Well if it were to happen now I would be very confused. If it were to happen later, I’d probably keep the pregnancy. I’d tell the guy, unless he was somehow dangerous for me and the future kid. And I’d want him to be involved with the kids life. But I wouldn’t force him to. I certainly wouldn’t get married just because I was pregnant. We could continue dating, assuming that we were dating in the first place, but I wouldn’t rush it because that’s a recipe for disaster.
Also, I would ask that if he didn’t want to be active in the kids life, that he sign away his parental rights. It would be better for me because then I could do things like move to different states, take the kid on vacations, and make decisions regarding the kid without having to jump through a whole bunch of legal hoops. And it would be better for him because he wouldn’t have to pay child support and could go on with his life like nothing happened. And if he changed his mind and wanted to be in the kids life, I would let him. But it would be on a timeline that I believe as the kids mother is healthiest for the kid. Not some timeline picked by a court of people who’ve never met the kid. I wouldn’t send the kid to stay overnight with a guy who is to them a complete stranger, for example. That would have to be worked up to.
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Well I was in this situation, i found out about two-three weeks after that incident I pm you about, I believe I know who the father is but he was so adament that I was lying and trying to mess up his engagement when I never met him before and had no reason for doing so. So I've raised her ever since and although I was going to abort even made an appointment to go and do it and broke down at the train station, and then told my parents the next day. Every decision or most of them at least has been for her. From trying to understand and sort out my emotional mess to making a better life for us and finishing off my degree all that's left is to get a job and my own place and work towards owning my own place which has always been my dream
I wouldn’t be thrilled, that would kind of jack up my life plan. Early retirement would be out the window, lmao. I don’t know, I mean, obviously I’d step up and try to be a good father, and I think that’s ideally done in a two-parent setting, although that’s almost rendered moot now that we all have to work so hard just to make ends meet, it’s not like my parents’ days. I don’t know what I think of marriage other than it’s kind of a funny formality that doesn’t even guarantee anything and just makes any break-up way more complicated. It’s more just about some kind of social validation, as I see it. So marriage is whatever, but I’d at least feel obligated to try to stick around with her until the kid grew up.
I'm old school so would propose but I also wouldn't be doing it with someone that I wouldn't want to marry either, that has never made sense to me.
My wife however, was in this situation but had a miscarriage (before we met) now she is unable to have children, as we've tried and tried and tried and with covid it made fertility clinics pretty well impossible to get into, so we gave up.
Some people have to worry about what to do when they can't have children and some worry about not ever being able to have them.
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I am married, with kids, and the probability of having more, so... that's not so much of an issue. I'm in an open relationship, so even changing the paradigm to I got another woman pregnant would mean getting a bigger house and integrating her into our existing family, or hiring a couple civil lawyers to feel things out if they aren't progressing in the direction I was used to in our probable relationship from past preferences and experiences.
I guess it just comes down to spending more time with my kids for me, and if not, then... I'm not.On one hand, I'd like to have a child, but on the other I'm making sure we have no sexual contact so nothing can happen.
I think that my seed and dynasty is better to go extinct.F. If it were me and I got pregnant during college or when I had no partner or simply a boyfriend, there is no argument in my mind. I would get an abortion.
Accidents happen because there is no 100% birth control method. I would not want a baby to be an "accident."
Babies have NEVER been a good reason to get married unless you're in love, you want a child together anyway, and you were planning to get married soon.
To marry SIMPLY because of an accidental pregnancy is foolish. Babies are a giant responsibility and if you two aren't in the same mindset about childrearing and your lifestyle together, it would be an equally giant mistake.
To bring an accidental child into an accidental marriage sounds like a disaster to me.I’m not single... but I’m telling you now if I was pregnant with the baby from the love of my life, I would be the most proud wife and loving mother for that child. Being pregnant with a baby from the person your soul loves, is an amazingly precious gift, because you have created a life combining yourself and the person you adore everyday. I couldn’t even picture how perfect our lives would be, even with the imperfections we have and life hands us. My heart is so full now, it would be pouring with an abundance of love and happiness. That is the pinnacle. I can’t wait to experience that with my husband. ♥️
I want to keep my child, it's our fualt not our child fualt and she/he have the right to see the world. If my boyfriend does not want than i can be a single mother no probs mama will fight for you.
I have raise someone's child a close blood relative my parent brought him to our house, most of the time i was the one who take care the baby cuz i have the most free time i was just like 12 when I have that baby brother lol. So i think i have enough experience, if my parents chase me out from home? okay, I can get a job to support us, I already have jobs and I have a way to get money from my boyfriend anyway hehe.This doesn't make sense. "Single people" "you/your girlfriend"
I assume you meant unmarried people. So I'll answer, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 years, we have discussed before a couple years ago that if I get pregnant it wouldn't be a big deal and we could probably work with it. Although neither of us want kids now we are financially stable and emotionally ready enough to raise a kid.I am assuming I am also the one to get her pregnant, it is my responsibility to take care of the baby since it is mine, and it is also my responsibility to marry her, otherwise, her reputation might end up destroyed, this all through a series of unwise decisions so I would say it is completely my fault.
Are you proposing only because there's a baby? i’d turn his proposal down in that case. “Expecting” is not gonna force me to marry but if im with the person, i prob saw myself marrying them long before we conceived anyways. If i got pregnant, i’m gonna give him the option to stay or go. We don’t have to be together for him to still want to be a dad to the kid
It happened to me when I was much younger. I was 18 and seeing this woman who was 30 who I met at the gym. Her relationship was on the rocks, partly because she hadn't had sex in two years, and when she got pregnant, it was over for good. I did not handle it well. Secretly I wanted her to have an abortion. She didn't, because she was thankfully more mature than I was, and I'm grateful that she had the ability to handle it all.
All of you who say you’d abort a child are the same people who wouldn’t hesitate to help an injured animal or take in a rescue for a pet. You would nurse that back to health and it won’t even have the ability to thank you for all you do. Everyone talks about the baby’s ability to sustain life on its own but yet you yourselves can’t sustain life without food or shelter. Being a parent is one of the most difficult jobs and you will have to sacrifice everything you love in life just to raise the child to adulthood but that child also can’t survive without YOU and YOU ONLY. By aborting that baby, you are taking the only job that you, and only you, can do. There isn’t one person on here that isn’t replaceable in their career. Every job can find a replacement who any employee and manager. You cannot replace the job of a parent. That job was meant for you and that child and you only.
I would probably get a anxiety attack. Thinking, "oooooh shiiiiit." My mind racing of me getting a job to support the baby.
I mean, I do want children and a family of my own. But if it happens right now, while I'm barely getting by even for myself. It's scary.Some of them aren’t even an option A-D. You can’t force an abortion, you can’t force an adoption, if she does become a single mom
On your watch than you could be on CHILD SUPPORT on her time and D. How can you want someone else to raise a child who didn’t have it? I would go with F. I would have my baby.I would have the baby. I’m not against abortion but I’m not too young to be a mom and do have hormonal imbalances that may make conceiving difficult. I’m on birth control. So if it were to happen, I’ll embrace it. I wouldn’t want to rush getting married but moving in together would be a first step.
I’m completely against abortion so that not even an option. I’ve had a big scare before and my ex and I decided we were going to raise the baby but keep things the way they were between us. I didn’t want a baby to be the reason we got married. I wanted him to marry me on his on terms and because he loved me. Now we are broken up so I’m glad we didn’t try to get married because it would have been more complicated.
At first, I would probably consider terminating the pregnancy because I'm in no position to be having a baby right now. But then I would think, "I'm 27 years old. I don't know how many more years I'll be healthy and fertile for, so what if this is the only chance I get to have a baby?" And I would probably decide to keep the baby and just do whatever I need to do to provide for my child and myself.
What I did back then: we married, raised the kids together for a while, admitted to have made a wrong decision, got divorced, tried to be nice, got fucked over, and moved on to my next life.
What I'd do now: kick my girlfriend out. I had a vasectomy :DI voted F simply because, as a single woman, I don't know what I'd do if that happened. I'd have to be faced with it directly to have a complete answer. HOWEVER, at this moment in time, I think I'd have the baby and raise it on my own with the support of my family if the father of the child was a fling or didn't want anything to do with the child. If I were in a committed, long-term relationship, I would let the father know and decide together from there. If neither of us was ready to have a kid, I would abort it.
If you can't financially support a baby or just aren't ready, I say abortion is certainly an option.I would like her to have a baby, but it's her choice. If she wanted to have a baby, I'd be the happiest father alive.
Marriage is, well... We can discuss it later.
If you get married, just because you got her pregnant, it just seems like a forced marriage.I'm single (divorced) I would keep but I don't believe I would want to get married again. I want to have the choice to leave instead of ever saying the word divorce to a child. When a guy falls for another girl, while cheating, not even his kids matter. And that is a risk I don't want you take unless I know for sure he wants to be married. Pressure on a guy just makes him resent a women. Meh. No gracias.
If I had a girlfriend and she was pregnant, obviously I wouldn't be single.
However if a girl was to come up to me telling me she was pregnant, I'd be confused as hell for her telling me of all people, like I know it's not mine and I know I'm ugly but I'm not going to make a deal with you so you can try and sacrifice your baby to me, I'm ugly not a monster and if she's looking for advice or help, I'm sorry but I can't help and I have no advice to give except ask a doctor.
On another note if a girl told me I got her pregnant and said she was going to sue for child support I'd laugh because as pathetic as it sounds I would easily be able to say to the judge, I haven't had sex and there is no way the kid is mine and on that note I'd like to counter and Sue her for defamation and emotional damages.
None of that'll ever happen so I have nothing to worry about.
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