For about a year now, I've been involved with an ex. I wanted nothing serious at first since I had just broke up with another ex. We would only hang out couple times a month, but he was always affectionate. We would cuddle for hours while watching movies and while we have sex he makes eye contact. Recently, he has been calling more...it has become more of a once a week thing then a twice a week thing. I notice while having sex he stares into my eyes more...i don't know if its just an egotisical thing and he wants to see my reaction. The thing about him is, we don't talk any other time during the week, only when he wants to meet up. Its like and on and off thing. I'm not going to lie at first, I was just using him as a booty call, but now I have developed feelings. He has many female friends and I see pictures of him with his arm around them. He might just be that kind of guy who can cuddle and have intimacy with no feelings...is that possible?
Can guys cuddle and make eye contact with no feelings?
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I do not know all the possible reasons. Here are my own:
I make eye contact. I want to understand her. Consistent and contextual body language is more telling than words.
I can cuddle without desiring it because it's a freely given gift to a girl that enjoys or needs it.
Thanks for the input. just a question....you cuddle for the girl"s needs? I"m asking that because....well I like cuddling but that's mostly all him...I would rather not...that is too initimate...welllllll that's how I caught feelings at least.
Yes, basically to let the girl know she's not alone. If I am already convinced I'm not alone, I don't need the cuddling for that or to make an emotional bond.
Contextual body language during sex really doesn't say much though...some people do it in the heat of the moment
Her reactions to when her hair is pulled, the look in her eyes when she gets slapped in the ass, the various contortions or bodily reactions to "teasing"--they all project bits of her personality.
No, I don't think that it's possible for anyone to get close to someone like that and not have feelings. Talk to him about how you're feeling - you'll probbably be pleasantly surprised by his affections for you.
That you guys cuddle shows that he wants to be close to you, and that he always looks you in the eyes shows how he's looking for that emotional connection. As your feelings for him have resurfaced, has the sex gotten better? Because if so, then start talking to him.
Thanks :) I don't know I thought I wasnt possible for people to get that close to someone like that as well until I seen how touchy he is with other girls.
He has feelings yes most likely that doesn't mean that he doesn't have feelings for other people as well I still love my ex probably always will. It was still unhealthy and I choose not to pursue those feelings other guys would rather just sleep around.
Thanks for the input....and I do agree with you. I was just confused because I established it as a bootycall call and he brought in all the intimacy...like cuddling and the intense eye contact...i thought guys who wanted bootycalls were okay with just that..guess not!
I guess they can but there is some sort of likeness already. If you really want to know if there is something more, notice the things he does outside sex. :)
Why talk when he knows just call and fuck you