get her bearings, and figure things out.
I would hug her and tell her that we would get through it, and That I loved her. The rest is not important. After reassuring her, maybe up to a week later, I would ask what she would like to happen, listen to her. And give her advice if she seems to need it. She is SUDDENLY a woman now... she needs to grow into that role
So would you go after the daddy for child support? And no, she is not a woman as 12 year old girls get pregnant too. But she would need lots of support.
@Daniela1982 YES.. the "daddy" has to be responsible for his actions and the baby
@Waldoe At least we can agree on something.
@Daniela1982 probably more than you realize
Ask how many jobs she and her boyfriend are going to work to pay for that baby.
@hahahmm Well, there goes her teenage years to become a mother. You know she couldn't work as who would be taking care of baby? I guess you are volunteering. Paying for child care ( babies have to be a certain age for that) would cost more than she would probably make.
@JuliaStyles Oh, stop. If you're old enough to make a baby you're old enough to figure out how to provide for it along with your boyfriend. If you don't want adult responsibilities then don't make a baby.
I take it you don't have kids. If you do heaven help them if they ever make a mistake. When did you start having sex and did you always use a condom?
@JuliaStyles Responsibility is a word. Look it up. It's not your parent's job to be your free babysitter even tho some grandparents are dumb enough to do that for entitled kids. IF a kid is 100% responsible that's a different story. If a kid tried to make me raise their baby while they party/show bad judgement I would give them two choices: get out or give custody to me. Period.
You'll get it when you wise up. Maybe in 20 years.
Ultimatum.
1. She decides to abort it, Iāll pay for it myself.
2. The father and his family will keep it at their house, because I donāt want it in my house nor will I care for the little shit.
Love her and support her! That's it! If she wants an abortion ok, if she wants the baby treat both as your own!
What you said was oxymoronic.
Abortion no problem.
Keep the baby/treat it as your own.
Aborting a baby or keeping it as your own are polar opposite trains of thought.
@Cicero79
Reread the sentence and follow the English and grammar, there is a comma.
A person has a choice, in this case itās 3 choices.
Keep
Abortion
Adoption
But as @Nmalinova was referring to, itās sbout support and being there for here, help with the choices, but choices can be polar opposites,
I would be angry that she felt like she could not confide in me, and come to me for support as her mother, but other than that id ask her one simple question. "What do you wanna do honey?"
Wait a min. I had a 16 year old daughter? But whose the Daddy?🤔
Anyone you want him to be š
One's reaction depends upon the culture where one lives. It may be normal for some while horrible and degrading for others.
I would talk to her, tell her that I love her, reassure her that it is not that big of deal, and ask her what she wants to do and if she wasn't sure, I would explain her options. And, tell her that there no hurry to make a decision.
If the father was older and mature and going to be a good man to her id be happy!
If it was some shit hole id have to be the man for her because she's never going to get a good man as a single mom, only shit. So id have to be the dad to the kid instead of grandpa.
I would give her a big daddy hug, then ask her to tell me about it.
After that, I would support her in every way.
Well, I'd be very upset, but I'd give her a crash course on parenting and contact his parents/guardian to talk about his responsibilities.
Tell her to abort it. If not then get out or just don't bother me with your mistake.
She's not entitled to get anything from me if she didn't cared enough about her family and SOLD HERSELF to a stray man.
She decided to betray my trust and is shameless enough to make my life more difficult by expecting me to take care of her shit?
getting pissed off would accomplish nothing. she is my daughter, i love her, she like the rest of us isnāt perfect. so forgive the mistake and try to support her.