He is a good man. A discipline man with principle in life. He is teaching u to be true to your own words.. "Lend me some money." .. That also mean ".. i am going to pay it back, i promise". By not paying back, u are not being true your own words. Meaning u are not a dependable person OR a liar.. u don't what such attitude to be followed by your children (to be) and obviously he don't want it as well.
He works hard for his money i imagine and he is already the one spending more in the relationship. It seems fair to return the borrowed money since he is already spending a lit on you. If it really bothers you, instead of asking to borrow money sometimes just ask for cash. Literally say you want some cash and you don't want to have to pay him back. He'll probably just say fine and hive you some cash, as long as it isn't to often.
If you ask to borrow money, the expectation is that you pay it back as that is what the word means. Just because your boyfriend makes more money than you doesn't mean that losing $50 near and there means nothing to him. Its still his money which he earns and you have no entitlement to it.
Sounds like you should be asking for the money straight up to keep. Personally, I don't think you should be doing this unless you are in a super tricky financial situation, but if you must, tell him straight up if he can give you money. If he says no, fair enough it's his.
You are factoring in your relationship when it comes to borrowing the money instead of treating it like a regular business transaction. It's not a path you want to go down unless you want to actually put a dollar value on the services and time you bring to the relationship. I would hope it's no where near the 20 or 40 dollar range.
The guys aren't gonna go easy on you lol , you should have appointed this towards only girls answer , but he is your boyfriend. Not your husband or fiance not even your baby daddy. How about you try paying for dates here and there too , and pay him back when he asks because all he is , is a boyfriend now if he was something more that would be another story. Also dont “borrow” his money, thats not okay , better yet you should wanna get your own things and stuff because later on he can just throw it in your face that you owe him a huge sum of money for all the times he let you borrow money.
I don't know, I feel like if someone lets you borrow money and they want you to pay it back, you should respect that. At least that's what my parents make me do. Whenever I want something that isn't a necessity or something that is like art supplies or something, I always have to pay for it. I don't know how it is with boyfriends though.
It’s his money, and you asked to borrow it, borrowing means you will return it. If you are looking for him to just give you money than maybe you should say that? Also, if he asked to borrow like $10 would you expect him to pay jt back?
He is cheap. I really can't stand such people because I am the complete opposite. I really enjoy giving money to others and I really feel joy when I spend money on others even though I don't make much.
I don't get people who don't and I don't really want them around.
What about him though, does he borrow money from you? Do you take the money when he returns it? If you don't take it then it is unfair, if you do take it, it is not. How are you as a person?
So... you ask someone if they can LEND you money that you BORROWED and then get mad that you have to pay it back? Another one who sees a boyfriend as a free ATM machine smdh...
Well, I lend money to people all the time and never ask it back I have lend money to my previous boyfriend and never asked for it. In return he did the groceries. Why is that wrong?
This is weird. Why do you keep borrowing money from him if you’re annoyed that he’ll ask you to pay him back? You’re borrowing it, not taking it. Either ask if you can just have the money or just ask someone else for the money.
$500? She said 5x so I expect she's making minimum wage and he's in six figures. But if I were him it would piss me off. If we were living together I would probably cover all the household expenses and entertainment. If she were barely making end meet and we were dating for a while, I might start helping her out.
I'm this way if I had a good girlfriend, I wouldn't mind giving her small amounts of money and no I wouldn't expect her to pay me back, I think a girl should come first but now if we had a baby together, of course, our baby would come first then she would come next but I would always come last cause that's the type guy I am
Well you should pay it back, I mean you borrowed it, it's only fair besides you don't want him to think of you as a scammer or worse his girl for hire so I would pay it back send the message that you ain't no lady of the night he can get it for free
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Be pissed off.
You are "borrowing" money with the intention of possibly not having to pay it back i. e. you are looking for free money. Instead of trying to get handouts under the guise of borrowing, ask for the handout directly; that way he can decide whether or not he wants to give you the money for good.
Your boyfriend isn't your wallet, and his money isn't yours. You're acting like a spoiled kid who wants him to give you everything anytime you ask. That's what pisses you off, that he doesn't just empty his account anytime you ask.
I'm sorry, but I am on his side. When I borrow someone something I expect it back. Your "let it slide" will start off at $20, then slowly creep up to bigger and bigger amounts. Also you should watch your budget if you can't afford to pay off your debt. Adjust your lifestyle to fit your budget.
He is right about taking it back, because you are not his wife. He is a sensible person. He knows that if he gives too much, he can never take / claim it back at time of breakup.
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He is a good man.
A discipline man with principle in life.
He is teaching u to be true to your own words..
"Lend me some money."
.. That also mean ".. i am going to pay it back, i promise".
By not paying back, u are not being true your own words.
Meaning u are not a dependable person OR a liar..
u don't what such attitude to be followed by your children (to be) and obviously he don't want it as well.
*u don't want such attitude
He works hard for his money i imagine and he is already the one spending more in the relationship. It seems fair to return the borrowed money since he is already spending a lit on you. If it really bothers you, instead of asking to borrow money sometimes just ask for cash. Literally say you want some cash and you don't want to have to pay him back. He'll probably just say fine and hive you some cash, as long as it isn't to often.
If you ask to borrow money, the expectation is that you pay it back as that is what the word means. Just because your boyfriend makes more money than you doesn't mean that losing $50 near and there means nothing to him. Its still his money which he earns and you have no entitlement to it.
Sounds like you should be asking for the money straight up to keep. Personally, I don't think you should be doing this unless you are in a super tricky financial situation, but if you must, tell him straight up if he can give you money. If he says no, fair enough it's his.
You are factoring in your relationship when it comes to borrowing the money instead of treating it like a regular business transaction. It's not a path you want to go down unless you want to actually put a dollar value on the services and time you bring to the relationship. I would hope it's no where near the 20 or 40 dollar range.
Would be hilarious if she tried to charge him for services and he only valued her services at dollar Value Meal levels.
Right if he values it at all
an easy fix is to stop borrowing. if you want a hand out from him, dont ask to borrow but instead ask him to give/gift it.
this is another reason for "say what you mean, mean what you say"
The guys aren't gonna go easy on you lol , you should have appointed this towards only girls answer , but he is your boyfriend. Not your husband or fiance not even your baby daddy. How about you try paying for dates here and there too , and pay him back when he asks because all he is , is a boyfriend now if he was something more that would be another story. Also dont “borrow” his money, thats not okay , better yet you should wanna get your own things and stuff because later on he can just throw it in your face that you owe him a huge sum of money for all the times he let you borrow money.
I don't know, I feel like if someone lets you borrow money and they want you to pay it back, you should respect that. At least that's what my parents make me do. Whenever I want something that isn't a necessity or something that is like art supplies or something, I always have to pay for it. I don't know how it is with boyfriends though.
It’s his money, and you asked to borrow it, borrowing means you will return it. If you are looking for him to just give you money than maybe you should say that? Also, if he asked to borrow like $10 would you expect him to pay jt back?
He is cheap. I really can't stand such people because I am the complete opposite. I really enjoy giving money to others and I really feel joy when I spend money on others even though I don't make much.
I don't get people who don't and I don't really want them around.
What about him though, does he borrow money from you? Do you take the money when he returns it? If you don't take it then it is unfair, if you do take it, it is not. How are you as a person?
So... you ask someone if they can LEND you money that you BORROWED and then get mad that you have to pay it back? Another one who sees a boyfriend as a free ATM machine smdh...
How can someone be so dumb...
Well, I lend money to people all the time and never ask it back I have lend money to my previous boyfriend and never asked for it. In return he did the groceries. Why is that wrong?
@SlavBoi Don't bother mate, I have already tried.
This is weird. Why do you keep borrowing money from him if you’re annoyed that he’ll ask you to pay him back? You’re borrowing it, not taking it. Either ask if you can just have the money or just ask someone else for the money.
I've got the same problem with the folks at American Express... for some odd reason, they want their money back at the end of every month.
Honesty @admles already said all that needed to be said.
So much this
I don't know how much he makes so my answer comes from 2 different povs...
If he is making $500 more than you. I would say that a $20 or $50 is a small amount.
If he is making a $150 dollars more than you.. its not that small.
What is small to some is a lot to someone else.
$500? She said 5x so I expect she's making minimum wage and he's in six figures. But if I were him it would piss me off. If we were living together I would probably cover all the household expenses and entertainment. If she were barely making end meet and we were dating for a while, I might start helping her out.
I'm this way if I had a good girlfriend, I wouldn't mind giving her small amounts of money and no I wouldn't expect her to pay me back, I think a girl should come first but now if we had a baby together, of course, our baby would come first then she would come next but I would always come last cause that's the type guy I am
Well you should pay it back, I mean you borrowed it, it's only fair besides you don't want him to think of you as a scammer or worse his girl for hire so I would pay it back send the message that you ain't no lady of the night he can get it for free
Be pissed off.
You are "borrowing" money with the intention of possibly not having to pay it back i. e. you are looking for free money. Instead of trying to get handouts under the guise of borrowing, ask for the handout directly; that way he can decide whether or not he wants to give you the money for good.
Your boyfriend isn't your wallet, and his money isn't yours. You're acting like a spoiled kid who wants him to give you everything anytime you ask.
That's what pisses you off, that he doesn't just empty his account anytime you ask.
I'm sorry, but I am on his side. When I borrow someone something I expect it back. Your "let it slide" will start off at $20, then slowly creep up to bigger and bigger amounts. Also you should watch your budget if you can't afford to pay off your debt. Adjust your lifestyle to fit your budget.
He is right about taking it back, because you are not his wife. He is a sensible person. He knows that if he gives too much, he can never take / claim it back at time of breakup.
If you "borrow", you must return. Period.
When you say borrow that means you pay it back at some point.
If it's a loan, you should pay it back no matter the amount. His attitude seems very reasonable.