What whould you do if your ex girlfriend got pregnant?

[Anonymous]

For example if you broke up with a girlfriend and after a month or so, she call you and tell that she is pregnant from you. What would you do?

[Anonymous]

I'm dealing with this right now, I'm 17 pregnant and scared to death about what my ex's reaction will be. We broke up alittle over a ago but have messed around since then obviously. but don't talk at all anymore. I definately don't expect him to come back, yes I still love the guy but it's not mutual. and a relationship shouldn't be based off of having a child. it will not work! I'm waiting until my sonogram on Thursday because I know he is going to need visual proof. When I tell him I also want to make it clear that I don't expect him to come back, I just simply would like him to be there for me during the pregnancy and then if he can be a father to the baby. sure he is the daddy, but that doesn't make him a good father. If he can't handle it then fine, I can do it without him. Having a child is life changing and if the guy isn't ready for that change than he shouldn't be forced into it. Sure it seems unfair, because it seems like we were "forced into it" well I hate to say it but we're not. if you arnt ready to be a mother than abortion is what you need to do. Don't bring a baby into a world tat you arnt ready for yourself.

i've had a lot of time to sit and think about things, and sure I may be 17 but I will be a good mother, life is no longer about me, it is about my baby, and doing everything in my power to make he or she's life the best it can be. girls you need to know that if the guy you are with doesn't accept the pregnancy you CAN do it alone. Friends, family, even strangers will help you along the way. there is no such thing as being completely along during your pregnancy, there are doctors, and plenty of people that want you to do everything in your power to succeed and make the best out of this. Being pregnant is not the end of the world. YES it is hard, but it is not impossible

[Anonymous]

I think it depends on why you guys broke up. Sometimes people break up but don't want to for a lot different reasons. Or he really didn't want to be with you anymore. So if he still likes or loves you then he will be there to help and meybe go back. But you shouldn't go back with someone just because you are gonna have a baby together. It's going to be harder with a baby and you guys will probably end up breaking up again. You just have to talk about only the baby not about you and him, if you guys fight alot. That baby is the only person that matters now.

[Reeses-pieces777]

i would expect him to be responsible and come back to me.

if he doesn't, I'll just tell the baby his/ her father abandoned me.

i would definitely try to avoid the situation, but I personal opinion is that he should come back and be responsible, at least pay alimony if he doesn't love me. pregnancy is a huge thing for a girl, it's painful, changes you, you feel tired all the time-so w/e, just my opnion, others may have other opinions as well. I respect that.

[jacquesvol]

My secretary married because she was pregnant (she got knocked up at 18, a few months after she left her Catholic boarding school) She regretted it all her live, until her divorce, yeaars later.

[Reeses-pieces777]

Ok, shall I be more specific... if he loves me then I would consider having a rleationship with him. but he has the right to know at least.

[Shlei3]

I would be shocked at first and then think, wow how could I get her pregnant? I'm a chick! I hope Oprah calls me because we're going to make money. Then I would realize she's being crazy and remind her I'm a chick and can't impregnate anyone. Sorry, I'm in a goofy mood and couldn't resist.

[josie08]

HaHaHa, that was f***en funny.

[Anonymous]

I'd be shocked.

I'm a stickler for birth control, so I wouldn't have sex with a girl without using multiple birth control methods. In this age, there's essentially no excuse for unwanted or unexpected pregnancies. Most contraceptive failure comes from misuse, not from a problem with the contraceptive.

But hypothetically, here's my response:

I'd ask her if she slept with anyone else -- either before or after we broke up.

If she said anything other than a quick "no," I'd suspect she was lying. In fact, I'd suspect her of lying, period. But if she got offended, defensive, freaked out by my question, I'd suspect her even more.

I'd ask what she intended to do with the baby. I might have opinions about what she should do, but my opinions have no legal standing in America. It's her decision. But I hope she'd give a damn about my opinion.

If she decided to have the baby, I'd want testing to determine if the baby was mine.

If the baby was mine, I'd change my life to be a father to the baby, and I'd be as involved in its as possible.

[jacquesvol]

Merits a "best answer" (f)

[Limey]

Not much you can do.Im of the opinion that a guy should never state his opinion on orbortion to the girl. Just puts pressure on her one way or another. The decision is the girls alone. That certainly true in the legal sense. You just need to tell her you will stand by what ever decision she makes.

I certainly wouldn't get back together. Relationships normaly end for good reason. If you get bad together you risk a discult relationship, or worse it could end again, very badly, putting you on very bad terms with each other, when you need to stay friends, because she is the person you need to talk to when you want to see your child.

Oh, also id get ready to start writting some very expensive cheques (checks)

[jacquesvol]

The guy hasn't any right to put pressure the girl to have an abortion, but he has full right to express his opinion!!

[_Gerald_]

The guy should have the right to decide on birth control if he has to pay the money later.

[jacquesvol]

The guy HAS the right to decide on birth control: it's called a 'condom'. Never heard that word? https://justf***inggoogleit.com then

[dhb68]

The guy certainly has the right to express his opinion on the matter of abortion considering that the child is just as much his as it is the girls.

[NYStateofMind]

That really depends... Were you two planning on having children? Has he already expressed his wishes regarding having children? The biggest issue would be what does she want? It's her body and ultimately her decision. If she wants to keep it, what does she want from the guy? Money, marriage, emotional support, etc...?

[shevvon21]

I would be shocked. But if we broke up on terms other than cheating, then I would wanna know what she would do with the baby. SInce I'm a chick, I'm thinking in a REAL man's perspective. :-)

[jacquesvol]

I would know with 100% certainty the father is another guy.

I would use the Lords' Name in vain, multiple times (euphemism) and help her the best I can.

[just_tina]

Why would you think that its another guy? When that guy is probably the only guy she's slept with?

[jacquesvol]

I would know the baby is not MINE because I'd have used condoms. I don't say the baby is not yours.

[jacquesvol]

I lived through that, but we were on good terms and we both knew I couldn't be the father. I paid her abortion and helped (not enough)

[rdabby]

Condoms don't work 100% so YEAH you could be the father

[jacquesvol]

When a condom doesn't work you know it in time to use plan B

[Anonymous]

last girl I was with broke up with me and then told me she was pregnant... she wasn't. FML

[jacquesvol]

Be happy you broke up with that shrew and you're rid of her: imagine being married to that one!

[Anonymous]

Ask her if it's yours and if it is get ready for a butt load of hard work.

[Anonymous]

stay by her side through this all and then when the baby comes out do a dna test to prove it is urs for sure

[Littletad]

I'd assume responsibility.

[Anonymous]

I'd ask her to abort.

[katiebaby1230]

& probably get punched

[Opinion Owner]

Why would I get punched?

[aceofdiamond]

Most girls won't give up the baby. even if they think the father was a jerk she won't give up the baby.she will love it unconditionally. that's why most women give up their babies. they can't take care of the babies on their own so they give them to someone they know that can take care of the baby.

[Opinion Owner]

In the northeast, it is more common to abort than in Kentucky.

[jacquesvol]

Do you think so?

https://www.shortsshortsshorts.com/2009/12/10/map-day-abortion-the-bible-belt-just-loves-it/

[Opinion Owner]

And that just proves it.

[Kevin09]

leave the country