What do you regret more: Thinking someone is flirting with you when they're not or failing to realize when someone really is flirting with you?

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

[Miristheiss]

Probably thinking they are flirting but they are not. That is implying that you make a move and flirt back and she shoots you down and you feel foolish.

The 2nd scenario you list implies you never know she was flirting. You'd be ignorant of it ever happening and you'd regret nothing because you never knew and never realized you had the chance to flirt back and see if it goes anywhere.

Now, if you mean you someone find out she was flirting and missed a chance then that regret would probably be worse.

[Anonymous]

I regret it all. I consider women a losing proposition. You always get less out than you put in. If you're not OK with that, then just remain single

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

Ouch.

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry man, it's hard for me to answer you question any other way. Because that is she flirting/ not flirting is just the beginning of the nonsense.
But one thing I've learned conclusively. No woman will EVER love you as much as you love them. If you're not OK with that. Then don't bother. Because if you don't know that going in you're going to learn it.

[Opinion Owner]

Like one woman said once. "She's not yours, it's just your turn".

[PointlessNonsenseGuy]

You sound a little bitter.

[Opinion Owner]

Nah. Bitter is if you believe fairy tales are true and are angry that they aren't.
I just liken women to a casino. They're fun, you can have a good time and enjoy yourself. You might even get ahead for a bit. But the casino always has an edge. Over a long enough timeline you will lose.

[DishLady]

An interesting question. Both are embarrassing, of course. No one likes to feel like they’ve missed the mark on a conversation. The one I would choose to regret would depend on the person I’m chatting with.

[NathanDavis]

I don't think either are a big deal at all... it is just flirting

[DrPepper12]

I admit to having been oblivious at times when someone was flirting with me. My now wife finds it hilarious that I don't or didn't catch on earlier in our relationship.

[TheorionMage]

BOTH... I've been embarrassed by the first and kicked myself for lack-of-awareness of the second :'(

[serious]

Failing to realize someone was flirting with me.

[CaptainOverthink]

First one.
Being wrong about someone seeming flirty with me.
Because it messes with my trust in my judgment.

[Hellur991]

Honestly I don't care either much. Sis I know I'm fine af

[RedInnocent69]

Definitely missing the signs and fumbling the opportunity.

[Anonymous]

Failing to realize when they are because now you lost out

[blueonblack22]

Probably failing to realize.

[GoGetitGio]

Failing to realize would be worse