I am dating a girl who is in love with me and wants to marry me. At the same time she wants to continue her affair with a married man. She tells she has always fantasized being the mistress and it helps her to crave her wild side. Also her sugar daddy pays her well. She is ok with open marriages and encourages me to do so also. Even she found a girl for me someone among her friend for casual encounters , for time she is busy. I know it fulfils every fantasy of a teenage boy 😜😆😆but in reality will it work... Any opinions?
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Bad idea. Don't marry a fluze. When a woman wants to sleep around, she is a fluze. They make great friends with benefits, but bad wives. That's just brutally honest.
Here is your first problem, if she is seeing other guys, while with you, your competing with guys unnecessarily. Before the sexual revolution hit, women are a kind of nesting caregiver type being. As she ages, she will seek out a nest (a home) and a caregiver that can provide. In the extreme we call it golddigging. But in reality it's called hypergamy. It's hardwired in her DNA. While young it's not a thing. Older she gets, it becomes a thing.
If your wife is checking in on other guys, and sharing them sexually, the chances if the guy wants her, has more, you get to experience a divorce. That just the way it works. That can still happen without the sharing and such, but it ups the percentage.
What is her sexual plate going to look like 10 to 20 years? Will she be inviting guys over for a quickie on the weekends? Are you going be having kids? Will you feel secure that they are yours? Are you comfortable if the kids are not yours, most family courts are going to judge that your the father, by being the husband. Paternal fraud is nothing new, but how do you feel upping those chances as well?
And are you comfortable having to let your wife sleep around to excite her sexual urges? Most guys want to be able to have all the cards. If she needs more to be able to have sex, is she really yours?
I will give you the short answer. If she is not making you her own, and you her own, forever and to the end of time, less a divorce, is she really still dating or ready to settle down. Right now, you kind of sound like an accessory. Like when women carry purses and small dogs around with them. You don't sound like her man. All these other guys don't want to wife her up. She just wants a husband. And also her other life too.
If I was your dad, and I bet I am old enough, I would tell you to go find a real woman. Don't waste your time and energy on a fluze. She is not yours. Go find a good partner that wants to put you as the priority of relationship.
You have to know already that this doesn't work. If you want to have an open "relationship"... I guess that's your choice. But it's absurd to use the word "marriage". An open marriage is not a marriage. It's a self contradicting term.
This girl doesn't love you man. Do what you gotta do... but be honest with yourself. That's not love. That's not marriage. That's just some chick you're sharing with a bunch of other dudes. Don't get attached.
The question you should be asking is if her married guy was no longer married, would she still want that open relationship with you? Or would she dump you if she could have the married guy all the time... I have never/nor would be in an open marriage... But I have a friend that her and her husband tried that... Now ask if they STILL married? 🤔🤷🏼♀️ While it might work for some, I think for the most part it doesn't... But if you do, I wouldn't marry this person. Just keep it as a relationship. That way if or when it doesn't work, you can just end the relationship versus having to go through a divorce...
They can work as long as everyone is honest and you follow rules you put in place ahead of time.
My problem is her being with a married man. If she's OK with lying about that I wouldn't trust her.
Not everyone could live an open lifestyle like that either. Some think they won't get jealous but do. I think it takes more work and trust to have an open marriage.
No one else's opinion on the subject really matters. Besides, with the median age and marriage experience on G@G, all you're getting are opinions based on who knows what.
A quick look up finds very conflicting information. One study says that "76% of open marriages are better or more successful than traditional ones", while another study says "up to 92% of them fail". Which to believe, or both?
Here's a stat that we know for SURE is correct however - the average length of a first marriage worldwide is about 12 years. In your country, India, 74% of all first marriages are pre-arranged. How long do they last?
Traditional arranged Marriages in india are considered holy... and like all holy things in this world they are made if not forced to last to infinity and beyond.. in our case lifetimes. Breaking the holy wow is considered sacrilege satanic or anti god and even believed to cause wrath of gods over the family. I am not sure about love marriages of present gen z people. Maybe you are correct in that bucket.
I think you are a weak man to be intellectually aware that there are 3.5 BILLION women on the planet... and you want to settle for this and think this is the best you can do.
@Srij23 then you're an idiot. If you maintain this "relationship", you are enabling her. You are acting like a simp, compromising your own dignity and self-respect for whatever deceptive 'treat' she has. She will not respect you or thank you for it. She belongs to the other guy; what would make you think that she was ever in love with you? Open your eyes, use the brain located in the head in which your eyes rest, cut yourself off from this toxic and unhealthy individual and her warped idea of a relationship before she drags you down to the pit into which her irresponsible behaviour will no doubt one day land her.
Open marriage aside she's seeing a married man. If his wife doesn't know or isn't ok with him having a side piece, than that says a lot about the character of this girl. You may want to reconsider, because consent from all parties in an open marriage is key. You can't be sneaking around.
It can work but it won't in your situation. Unless you love the idea and are ok with being a cuck for the rest of your life aka loser, it has no chance. Men are going to make fun of you to your face and behind your back. Girls will as well.
Now it can work if its one man and multiple women and the man is the one in charge of the situation. Or if the man is in charge and pimping the girl out. I've personally never seen it work where the woman is in charge and pushing for it.
I know of one couple who have an open relationship. They absolutely despise one another and that's why they look for comfort elsewhere. They stay because of the kids and blah blah blah. In my opinion, I don't believe they can work... it's just so much work!
If you're new to the lifestyle then paste plans for marriage. Live the lifestyle for a. little. wuile, viuole of years, see if it fits for you. Is it specifically this one guy she wants to keep seeing or would she see someone new if he stopped seeing her?
You're an idiot for buying into her bullshit. She is basically having you be beta bucks while fucking the man she actually has desire for and you're ok with it. There is no reason you should be committed to this woman, keep her as a friends with benefits and be single.
Are you retarded? Open marriage? Seriously guy quit playing around with important words. It's like asking if a condom made of air will work or... can I achieve my dreams while I'm asleep. No! but for reasons you apparently dont have the repertoire to calculate.
For you at this time no fucking way, you are not ready and/or may never be able to handle this like most men. I however love and need a wild bitch who will be a slut or a angel when and how she wants but only loves me and tells me everything and records her with men in secret and lets me watch and secretly records me alone watching her videos jerkin... dammit i already nut 3 times today.. im 40 and still like a teenager spraying sperm all over the godamm place and.. wtf? Its in my eye!!! Aahh
It fulfills every fantasy of a teenage boy, but are you a teenage boy? No? Then why the hell would you think it’d work? What you’re describing sounds like the mating system of promiscuity, which I don’t think ever works in nature. Polyandry, polygny, and monogamy have their roles dependent on societal structure, natural proclivity and economic factors, but I’m not aware of any species in which promiscuity more generally works. Much less any human society.
If she’s not ready to fully commit, either give her some time Tom mature more or move on and find someone new. You’ll only be asking for drama if you marry and let her continue her affair
I think you have to ask yourself that question. Can you accept your girlfriend, your future wife to be with another man? If you can't, then don't. For me, I can never accept an open relationship.
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They can work if you don't get jelly and don't mind the thought of dudes pounding her brains out, being better at sex than you, splooging on her face, eating her creamy desert, and coming home completely satisfied. Personally i think you'd have to be a little bit bi.
yuck bc koi aur tere bandhi ko chume fir wo terko chume aur indirectly tere muh me wo married aadmi ka thuk ,,,, chi behenchod gandagii hai ye sab, according to me if you love someone you would never think to share that person.
No, it won't work out. Just stay single and have your fling, but DO NOT marry. You are only going to get "taken for a ride" financially, never mind emotionally.
"Open marriage": the term is an oxymoron. The practice is tantamount to cheating and is immoral and ultimately self defeating. It starts off with selfishness and ends in futility, and in between are many unnecessary problems and complications.
Of course she wants it, she wants to have fun. Everybody knows women can get some whenever they want no matter what time of day it is. Men however are the exact opposite. If you're actually with this girl, I'd leave her now before you end up getting extremely hurt in the future.
Monogamous relationships are the only type of relationship I would ever be in. I only want to give my attention to one man and that's my future husband.
open marriage isn't for everyone. you have to trust each other full. you need talk about ground rules and what's acceptable. if your not ok with her choose to be with a married man than that's a hard no on your part.
It could work, but it's not for everyone. Some of the issues that come up is jealousy, maturity, honest communication, and the willingness to close the marriage if the open marriage just isn't working out.
One life lesson out there is that most people get the STD, before the test is administered. That really just let's everyone know it's time to get checked and try to stop passing it around.
a married woman who didn't have relations with her husband invited me to stay the night in her room once. She was dam hot. Just walked right up to me in a bar, knew she was the hottest woman in the bar.
Well, look at "closed" marriages, they have less than 50% rate of success so...
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Anonymous
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Fifteen years from now: "Kids, you'll need to fix yourself a sandwich for dinner tonight. I'm working late and Mom's going be fucking Harry 'til 11 o'clock."
I have only seen much older couples do okay with it. The couple has to look more like roommates, and staying together because of codependence. The marriages are really dead, and partners have a thing on the side to actually keep the codependence going.
She wasn’t too freaky until she met her new bi husbands. I also had a high school sweetheart for 3 years until after our 1st year of college she met her wifey from the lgbtq + and her wifey Finally got my high school sweetheart out of the closet. Then after college I met my now ex wife. Don’t understand why members of lgbtq plus members always have to steal my women then got them convince to join their ranks / kind 😐
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