Can a guy cuddle and be physically close with a friend without developing feelings?

[maynatalia135]

My guy friend and I spoon when we sleep and he’s always physically close with me. I’m not sure how he is with other girls but he’s not like that with my other friend. He also stands really close to me and looks in my eyes. Is it possible for a guy to be this close to a girl without developing feelings? He’s asked me to hook up with him (I rejected) because I’m looking for a relationship and not a friends with benefits situation. Does it sound like he’s just interested in me sexually? If he is only interested in me sexually, why is he spooning me and doing those things

[RawIronhide]

So short answer is no. Really no one whose not emotionally stunted can make phisical contact for an extended period without developing an emotional connection. However some guys can loose intrest after sexual gratification. If you want a relationship then you should find someone to take it slow with. only after the initial dating phase do you engage sexually. A man who sticks around for a while before having sex is more likely to be relationship material, this behavior also fosters a healthy relationship where the guy is more invested.

[maynatalia135]

that’s actually one of the reasons I said no. I knew that some guys tend to lose interest after a girl sleeps with them. If I wanted any shot at a relationship, I knew I couldn’t sleep with him. We hung out for a month before he asked me to hook up and even after I said no, he respected it and cuddled me instead.

[RawIronhide]

That sounds good. It's important for you to be ready but understand there's no correct time frame. Generally I believe it's better for the female to set the pace in that regard.

[Puppystarfish23]

I only hug one of my male friends who is kinda my best friend besides my boyfriend. It's only a Christian side hug and he's more like a gay (straight) bff to me. I wouldn't snuggle, spoon or anything like that with him no way that would so awkward 😅. Sometimes my male friends have also hugged me because I have a medical condition were if I'm too cold i pass out so just to keep me warm to stop anything bad from happening but its never been in romantic way more I'm a protective or happy to see me manner.

I think this guy definitely looking for something more if my male friends tried spooning me I'd drop kick them. He clearly just interested in fucking you and that doesn't sound like something a friend with honest intentions would do

[Zelda_5]

He could just be platonically, and it sounds like, sexually attracted to you, but he likely is romantically attracted to you. It sounds like he definitely loves you, but there is not only romantic love.

[NoFuxGvn]

YES! 100%

I have had very few with the open mind I have, but there are women out there that want a friend girl that he can TRUST and be himself around without being with her! Guys always just want to have sex and all that. Some girls out there are just typically are cooler to hang out with and are slot more comfortable to be around than guys.. Most of them have friends and all that but I've been searching endlessly for this same type of person because sometimes being around the same girl 24/7 no matter how strong feelings are can become extremely TOXIC !!

[crazyish]

The spooning I can understand, I woke up to a few guy friends spooning me. Guys like to cuddle too. Who doesn't like human contact? But the standing really close while looking into your eyes screams feelings to me. That's not even a same gender friendship thing. He's definitely into you and more than just sex. That's going to be a tricky one to navigate. Especially when you do get a boyfriend.

[RACSKC0B]

Wait, did I miss something, because I doubt recall her saying she had a boyfriend.
And I can't really imagine a boyfriend not having a problem with another dude spooning with his girlfriend.

[crazyish]

No but she said she was looking for a relationship so I was referring to when she does get one.

[RACSKC0B]

OIC thank you for clarifying.

[The_Maphio]

You being friends already means that there are feeling among the two of you.
To begin a relationship you should see if there's more than just caring about the other. Your rejecting him when he demonstrated interest could have ruined the possibility, but you can never know. Maybe he's patient.

[Ironic_Method]

So this happened to me once and I still can't explain it. We were good friends, I could talk to her, she was very attractive, and we spent many nights cuddled up on her couch.

... yet I didn't feel any sexual attraction towards her and it really doesn't take much for me.

So yes, but it's rare.

[DocJones]

He at a minimum wants to have sex with you and sounds like he wants more. Maybe I read what you wrote the wrong way... you aren't interested in a relationship with him and put him in the friend zone? No straight guy is going to do what he does if they aren't into you.

[maynatalia135]

if he were to approach me and ask me out, I would say yes but I’m not sure if he wants that with me or if he just wants sex. I didn’t put him in the friend zone at all

[DocJones]

Oh ok then I don't know what his deal is. He seems to like you that's for sure.

[SashaAMB]

He wants to cuddle and he wants to have sex with you... but when you say no to sex he will still cuddle?

he loves you.

[Mofunfour20]

No because i wouldn't be that affectionate with someone id be unattracted to. Im cuddling because it shows intimacy and feeling

[ladsin]

this

[innerman]

He loves you
And he’s willing to go all the way...


Keep him, from what I read he smells like a husband. and you said a relationship is what you want.


if he’s never asked you out... you do it.. see how things go

[Anonymous]

When you sleep together, what are you wearing or not wearing? Does he have a boner when he spoons you?

[maynatalia135]

Few times where he didn’t have a shirt on but for the most part he usually has a shirt on. I’m always fully clothed. Last time, he moved from spooning me to laying on his back several times which I took as him hiding a boner.

[Opinion Owner]

He may be respecting the boundary which you established but hoping that you will get horny and cross the line.

He may also be fighting an internal conflict between maintaining his independence and "surrendering himself" to a committed relationship. How entrenched is he in avoiding a relationship?

And why do you sleep together if you don't have a sexual relationship?

[spartan55]

Girls are so dense sometimes... he already told you what he wants... right?

[JackofSpades]

Cuddling is just sex with your clothes on.

If he's anything like me he's into you and enjoys every minute he spends with you. But he's just not ready for, or can't/ won't commit to an LTR

[Anonymous]

The question is why are you spooning and cuddling him if you don't want to have sex with him or be his partner?

[maynatalia135]

I feel like I didn’t word my post correctly bc it seems like there are multiple people who interpreted my question wrong. I’m not into hook ups, so I rejected him asking me to have sex. If he asked me out and actually wanted a relationship, I would say yes. I didn’t put him in the friend zone or anything. I didn’t want to complicate things by hooking up with him that night.

[Dontaaa]

I'll believe it when I see it, I have yet to see it.

[TheSpaceGnome]

If it were me, feelings would already have to exist for me to be ok with that kind of touching.

[Anonymous]

Guy NEVER make time in their life for females that they are not sexually interest in... EVER.
Regardless of what simps and virtue signalling douches tell you.

[grega239]

If we're just friends there's no reason to touch me.

[tallcuck]

No, if he is a human. A psychopath will not have any feelings for sure. Others might feel 'close' ;)

[Leavesbound]

Perhaps but it ain't easy.

[mobiusforniner]

No, he is wanting poon

[Wise4myage]

That’s something I could never do.