Is it wrong to hookup with your friends ex wife if they're about to be married to someone else?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

[OlderAndWiser]

Why don't you ask your friend how he feels about it?

[Anonymous]

If this is you and not some hypothetical question, you are allowed to hook up with an unmarried person if you are unmarried yourself. If the friend has an issue with it, that's on them because you can't just claim somebody for life when you have CLEARLY moved on to other people and are getting married. I mean, even if they weren't getting married, the same would be true.

[Xylem1992]

Allowed? by who? the law? of course it's allowed. that's not the point. The issue is ethical. It's not about if the friend has moved on or not. It's a dick move for everyone involved.

[Opinion Owner]

@Xylem1992 So let me ask you this point blank, if this were you, and you were on the way down the aisle to presumably your now happily ever after with your new bride, what exactly is your rationale that your friend cannot hookup with your ex? If you are getting married and all and you are now happy and well moved on, what justification can you have for him now not being able to sleep with an ex?

Any answer you give other than have at it man, would seem like to me you are still hanging on to your ex in someway and that you aren't ready for marriage if you are so concerned about who they are sleeping with now. Once you dump that person and decide it's over and you've clearly moved on with your life, you don't get to claim someone else or what they do or whom they do it with for all of eternity. That's not how life works and if you think it is, grow up.

[Xylem1992]

It's a guy thing. You don't sleep with your friend's ex, sister, mother etc without letting him know. It's not about left over feelings or sexual tension (You don't have those with your family. Hopefully). It's about respecting your friendship enough to make sure they're okay with it, before you go through your friends personal life and rub your genitals all over the thing.

If this was me, yes, Id say have at it. The important thing here is I was asked.

If I find out one of my friends had sex with one of my exes without telling me, I wouldn't be jealous or I don't know sad! I would just think that guy puts his dick ahead of the friendship. As I said, dick move.

[Opinion Owner]

@Xylem1992 I definitely get it if you broke up last week and your friend slept with them, that's one thing, but this person is getting married, a relationship that took at least a year of dating and didn't just happen five minutes ago. You aren't five years old, where you need daddies permission and you nor your friend are the gatekeeper of another human being. If you can't let go at that point where you're literally getting married, yeah, it's your ego to think that your ex can NEVER sleep with someone you know without your express permission and I doubt you should get married if that is the case. I mean, a soon to be married man saying to his friend "Hey bro, you should have asked me before you slept with my ex Jen," is literally ridiculous and honestly if this were my friend, I would be like get over yourself because at that point, your focus should be on your soon to be husband, not your ex and who he is sleeping with.

[wakeupchy]

good way to get better perspective on your question would be to put yourself in the friends shoes and think about it, you know? like how you feel if you friend did that with your ex wife, care, not care how would it make you feel

[Pj1981]

If it was your ex and your friend would it be okay with you? Generally it is an unwritten rule exes are off limits to friends. I have an ex that I might murder friends for trying and I have an ex that all my friends can run a train on her for all I care so I guess it depends on the ex and the feelings he secretly holds for her

[Asker]

Thats fine but I hate my exes guts so...

[Xylem1992]

I would talk to that friend. If he's okay with it, by all means, go for it. You know that yourself, you want to break an unwritten rule here and that's why you left that friend in the dark.

[SupremeWarlord]

Who is this "they"? The friend or the ex-wife? The answer depends on that.

[Asker]

Friend

[SupremeWarlord]

Nothing wrong.

[spartan55]

What do you think dude? Karma is a bitch.

[rcljr]

If she’s giving up the pussy and ass, take it.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a recipe for drama. Recommend against