Long distance relationship, is he worth the wait?

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I'm in a long distance relationship my boyfriend is in Pennsylvania and I am in texas. we have a lot in common and the same mind set on most things. i heard some stories that long distance don't really work also some that was great!!! We are going to be seniors next year and graduating#2022!!! He always text me goodnight and morning text every day. he even tells me he loves me and never meet a girl like me before. he wants to meet me in person on day and move in together. he even told his parents about me and his parents like me a lot. we speak on the phone every single day!!! We was on the phone one time for 16hours!!! We are both 17 I'm a few months older than him and love him. we only been dating for a week but feel like a month or two. Is he worth the wait? And did god bring him into my life as my soulmate?

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

OK, you're really young and this sounds like your first "relationship."

But, the point is, and this is a solid point, you never know a person until you're with them, in person for a long time and regularly. Talking on the phone does not and cannot replace in-person time.

Enjoy what you can about this relationship, but don't expect it to take the place of a real dating relationship where you see and interact with the person by going to different places, visiting them at their home and vice versa, eating meals together, watching a movie together at home or at the theatre; biking, walking.

Studies show that you get 7 percent of your information about a person from talking/verbally. The other 93 percent you learn from being in that person's physical presence and regularly interacting with them.

You can enjoy what you can about this LD relationship, but don't bank on it being anything other than temporary and unlikely to go further. Look for people you can be with in all ways. Good luck.

kyleelyn199723 · Accepted Answer

I think both of you are very young and honestly I think it won’t necessarily work out only because you both are entering into the real world next year. You haven’t actually started life yet and I’m telling you, my mind from the age of 18 of what my pathway was going to be changed and I am 23. It may change again for me. I think unless if you two don’t arrange plans to devote your lives to moving closer to each other , it won’t work. But please girl, do not make a guy a priority at your age. Focus on what you are doing after high school and set a successful pathway for yourself.

Jamie05rhs · Accepted Answer

I don't think there's anything wrong with that. I think it's really cute! I wish you nothing but the best of luck. 🥰

Here's my advice: Sometime this year, plan to meet up with him (WITH PARENTS PRESENT.). Spend at least a day together. That way you will know whether you get along in person.

Then, if you want to, arrange to go to the same college (but ONLY if they offer the majors you both want and if it's a college you would have seen yourself going to anyway were he not in the picture.)

Then next: Very Important: Date each other in college. Be boyfriend and girlfriend. BUT... if it doesn't work out, move on. You are not "stuck" to him.
(But I hope it does work out!!)

CentralPerk77 · Accepted Answer

Ok - we have to address the teenage elephant in the room. You said both that you love him and that you have only been dating for a week. One day you will understand (I hope) that, it’s a good feeling clearly, but this probably isn’t “love”. This said… I guess my other negative news is - no, you’re seventeen, you have sooo much life ahead of you. Don’t wait for this guy… he might be awesome but … you have some of the coolest years of life coming very soon ahead of you, ones where you typically a lot of people, and you don’t wanna miss out orrrr keep waiting in the event you two go to different colleges. I assume you have video chatted / can confirm he is who he says he is.

Paris13 · Answer

This is a Stone's Throw compared to Mine----Out in The UK. They are Well Worth waiting for if the relationship can Flourish and Grow. Hang in there. Open Lines of Communication and Making the Effort!!! Begin IT. Good Luck. xxoo

JuliaStyles · Answer

Can't be a good thing if you spend every waking moment talking to him. 16 hours? That is extreme. You can't be dating when you are far apart. That is more like a pen pal. Most LDR don't work well. He could very well have a girlfriend already for all you know and I'm sure if he did he would not tell you. Basically you are in the dark here. But only you know if he's worth the wait. The thing is don't regret not dating people in your own town for now. You never know, you may find your soul mate closer at hand. But you will never know if you are holding out for someone you can't even date. So go ahead and date others. If something is meant to be he will still be there.

Anonymous · Answer

Started dating my boyfriend 5 years ago. We were in a LDR for 4 years and last year before covid I finally moved to his town. I was 15 when we started dating. On my 16th birthday we met each other and that's when I fully realized what I had gotten myself into. Not only was I now sure I loved him, but I knew it was going to be hard. It was. But we both agreed to fight through it no matter what.

People keep saying you can't be sure it is love so early on. But there's still a chance it is love. My boyfriend told me he loved me the day after we started dating. He was so sure of it. But I still think you need to meet him before you can say for sure.

There is no correct answer other than: do what you feel is right. Because no one can really say for sure if it's a waste of time. But please try to just meet up once or twice before you decide to move or change your life entirely to suit the relationship.

FictionalCharacter · Answer

Well that’s good he told his parents about you. Compared to me 😅 where guys in their 20/30s kept me a secret.

Kari23 · Answer

I’ve had one before and I visited him twice. You don’t really know someone until you meet them irl. Just be cautious and don’t expect too much rn until you meet up and see what he’s like irl. My ex and I are still friends after all that but I myself won’t do long distance again.

lrichl · Answer

I can't give you a direct answer. But I will tell you that I've fallen for someone over the internet, and she liked me back, but its will never work out. Its not worth the wait.

VanillaSalt · Answer

Who knows you’re the one who determines someone’s value to YOU. But ide argue long distance relationships rarely work out if not closed with physical contact within a few months.

BUNroaster · Answer

Um I mean your relationship seems decent but basic. I'd not hold out for it. There's a lot more out there and closer to you but don't hold yourself to someone like that unless it's like you absolutely can't handle a thought of anyone else

boombastik · Answer

I think only you can answer this. Look inside your heart see if this is the person of your dreams or if he is just putting in a show? Does he feel like home? Ask yourself these things

spartan55 · Answer

You don't even know the guy. Meet him in person and reserve expectations until then.

Pterodon · Answer

You haven’t been together long enough to be in love. Relationships on the phone are quite different than real in person relationships. If you’re happy then keep talking. Only time will tell

In_Trance · Answer

Ridiculous

Anonymous · Answer

I wanted for my girl for like 3 months. ... i thought she was worth it... the the bitch wanted kids after it was already dicussed that i got fix before we got married...

Dinklex3 · Answer

Hun, it's only been a week. As @prettyboy57886 stated, at least date for a couple of months.

prettyboy57886 · Answer

Date for few months and then decide

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

No your young live your life

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

Since u r under 18 .. I think u can afford to wait

Anonymous · Answer

Why didn't you ask that are you worth it!

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