I would be tempted to choke his ass. But im better than that. If he even considers abortion, then he's clearly possessed because he knows thats not an option in our home. Sadly, the girl will do whatever she wants or whatever her parents force her to, but we’re going to be there to help support her emotionally and financially. He shouldn't have stuck his little funky ass weiner in her musky ass pussy. Its their fault and their gonna own up to it. Im about to helicopter mom his ass everywhere until he turns 18 and moves out. Im also taking all his video games and he can't “go out” to hang with any friends. he's gonna watch all my fave “mommy and me” movies and im taking him to baby preparation classes. He wanna fuc like a man, so he's about to prepare to be one 🤷♀️
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If my son was grown enough to cum in a girl, then he shall marry her and take responsibility for his actions! It’s the right thing to do!!
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He'd be grounded.
It'd be unlikely, as I think I'd be pretty protective overall, and I'd want to know where they were going, etc. And there'd be no going out with girls alone (unless he somehow kept successfully sneaking around - like we trusted mutual friends and family and they hid that they weren't REALLY watching him). No boy/girl sleepovers during the teen years. No "she's poor and got kicked out, so can she live with us?" stuff going on. There's no "being in his room (or her room) alone." He'd probably be raised in the church, so all of this would probably contribute to this being not as likely to happen. But let's assume that the kid is still stubborn and doesn't listen, even with all this. Let's say he's really crafty and somehow gets away with sneaking around... it can still happen...
I think I'd stress the possible risks enough in general, even with the "illusion" of what rumors can do, and the dangers of being completely alone (for any significant amount of time) with girls he doesn't know, even if he doesn't try anything, a story can hurt a reputation... though some boys will STILL never think it will happen to them, or they think they're invincible, or they rely on those "backups" that aren't really there... I'd stress from a young age that part of our job as guys is to help protect girls and kids, and try to teach him the consequences of actions... and that sometimes, every cloud does have a silver lining. On the one hand, you have diapers and have to learn patience and you have to grow up a lot... but... you GET to be a dad, and that can be both wonderful and a tough thing at the same time.
If adoption is out... it'd be his duty to take care of the child somewhat. Step up to the plate. If not marriage, then at least be a present father. He made the choice to sleep with someone, and (probably) not use protection, and not think about possible consequences, it's his job to grow up a bit and live with the consequences (both good and bad) of choices he made. Now, I would suggest adoption, and I think if possible, we'd all have to go to counseling together or at least some sort of mediation and see what the options are. I think also that I would also have to step up and my wife and I would have to try to help out a little. Not to make things too easy for him, but because we care and want to contribute to not destroying a little kid's chances of a happy life or a good start.First, I'd chew his ass out for being irresponsible. I'd remind him that there are consequences for actions and that I raised him better than to suggest murdering a baby because of his mistake. After the ass-chewing, I'd tell him he has a certain amount of time to talk to the girl, set up a meeting between them and the parents and then we would, all of us together, come up with a solution. As for the marriage part, I would talk to her parents. I am very traditional and believe the same thing they do, but I would also remind them of the potential consequences of a forced marriage and that, ultimately, it is their, not our, choice. Also, since the child would be my grandchild, I would promise them that the child will be cared for and that I'll pitch in like any good grandparent would. I'd convince him to man up and be a father. Also, I'd remind him how hard my life was without a father and ask him if he'd really be cold enough to put a child through that, especially knowing my story and if he truly loves me and respects me as his dad.
You can't force him to marry her or be involved with the mother. However he should realize the impact what he has done had on her life. They both made the mistake of not using a condom, they both own that responsibility. Your job as parent is to hold him accountable for his actions.
He cannot just tell her to abort and expect her to do it. Not only will she be a social outcast because of all those prolifers her culture may also look down on such an act. he needs to see there are no quick solutions and he has made a decision that has changed his life. He needs to know not everything is at the touch of his fingers. He needs to talk to her and decide what they really will do, but first you parents sit down and discuss every possible scenario so you'll be ready for your kids solution.
If they agree to abort thats their choice, if she wants to keep the baby but he doesn't you need to work through it with him; why not, whats the worst that'll happen, what will you feel in ten years when you've walked away etc. Hold him accountable, make sure he knows he made the mistake and he must fix it, but you will help him to fix it. It's like when you were small and tried to crack an egg the first time, you messed up, so your parents helped you until you could fix it.
The girl knew she shouldn't have been having unsafe sex, she did anyway just like your son, and now she has the burden of carrying a baby. If your son refuses to marry her what her family does next will depend on their culture maybe they will just do an abortion; you never know. She isn't your concern, but that's not to say you should shun her or be nasty because she seduced your son or whatever.
Goodluck!When you have sex, you know the risks and by not wrapping it up you're asking for it. Your actions have consequences and the consequences for that mediocre sex is a baby that you now have to care for for at least 18 years.
I would definitely make my son step up to his responsibility BUT my sons responsibility would be to the child, and the child alone. Not to the mother. I would not make him marry her jsut because that's what her parents wanted for her.
I would definitely help a lot because obviously I couldn't ethically let my grandchild be raised by someone who isn't even done being a child himself. And I wouldn't want to over burden my son with getting a job because school will always have to come first so at least hy the time the child is 7 he would be able to provide for him/her without having to work extrashifts at McDonald's. I would push his education harder than ever but ai wouldn't make it easy on him. He would still have to wake up to feed, change, soothe his own child. Whenever he's not at school.this is why I plan to tell my future kids as they get older. I have condoms in a community spot in my household. please use them when you do engage in sexual interaction. even if your using other protections they can fail. so don't be a fool and wrap your tool.
if one of my future son's knocks up a girl. then it is his reasonability to help her care for the child. within his legal rights to do so. I will not force them to get married. but I will also not help them raise their child either. or he needs to sign away his legal rights for the child including visitation and support.
if one of my future daughter's get knocked up by a guy. then it is her reasonability to take care of her child. hopefully the guy helps her out and does not skip out on her. otherwise he better sign away all his legal rights. to the child including his visitation and support. however I will not force them to get married. because I will not help her raise her child.
modern marriage is a joke and worthless. but children do better in a 2 partner household. if both are good parentally figures.When. i was 16 and a girl my parents knew down the street was 15, both our parents allowed us to spend 2 nights per week overnight with each other so we could have sex. She was a virgin and at 16 Id only had maybe 5 encounters. We were told we had to have rubbers. My Dad provided them. She is very petite and im over6 ft. I was physically mature. Anyway after 3 years of doing everything we could think of we got pregnant. By then I was in army reserves and she was nearly 18 i think. I was very gentle and knew how lucky to have this girl just for me at barely 16. Im Jewish and she's from Germany originally. I along with my parents would be thrown out of the Temple if anyone knew. To try and make this shorter I had a huge desision to make. Id taken her virginity when she just turned 15, done everything through 2 girl friends with her 2 nights a week and we both learned a lot about everything. However, right or wrong I was the only boy shed ever even seen undressed.. a week before I was to go to training I realized I couldnt just leave her. I wasn't quite that low, and I realized she and had reached adulthood, about, and We were married. The Rabbi married us, i couldnt look at him. He never knew but I knew. Several months our David Israel and Elijah Blue were vorn. I was never told I would marry her but I had a little decency left and we loved each other. Today were still in each others arms and my babies, my life and. My pride are asleep in the next room. We askd God to forgive us, dont see our parents and our boys will be raised in Johannesburg s best area and will be moral boys then men. So what do you do when he gets her pregnant? I did exactly what my heart and my God had me do, I married her hopefully were living together 70 years
I would first ground him without internet because his stupid ass went off unprotected. Then I would make him babysit one of the family babies for 24 hours and take him out of school that day, just so he knows how much of a responsibility a kid really is while you are still in highschool. After torturing him with these necessary punishments, I would ask if the girl could come over one day so the three of us could talk about what they want to do, with me being there to guide my son. In the end it's his choice to be in the kid's life or not but I would highly recommend he should and not be a dead beat dad. At least that's how I think I would go about this.
That is a tricky question well I would first make sure it is his (unless she has the abortion to be honest I think that would be the best option) but one cannot force someone to be a father or marry someone
Law can force them to pay childsupport but even that sounds kinda off when you think about the fact the girl could abort the child even if the father would want the child yet otherway around he is on hook for 18 years
Anyway I would try to be a part of the childs life since he/she is my grandchild and if the girls family would kick her out for being a single mother I would simply take her in🤔 and i guess if I have anything to inherit at least part of it wouldgo to them (well if they are a total jackass as a adult i mightwrite them out🤣)
And well I guess I might do something about my kid too at the very least He would not be getting anything extra only what he needs to surviveI'd beat the crap out of him. Also, if she refused to get an abortion or put it up for adoption, he either will sign his right away from the child, or when he turns 18 he's out.
I'm already gonna tell my kids this when they are young and will try to have them wait for sex or at least always have condoms at the ready.
But if he wants to be an adult that bad, then fine, he can be an adult, just not in my house.
Also, if my daughter got pregnant and refused the same thing, same boat. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
Only time I wouldn't kick them out, is if the they got raped.Well he would certainly be taught a lesson of his own doing. I would make sure he faced up to his actions of being 50% responsible. I would make sure he remains at the side of his girl and be with her every step of the way to support her and support their child.
I would take the responsibility and support the girl's family financially and with everything they might need. However, if my son wouldn't want to marry, I'm not going to force him, no matter the cultural background of the girl. I think at such an age he is too young to marry anyway, besides that, the girl is not even his girlfriend.
I’d prefer if the girl got an abortion too but we can’t make her and it sounds like she won’t. I would tell him to help support his child financially by getting a part-time job until he graduates and can work full-time to take care of it. If he didn’t do it he wouldn’t be getting my financial support anymore either.
Marriage is out, that's their problem. If she won't terminate the pregnancy she could arrange an adoption. If she keeps the child your son is liable for support until the child is 18. It's up to him whether he wants contact with his child if the girl keeps the child I hope your son chooses to be a father.
I wouldn't advise him to marry her (though I would tell him that's it's okay if he keeps an open mind about it and if he eventually falls in love with her then I will fully support it. But I will also support him if he doesn't want to.). But I will require him to pay child support and I will highly encourage him to help take care of his kid. He needs to take responsibility for his actions. He's 17; he should have known better.
I think you need to talk to your son about what has happened and ask what he wants from the relationship. If he isn't ready to be a father or he doesn't want to be a father then he should let the girl he got pregnant know about it. In terms of marriage its not ideal at 17 but if there is no love or any feelings involved then marriage is not an option at all regardless of what the parents of the girl want.
I would beat up my son, but because he wants to run away or avoid responsibility
Then I would explain to him why he needs to stay and try to make them work on marriage and making it work out
Also I would try to be amicable with the girls familyNo son of mine is gonna grow up to be a deadbeat dad. If i heard he told a girl to abort his kid id slap him.
That being said it would have been easier if they were a couple. If they hooked up without even being together id kinda worry what morals the girl has so i dont know if i would pressure my son to marry her. I would have to know more about the situation. I don't know i guess im not prepared for this type of situation.Make sure he stands by her no matter what and make him get a job to support her and the child. If the girl didn't want the baby, I'd make him care for it with my support if crouse. He must learn to take responsibility for his actions and if he's grown up enough to sleep around with girls, he's grown up enough to take the responsibility. Id want him to take a difficult situation into a positive.
If this was the case,
a) I'd be disappointed in my son for not using protection or anything, because I thought I would have taught him better than that. Trust me, we would be having strong words.
b) if he wants nothing to do with the child, it is his choice and he can easily sign all rights over to the women and walk away if he wishes to. I'm not going to tell him he has to be involved, but I would help him with whatever decision he makes. If he did want to be involved, then again I would help him, but if he makes the decision he wants nothing to do with the child, I am not paying the women if my son wanted to pay child support, he can pay it himself.
c) the girls parents can do one, if they are from a traditional family and their daughter gets knocked up in a one night stand, it is equally her fault for not using protection. I'm not having him force my son into marriage with some girl he doesn't knowDon't have a son but if I did then that's His responsibility not mine and I'd tell Him it's time to put on His big boy pants and be a man. If He didn't want to be a man and wanted to skip out on His responsibility then I'd disown the shit and forget that I ever had a son.
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