Have you ever been shocked by someone's "True Colors"?

[McMillanD]

Did you ever think you knew someone just to have them flip a switch and completely change? Either while dating/in a relationship or after.
What was your experience?

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[RingOfFire]

When I was a kid I spent my summers in a wilderness camp for boys where we lived in primitive conditions in tents for the summer in the wilderness.

We would take canoe trips through the wilderness to go camping and one time on a trip the canoe we used to hold our food turned over in rapids and all the food was washed away... in the middle of nowhere. So we had about 15 10 year old boys in the wild with two counselors who were maybe in their 20s.

I learned the most important lessons of my life on that trip. When push comes to shove EVERYONE has true colors underneath that would shock you. Most of the time we only see people who are putting on a façade, a pretense. It's a show for other people. That's what you see in the affluent world among people who don't have to fight for food or water or survival. It's a luxury. When you survival is at stake, or you think it is, you become an entirely different person. That's actually our natural state.

[ohshee]

No I can usually read people's true colors. But I can't read sometimes is the depth, and how far they take it. That's what shocks me

[razelove]

When I was younger this happened a few times. Like I had a manager that always had these really sweet and caring girlfriends, I asked him once how he pulled that off.

He said the girlfriend test. I ask what the girlfriend test is, and he explains that you tell a woman to make you a ham sandwich with ketchup, when she brings it back, take a bite, smack her and say "I asked for mustard bitch! Go back and make it right!" A girlfriend will go back and make it right. If they don't, what use are they to him?

Well, I didn't take his advice on that, but it did highlight that vinegar gets more flies than honey. Anyway, you have enough things that are completely unexpected like that happen, closer to you, more removed, and it just stops being surprising at some point.

I figure to some degree everyone wears a mask, some people to feel better about themselves, and some people so other people feel better around them. None of us are who we believe we are, and none of us are the person we present to the public. How different those two play out is the only real factor in play, not if.

[jennifer_bloom]

I had a best friend that I thought loved me dearly just as I loved her dearly and she ghosted me after 18 years of close friendship for not being as popular or as her and for not being as pretty as her cause when we were kids I was the good looking one but when we got older she looked better than me and stopped hanging out with me.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

More disappointed... At a time in my life when needed real friends, was hard to accept they were anything but.. But you live and learn and move on...🤷🏼‍♀️

[Anonymous]

Yes, with my childhood "best friend". We had been inseparable all through junior high and high school. After college, I was looking to buy a condo in our hometown. She actually convinced me to buy a bigger place in the nearest major city because then she would live with me and pay rent to help me afford it. The day before I was set to close escrow (which by the way, you can't back out of the purchase at this point), she "changed her mind" about moving in. I was so mad and so panicked, wondering how I was going to afford this without her.

I was talking to my cousin about what was going on, and she said, "Why are you still friends with her? She has screwed you over so many times throughout the years." I was so confused. I was like, "What do you mean? How? When?" And my cousin started rattling off all the things my "friend" had done, from stealing my prom date in high school to not paying me back for trips we had taken together. It was like a lightbulb went on. I was so blind to the kind of "friend" she really was. I had overlooked and had forgiven so many things, but having an outside person shine a light on these things gave me new perspective. My "friend" and I never spoke again after she left me high and dry.

[David92506]

My Mom came down with a life-ending illness so she wrote up a Revocable Living Trust to be split 50-50 between me and my brother. Her husband (my step-father) loved her and took care of her. The Revocable Living Trust would take place after his death. He was a very nice man.

Well, right before he died, he shredded the Revocable Living Trust and left everything to his niece. Since neither my brother nor I had a copy of the Trust there was nothing we could do. We were both shocked that he did this.

[paradiseonearth93]

Yeah since I’m a woman who dates guys I only have experiences dealing with men ((so I am not saying it’s just men here, no one attack me)) but it seems like many I’ve dated have this act in the beginning of getting to know you and are ever so so kind and want to know so much about you, (how nice! This guy is so cool! He’s so sweet! Aw! Considerate! Funny! He puts in effort, wow!) but once they land you suddenly they dgaf and “sorry busy day, oh maybe let me check my schedule, hey can we reschedule?” And that interest in getting to know you? Gone. And then they just do it again to another girl, and repeat. Like alright, what a shallow existence. It’s not surprising anymore because I’ve found this is who people are now. It’s pathetic.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Pretty rarely but yup. I was dating this guy for about 6 months. He takes me on a trip to his home country, where he completely loses it, has a mental breakdown, and ditches me several times because of 'the pressure.'

Now, I've always known him as relatively chill. Like stoner vibes with a guitar chill. But for those 3 weeks, he was angry, yelling, ungrateful, and pissed at the world. As soon as we got back to the US he was back to his normal chill self. But it was too surreal. I had seen another part of him and I was out.

[NotTacocaT6969]

Yes.


A girl I had been friends with for years who was abused, starved and mistreated.


She was a liar... none of it was true... all of the rumors about her were true.


She used me for my kindness and lied to me so I would protect her.

[Drumlin2001]

When I first met my ex we became friends, was a while before we got together. One of the things I had spoken about was my god-daughter and the struggles my friend had gone through with his ex securing access (had gone through courts, costing thousands). I thought ex was on the same page as me that kids should have an equal relationship with both parents and that courts should be avoided as it wastes money that would otherwise benefit the kids. Fastgorward to our relationship, due to a birth control failure we fell pregnant very early in our relationship. When she found out she ended relationship (as she's entitled too), but then almost immediately in first few weeks of pregnancy she starts talking about her having sole custody for at least 3 years, pretty much goading me to take it to court.
As it was it ended in a miscarriage, and she seemed surprised I didn't want anything more to do with her.

[Shivraj12s]

As all said that "yes" we faced and get hurted by true colors of people.
If everyone is getting hurted and faced true colors, then who are the people showing that colors , the answere is we ourself.
In our life we got hurted by someone intentionally and unintentionally and also we hurt someone intentionally and unintentionally
So i think i got less hurted and i have hurted many people by my color and i dont regret it coz i can't wait for the people to hurt me and then i changed
I was like this from the begging
I dont care
I have my theories of life

[AnthonyJ01]

I knew my now ex for 16 years before I married her. Eventually everything came apart. In her mind, she had to be in complete control, money, vehicles, bills. Eventually her true colors came out. Both my vehicles had to be with her kids 24/7, all money was spent, bills not paid, she cheated with an ex boyfriend who is a county deputy, her, her kids and mother constantly lied and ended up stealing and destroying my own property as well as my son's. NOBODY knew that side of her. Her true colors came out and nobody knew.

[lumberjack95]

Every time, at first it feels like we choose each other and seems like everything is fine, until that once perceived choice turns to value me only as an option and I get scrapped off her plate into the trash like cleaned bones from a meal without a second thought because something fun came around and I became old news.

[sunflower1403]

I think a lot of times, we oversee people and their true colours when we're in love with them and we really require a slap in the face moment to realize it. Quoting one of my favourite lines from Bojack Horseman, " When you look at someone with rose coloured glasses, all the red flags just look like flags"

I experienced this first hand with my previous relationship. Didn't see him for the person he truly was until I was done with him. And when I did see it, it was the most disappointing thing ever. Never saw him the same way again

[MrWolf]

I can hardly be shocked by anything to be honest but i do tell in advance to have in mind I ain't a nice person and the moment i had enough they will regret it! So I've seen the shock in their eyes a thousand times!

Nothing can surprise you as long as you don't expect anything!

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, there is a lot of shady people out there, my sister use to talk on
this chatline she would meet all these guys and they ended upcoming
to our house and house in, eat our food.. Then I met a girl of the chatline
we went to another City she drove very radical and played chicken with
this bus acted like she was going to run into the huge bus wow I was
so lucky I came home and made it alive and never again did we meet

[MannMitAntworten]

Yes. My first fiancé. She was the demon from the 11th flood of the 7th dimension of hell. It wasn’t till she convinced me to move that her true nature revealed itself. It even took her close friends, family, and co-workers by surprise. Vile creature I hope to never happen upon in another ever again.

[FilmGuy93]

Yeah, I have been. I'm not entirely sure what happened with my last ex, but she morphed into a totally different person once we were romantically involved. I have to believe that something happened to her after college, because I refuse to believe that the woman I considered a friend could be as mean and cold as she turned out to be.

[serious]

No. Never because as a person I am always observant, cautious and careful so I would always be thinking and anticipating that any person would have true colour and when I come to know I won't be surprised.

[DiegoO]

Yeah, my ex. I am not going into details. The only thing I know about her, is that I didn't know her, as much as I tought.

LDR ☝️👎. The positive side is that I realized how complicated and de deceitful, LDR are.

Is easier to take fresh air, and have a one night stand.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

After the last time, I don't think I'll ever be shocked again. Because now I expect it from people. So I'll probably be more shocked if it DOESN'T happen.