Have you ever been shocked by someone's "True Colors"?

[McMillanD]

Did you ever think you knew someone just to have them flip a switch and completely change? Either while dating/in a relationship or after.
What was your experience?

[RingOfFire]

When I was a kid I spent my summers in a wilderness camp for boys where we lived in primitive conditions in tents for the summer in the wilderness.

We would take canoe trips through the wilderness to go camping and one time on a trip the canoe we used to hold our food turned over in rapids and all the food was washed away... in the middle of nowhere. So we had about 15 10 year old boys in the wild with two counselors who were maybe in their 20s.

I learned the most important lessons of my life on that trip. When push comes to shove EVERYONE has true colors underneath that would shock you. Most of the time we only see people who are putting on a façade, a pretense. It's a show for other people. That's what you see in the affluent world among people who don't have to fight for food or water or survival. It's a luxury. When you survival is at stake, or you think it is, you become an entirely different person. That's actually our natural state.

[McMillanD]

That is very true.
How did it turn out? Did you all get back ok?

[RingOfFire]

It worked out, we all survived and made our way out on the canoes. But we went for 3 days with virtually no food and drank water from the streams and rivers which probably wasn't save.

Some of the kids had a few of those little boxes of cereal that they had on them and they buried them in the dirt to eat them when no one was around so no one would find them or know they had them. Other crazy stuff happened too. It reminds me of a famous old movie called "Lord of the Flies." (It was famous long before Lord of the Rings.) It's worth seeing. Thanks for asking. 😁

[RingOfFire]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UjApB6IiQKE

[McMillanD]

Ah yes!
I remember reading it for class one year. If I remember correctly they end up killing a kid by crushing him to death with a rock because he was caught stealing food.
I just recently started re-watching LOST, and something similar happens when they start to run out of food. It seems to me that as a whole, people tend to gang up on a few individuals as a way to find establish blame.
Reminds me of where we are as a society. Most of the time we care about the people who are close to us and we will do whatever we need to protect them, but when it comes to anyone else outside our circle it's an "Oh well, fuck them, as long as we are ok" mentality.

[RingOfFire]

I'm impressed by your wisdom.

Yes, I think that is the real nature of humans. We are tribal, competitive and combative. It's a product of millions of years of evolution. I can't say that it's all bad because if not for this, we probably wouldn't be here today. In a sense this is what it takes to survive. And those traits are just under the surface ready to come out in an instant if a society breaks down. It's a good lesson to learn.

[ohshee]

No I can usually read people's true colors. But I can't read sometimes is the depth, and how far they take it. That's what shocks me

[McMillanD]

That's a good answer.
Do you think there is a reason people take things too far?

[ohshee]

Yeah I think they're probably having a bad day they probably had a bad week that A bad month maybe it's just in time is all build up and then there becomes a moment in time where they just snap and I would say probably 5 out of 10 times they're good it's done it's over but then all it takes is one word, like I'm sorry or I apologize, and they lose all control because what you apologize you're saying that you were wrong and they just turn up the volume so you're damned if you do and your damned if you don't it also depends on the situation it's almost like a tick there's something inside that just explodes and they can't control themselves I've noticed since people being locked in the house or locking themselves in their house it's like they're all bottled up just waiting for that moment I try to tell people go out and walk get fresh air breathe in breathe out this too is only a moment in time it will pass get yourself back don't let this experience change you find yourself be yourself be the real you the happy you

[FelJa]

How are you able to read people's true colours, how do you usually tell if someone is really being geniune or if they really are a kind person, do you have any tips or taletell signs?

[razelove]

When I was younger this happened a few times. Like I had a manager that always had these really sweet and caring girlfriends, I asked him once how he pulled that off.

He said the girlfriend test. I ask what the girlfriend test is, and he explains that you tell a woman to make you a ham sandwich with ketchup, when she brings it back, take a bite, smack her and say "I asked for mustard bitch! Go back and make it right!" A girlfriend will go back and make it right. If they don't, what use are they to him?

Well, I didn't take his advice on that, but it did highlight that vinegar gets more flies than honey. Anyway, you have enough things that are completely unexpected like that happen, closer to you, more removed, and it just stops being surprising at some point.

I figure to some degree everyone wears a mask, some people to feel better about themselves, and some people so other people feel better around them. None of us are who we believe we are, and none of us are the person we present to the public. How different those two play out is the only real factor in play, not if.

[jennifer_bloom]

I had a best friend that I thought loved me dearly just as I loved her dearly and she ghosted me after 18 years of close friendship for not being as popular or as her and for not being as pretty as her cause when we were kids I was the good looking one but when we got older she looked better than me and stopped hanging out with me.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

More disappointed... At a time in my life when needed real friends, was hard to accept they were anything but.. But you live and learn and move on...🤷🏼‍♀️

[Anonymous]

Yes, with my childhood "best friend". We had been inseparable all through junior high and high school. After college, I was looking to buy a condo in our hometown. She actually convinced me to buy a bigger place in the nearest major city because then she would live with me and pay rent to help me afford it. The day before I was set to close escrow (which by the way, you can't back out of the purchase at this point), she "changed her mind" about moving in. I was so mad and so panicked, wondering how I was going to afford this without her.

I was talking to my cousin about what was going on, and she said, "Why are you still friends with her? She has screwed you over so many times throughout the years." I was so confused. I was like, "What do you mean? How? When?" And my cousin started rattling off all the things my "friend" had done, from stealing my prom date in high school to not paying me back for trips we had taken together. It was like a lightbulb went on. I was so blind to the kind of "friend" she really was. I had overlooked and had forgiven so many things, but having an outside person shine a light on these things gave me new perspective. My "friend" and I never spoke again after she left me high and dry.

[David92506]

My Mom came down with a life-ending illness so she wrote up a Revocable Living Trust to be split 50-50 between me and my brother. Her husband (my step-father) loved her and took care of her. The Revocable Living Trust would take place after his death. He was a very nice man.

Well, right before he died, he shredded the Revocable Living Trust and left everything to his niece. Since neither my brother nor I had a copy of the Trust there was nothing we could do. We were both shocked that he did this.

[McMillanD]

Omg, that is terrible.

[exitseven]

The woods are full of stories like this.

[paradiseonearth93]

Yeah since I’m a woman who dates guys I only have experiences dealing with men ((so I am not saying it’s just men here, no one attack me)) but it seems like many I’ve dated have this act in the beginning of getting to know you and are ever so so kind and want to know so much about you, (how nice! This guy is so cool! He’s so sweet! Aw! Considerate! Funny! He puts in effort, wow!) but once they land you suddenly they dgaf and “sorry busy day, oh maybe let me check my schedule, hey can we reschedule?” And that interest in getting to know you? Gone. And then they just do it again to another girl, and repeat. Like alright, what a shallow existence. It’s not surprising anymore because I’ve found this is who people are now. It’s pathetic.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Pretty rarely but yup. I was dating this guy for about 6 months. He takes me on a trip to his home country, where he completely loses it, has a mental breakdown, and ditches me several times because of 'the pressure.'

Now, I've always known him as relatively chill. Like stoner vibes with a guitar chill. But for those 3 weeks, he was angry, yelling, ungrateful, and pissed at the world. As soon as we got back to the US he was back to his normal chill self. But it was too surreal. I had seen another part of him and I was out.

[NotTacocaT6969]

Yes.


A girl I had been friends with for years who was abused, starved and mistreated.


She was a liar... none of it was true... all of the rumors about her were true.


She used me for my kindness and lied to me so I would protect her.

[McMillanD]

That's disgusting.

[Drumlin2001]

When I first met my ex we became friends, was a while before we got together. One of the things I had spoken about was my god-daughter and the struggles my friend had gone through with his ex securing access (had gone through courts, costing thousands). I thought ex was on the same page as me that kids should have an equal relationship with both parents and that courts should be avoided as it wastes money that would otherwise benefit the kids. Fastgorward to our relationship, due to a birth control failure we fell pregnant very early in our relationship. When she found out she ended relationship (as she's entitled too), but then almost immediately in first few weeks of pregnancy she starts talking about her having sole custody for at least 3 years, pretty much goading me to take it to court.
As it was it ended in a miscarriage, and she seemed surprised I didn't want anything more to do with her.

[Shivraj12s]

As all said that "yes" we faced and get hurted by true colors of people.
If everyone is getting hurted and faced true colors, then who are the people showing that colors , the answere is we ourself.
In our life we got hurted by someone intentionally and unintentionally and also we hurt someone intentionally and unintentionally
So i think i got less hurted and i have hurted many people by my color and i dont regret it coz i can't wait for the people to hurt me and then i changed
I was like this from the begging
I dont care
I have my theories of life

[AnthonyJ01]

I knew my now ex for 16 years before I married her. Eventually everything came apart. In her mind, she had to be in complete control, money, vehicles, bills. Eventually her true colors came out. Both my vehicles had to be with her kids 24/7, all money was spent, bills not paid, she cheated with an ex boyfriend who is a county deputy, her, her kids and mother constantly lied and ended up stealing and destroying my own property as well as my son's. NOBODY knew that side of her. Her true colors came out and nobody knew.

[lumberjack95]

Every time, at first it feels like we choose each other and seems like everything is fine, until that once perceived choice turns to value me only as an option and I get scrapped off her plate into the trash like cleaned bones from a meal without a second thought because something fun came around and I became old news.

[sunflower1403]

I think a lot of times, we oversee people and their true colours when we're in love with them and we really require a slap in the face moment to realize it. Quoting one of my favourite lines from Bojack Horseman, " When you look at someone with rose coloured glasses, all the red flags just look like flags"

I experienced this first hand with my previous relationship. Didn't see him for the person he truly was until I was done with him. And when I did see it, it was the most disappointing thing ever. Never saw him the same way again

[MrWolf]

I can hardly be shocked by anything to be honest but i do tell in advance to have in mind I ain't a nice person and the moment i had enough they will regret it! So I've seen the shock in their eyes a thousand times!

Nothing can surprise you as long as you don't expect anything!

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, there is a lot of shady people out there, my sister use to talk on
this chatline she would meet all these guys and they ended upcoming
to our house and house in, eat our food.. Then I met a girl of the chatline
we went to another City she drove very radical and played chicken with
this bus acted like she was going to run into the huge bus wow I was
so lucky I came home and made it alive and never again did we meet

[MannMitAntworten]

Yes. My first fiancé. She was the demon from the 11th flood of the 7th dimension of hell. It wasn’t till she convinced me to move that her true nature revealed itself. It even took her close friends, family, and co-workers by surprise. Vile creature I hope to never happen upon in another ever again.

[FilmGuy93]

Yeah, I have been. I'm not entirely sure what happened with my last ex, but she morphed into a totally different person once we were romantically involved. I have to believe that something happened to her after college, because I refuse to believe that the woman I considered a friend could be as mean and cold as she turned out to be.

[serious]

No. Never because as a person I am always observant, cautious and careful so I would always be thinking and anticipating that any person would have true colour and when I come to know I won't be surprised.

[DiegoO]

Yeah, my ex. I am not going into details. The only thing I know about her, is that I didn't know her, as much as I tought.

LDR ☝️👎. The positive side is that I realized how complicated and de deceitful, LDR are.

Is easier to take fresh air, and have a one night stand.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

After the last time, I don't think I'll ever be shocked again. Because now I expect it from people. So I'll probably be more shocked if it DOESN'T happen.

[egykimo]

Should be careful and never put high expectation about people

[FictionalCharacter]

Oh yeah, I’ve shocked a couple of users on here by my emotions.

[McMillanD]

It takes a big person to admit that.
And I wouldn't necessarily call changing emotions being 2 faced. You are allowed to feel how you feel.

[Coulis]

Yessssss! Finalizing divorce from my, albeit undiagnosed, closet narcissistic husband. He even exposed hinself trying to be nice agreeing I need time to "reconstruct" myself. Life wtf? Made a face like oh damn, Freudian slip.

[FreyaRed]

I've been never shocked. Somehow I have good intuition if it comes to people. I'm just sometimes upset that I don't hear on my intuition that much I should.

[hellohruu]

Oh yes. There was one girl who represented herself as kind and considerate but is very rude and curses a lot

[LiamSawyer]

Yes, I'veva person that had dual personalities kind of like Dr. Jekyll & Mr. Hyde.

By the way my fellow Canadian you're quite beautiful assuming that's you in the profile pic.

[msbrightness]

Most certainly,

My 'parents' and 'relatives' (it seems I was adopted or stolen) have been trying to set me up to fail, or worse, get my money and compensation after an accident, for years now.

Still trying to come to terms with that.

[loverdoser1]

It used to shock me, but not anymore... because, I know people have different sides.
I don’t expect good from no one.

[Anonymous]

Not really, because most of the time I had a gut feeling about them so whenever I had a gut feeling I would be careful about what I said and did around that person. Most of the time I was right only one time I wasn't.

[Jaximus-Lion]

None that i have dated, but i have met so many i lost counting. It's greed that makes them switch so quick

[Shihab91]

Not so far because im too picky when it comes to my friends

[McMillanD]

I think that's a good thing. You need to be careful who you let into your life and trust.

[Finchie40]

Nowadays all the time to be honest , Jekyll and Hyde shit

[SphynxUK]

No. I’m usually a good judge of character, so it’s unlikely to happen.

[Caliguy88]

I think more people I just met that seem great and then they pull some psycho stunt like say crazy stuff drunk or just don’t give back to your friendship. But nobody I’ve known a Long time.

[The_Outlaw]

I have, but I ignored the warning signs that were present at first. Can't say that I was shocked by the outcome. I knew what that would be from the beginning.

[GingerGuy]

Yes totally. Some are terrific actresses. They were in the wrong profession.

[slatyb]

No, they were always visible. I saw them but ignored them.

[AwanAlphaMale]

Yes. The entire female population. I thought they were nice beautiful exotic creatures until I discovered that they are gross fat feminists who will only have sex with normie Chads and refuse to accept a meme master NEET like me. They only wish to be dominated and conquered and don't appreciate nice guys😔😠

[paradiseonearth93]

Lol I hate chads

[AwanAlphaMale]

@paradiseonearth93 Really? Someday I will be the greatest Chad of them all but not a normie Chad, I intend to a meme master Chad who impregnates many beautiful blonde Aryan children. That way I can end my family's shitskin lineage and give rise to an army of blonde wizard children.

[AwanAlphaMale]

@paradiseonearth93 Do you feel my thoughts?

[paradiseonearth93]

No I think you have beautiful skin

[Somoneelse]

I was shocked the first time someone turned on me. Now I'm kinda used to it.

[Ally_007]

Friends doing it counts? If yes then it's become my side job which I don't even get paid for😕😐

[McMillanD]

They count. And sometimes they can be even worse.

[Ally_007]

So yes I've had many such experiences. I've been lucky in regards to relationship though but friends have been real backstabbers

[monkeynutts]

No not shocked, people just change there minds and adjust their behaviour accordingly. I don’t think it’s something new.

[SpaceGalaxy]

Yes, a few times actually. I still cannot believe it even though a few years have gone by. But , we are humans and were not made "perfect" by whoever made us

[Riddler1412]

No. Not really. Maybe in middle school. In highschool, and after, no.

[Minahh]

I'm currently starting to see this person's "true colors" and I'm disgusted

[paradiseonearth93]

Disgusted is a good word

[Powfu]

Omg yes my bff was a actual b*tchy :< she always tried to take advantage of me and gossiped behind me and stopped talking to me when I found out about her real face.

[Shy_Steve]

I haven't really been shocked about it but I have been angry about it.

[OddBeMe]

Never. I always suspect everyone is out mainly for themselves.

[EmotionOfFear]

I'm terrified of that happening with my girlfriend...

[Jersey2]

Umm, what?

[Jersey2]

Never mind...

[Waldoe]

a little surprised that I didn't see those colors before, never shocked

[anghellic6942]

No but I have been disappointed n angry with myself for not listening to my gut.

[Sabretooth]

racism from a family member i thought much better of and said interracial marriage went against god.

[Djaay]

And just how is that true?

[Sabretooth]

@Djaay it isn't... i just never expected to hear him say something like that.

[Anonymous]

Just about everybody I know has wound up doing something to surprise me in a bad way. I am no longer shocked at people's bad Deeds.

[Anonymous]

yeah I thought my mum was nice and realised her abusive side later on in life. Her family are seen as nice to 99% of people Very few know what they are like.

[Jersey2]

Yes, more often though it is more positive. I have met real snakes in the grass most of whom have been women.

[Browneye57]

Yes. I always thought women were pure and honest. LOL

[Djaay]

Doesn't that there say something more shocking about yourself tho. U should see how shocked they are when they acknowleged you knew all along.

[Imcmullan]

This can be very true but some people have a great ability to pull the wool over your eyes.. I had a boss like this only , I saw who he was quickly n no one believed me until it came down to their personal experience - understandably so. He was one of those people who can convince you he is on your side n that he really is kind but is faker than an American $6 bill.

[Djaay]

I like your reply. Little something to remember... When you speak to people don't just think first , think and feel (from the heart ) and talk straight before you speak . Always be honest when you speak... and even if they agree or disagree , at least your honest. People who try to be sheep in a wolfs clothing are lying to themselfs as well as others. Liars always end up in a snare with an honest person.

[KrakenAttackin]

I have seen this is women many times. Women show their true colours when life gets a little bit tough.

[Anonymous]

Just had that happen to me this week. Had a close friend fuck me over and we were close for over ten years

[Anonymous]

Oh yeah. This guy I went out with on a couple dates. I thought he was a nice guy and he turned out to be a douche.

[lsksni]

My childhood friend betrayed me. So, yeah.

[McMillanD]

How did they betray you?

[lsksni]

I trusted him with personal things. I told him those things as I wanted to share them. He used the opportunity, and told the stories to his other friends and his girlfriend to make himself the center of the atmosphere. He made fun of it, fun of me, just to get that little attention. I got to know this as someone had recorded him. It was painful.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Yes @unknowngaguser her hair color changes like every week not sure about what's her true color 😂

[Aakash_Hangargi]

@Unknowgagsuser