Keep the cats, and have Jane hit the road. Seriously speaking, the only time I would give my pet away is if I couldn't provide for them, but that's about it. You're trying your very best to accommodate her and many people are allergic to cats, yet they still make it work with people who have them. If she hasn't complained and you clean you're very best then.. all is golden. If she says choose... always choose your pets, haha!
Sorry 🤷♀️ Not getting rid of my pets, lol. I'm not the type to take responsibility for living things and make commitments I can't honor. If they're allergic we can work around it, but I'm not getting rid of my pets whom I love and depend on me.
Nope I would simply meet up at her place. If I had cats they would be the same responsibility you have to kids. They go before any relationship. The woman needs to accept them as a part of my life.
They make allergy medications for a reason. I hate to be so blunt but honestly I would never get rid of my cats for a person because when you adopt them you don't adopt them just to get rid of them because of the person or you want to move into a place and they don't accept cats or anything like that. When you get a cat if you are taking on a little furry life for 15 to 20 years and I don't see why she can't try to take a simple allergy medication that's over the counter so you can keep your cats. If she really cares about you she should at least give it a try in my opinion.
@graygirl I will certainly talk to her about those options because I DON'T want to get rid of the cats, but she is Chinese and averse to much of our Western medicine.
As I have gotten older, younger women have not lost their appeal, but older women have become attractive to me also. My girlfriend is 57 years old, from China, and cute!
Unless her allergies are terrible suggest for her to take an antihistamine pill before she visits & get yourself some good air purifiers. Very simple solution.
I think it's sad to have to give your pets away, my suggestion is to talk to the girlfriend about getting on allergy medication , there is bound to be a way she can take allergy shots or even medication by mouth?
No, if you are allergic then it's a sign from the Gods that we are not meant to be. Would you get rid of your child because someone can't be around them, I think not. You can go, send in next applicant.
No way she new when you started your relationship, plus the cat's hair & dander would be on your clothes regardless how clean you are. So how severe is her allergies? Just my opinion ✌️
I’d ask if we could set up some per houses in the yard wear I could feed them and have them be outdoor cats though I’m not much of a cat person I prefer dogs and like I spent my whole life around them owning them volunteering at shelters helping friends with theirs so if the girl didn’t like dogs/was allergic to them to an extent where I couldn’t just have them be mainly outside and groom them very well it’d just be a deal breaker in that sense it’s not that I particularly wouldn’t love her more than the dogs it’d just be well I probably wouldn’t love her in the first place if she wasn’t fine with dogs
Would you like my honest opinion, sir? As your friend, I don't think that you should give up your pets arbitrarily for any woman (even if you truly believe that you are in love with her.) I think you should ask her to make a concession on her part as well. I would feel more comfortable if she had some skin in the game.
She lives 80 miles from me. She is talking about selling her house, changing jobs, and moving to my hometown so we can be together. She DOES have skin in the game.
Damn that's rough, how long have you had the cats? Are they family members? If you truly think this girl is the one then I would sacrifice, but any shred of doubt, any microscopic doubt cats stay.
Well let me put myself in your shoes and be honest. Okay I will do it, but I will expect her to be grateful, because pets is something we love. So she should understand.
Keep benadryl on hand.. I wouldn't give up my animals for a man thankfully I dont have to they are like my kids there's for me when everyone else leaves!
I have a dog that is very important to me. The vet diagnosis her with PTSD after I became ill and had to leave her for a week to go into hospital. We are both working on her anxiety levels and it’s getting better. But she can’t be away from me for more than a few hours before her behaviour shifts up a gear. Some pets can have strong feelings... while others can be indifferent ( just as long as they are fed on time lol 😂)
Tell her to take allergy medicine. I have pretty bad allergies to cats and I have one, I just take a pill first thing in the morning and throughout the day if I need to.
No offense but what if your girlfriend leaves you and you are left with nothing but a guilty conscience for getting rid of your fur babies. Is she going to move in there or just comes over for date night
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Keep the cats, and have Jane hit the road. Seriously speaking, the only time I would give my pet away is if I couldn't provide for them, but that's about it. You're trying your very best to accommodate her and many people are allergic to cats, yet they still make it work with people who have them. If she hasn't complained and you clean you're very best then.. all is golden. If she says choose... always choose your pets, haha!
Sorry 🤷♀️
Not getting rid of my pets, lol. I'm not the type to take responsibility for living things and make commitments I can't honor. If they're allergic we can work around it, but I'm not getting rid of my pets whom I love and depend on me.
Nope I would simply meet up at her place. If I had cats they would be the same responsibility you have to kids. They go before any relationship. The woman needs to accept them as a part of my life.
They make allergy medications for a reason. I hate to be so blunt but honestly I would never get rid of my cats for a person because when you adopt them you don't adopt them just to get rid of them because of the person or you want to move into a place and they don't accept cats or anything like that. When you get a cat if you are taking on a little furry life for 15 to 20 years and I don't see why she can't try to take a simple allergy medication that's over the counter so you can keep your cats. If she really cares about you she should at least give it a try in my opinion.
Or you guys could live separately until the cats die. Then just don't get any more cats.
@Jamie05rhs The cats are 2½ and 3 years old.
@graygirl I will certainly talk to her about those options because I DON'T want to get rid of the cats, but she is Chinese and averse to much of our Western medicine.
Tough call, but on a side note how does someone your age still find women your age attractive? lol I will never get that.
Yes, you will get it when you are my age. People my age still want love and sex and a relationship.
Yeah I get that but wouldn't you want to date younger women though and not around your age? Isn't that why so many older men are with younger women?
When I was your age, I had the same questions!
As I have gotten older, younger women have not lost their appeal, but older women have become attractive to me also. My girlfriend is 57 years old, from China, and cute!
Well you are older and wiser so I will not question you anymore.
6 months? A thimble's worth of time.
Unless her allergies are terrible suggest for her to take an antihistamine pill before she visits & get yourself some good air purifiers. Very simple solution.
I think it's sad to have to give your pets away, my suggestion is to talk to the girlfriend about getting on allergy medication , there is bound to be a way she can take allergy shots or even medication by mouth?
No, if you are allergic then it's a sign from the Gods that we are not meant to be. Would you get rid of your child because someone can't be around them, I think not. You can go, send in next applicant.
No way she new when you started your relationship, plus the cat's hair & dander would be on your clothes regardless how clean you are. So how severe is her allergies? Just my opinion ✌️
I’d ask if we could set up some per houses in the yard wear I could feed them and have them be outdoor cats though I’m not much of a cat person I prefer dogs and like I spent my whole life around them owning them volunteering at shelters helping friends with theirs so if the girl didn’t like dogs/was allergic to them to an extent where I couldn’t just have them be mainly outside and groom them very well it’d just be a deal breaker in that sense it’s not that I particularly wouldn’t love her more than the dogs it’d just be well I probably wouldn’t love her in the first place if she wasn’t fine with dogs
Wow! This means things are getting serious!
Would you like my honest opinion, sir? As your friend, I don't think that you should give up your pets arbitrarily for any woman (even if you truly believe that you are in love with her.)
I think you should ask her to make a concession on her part as well. I would feel more comfortable if she had some skin in the game.
She lives 80 miles from me. She is talking about selling her house, changing jobs, and moving to my hometown so we can be together. She DOES have skin in the game.
Okay. Fair enough.
@OlderAndWiser some people becomes amuune to allergies
Damn that's rough, how long have you had the cats? Are they family members?
If you truly think this girl is the one then I would sacrifice, but any shred of doubt, any microscopic doubt cats stay.
Well let me put myself in your shoes and be honest. Okay I will do it, but I will expect her to be grateful, because pets is something we love. So she should understand.
No, I wouldn't.
It would be very difficult for me to leave them.
I'd probably get someone in my family to take them in. So i could still see them and if something goes wrong I can be like gimme my cats back 😆
Id do that too. 6 months is not long term fyi.
Keep benadryl on hand.. I wouldn't give up my animals for a man thankfully I dont have to they are like my kids there's for me when everyone else leaves!
I have a dog that is very important to me. The vet diagnosis her with PTSD after I became ill and had to leave her for a week to go into hospital. We are both working on her anxiety levels and it’s getting better. But she can’t be away from me for more than a few hours before her behaviour shifts up a gear. Some pets can have strong feelings... while others can be indifferent ( just as long as they are fed on time lol 😂)
Tell her to take allergy medicine. I have pretty bad allergies to cats and I have one, I just take a pill first thing in the morning and throughout the day if I need to.
Never , if you raised a pet especially cats and dogs. They will get depressed when you leave them to someone else
Noooooooooooooo! You’re giving up the wrong pussy! 😞
No offense but what if your girlfriend leaves you and you are left with nothing but a guilty conscience for getting rid of your fur babies. Is she going to move in there or just comes over for date night
We are at the point of talking about living together.
Damn, well my mother suddenly had issue with our cats after we moved into a new house so they became garage and patio cats 🙄
one of these cats is declawed on the front and should not be put outdoors.
Good luck whatever you do i know it must be tough, someone might take em in i had a lady take my old black cat named boo and gave her a good home
Yes, I won't just "get rid of them." I am looking for a good home where they can stay together, since they are bonded, and where they will be loved.