Can a guy feel addicted to a girl in the early stages of dating?

[bubblespopcorn]

My boyfriend says he is a little addicted and switched to addicted a few weeks ago. I set the boundaries to give each a other space to grow and not be clingy he respects it. Don’t get me wrong I miss him too when we don’t see each other and say we seen each other on Tuesday and it’s now Wednesday (day after) it feels like it’s been 3-5 days since we’ve seen each other which is odd I feel. We set boundaries up spend a weekend and do a FaceTime/Phone Call once maybe twice a week.

Is this to much?

[coldmarch]

There are really no defined rules about "how much", it all depends on both's needs. If he is very needy and you're more like a loner, then you'll have to find a compromise together to stay in the middle. But the "how much" depends entirely on how much you want to invest attention and time into him, and in how much he wants as well.
I can only say that it's common to rush things in the early stages of a relationship, especially when both didn't have many experiences in the past. And it can be addictive, yes. But as long as both's needs are balanced, the "quantity" of the interactions is always "correct".
The only advice I could give is regarding "dating": you say you're "dating" so I guess you're not considering him a partner, yet. Maybe you want to be more open to other flirts or to be very sure he is a good one, without giving him bigger delusions later if it's a no. In that case, maybe you should interact a bit less if over than meeting and facetiming you're also constantly texting. But he seems to be already completely into you so there is little you can do to slow things down (the risk is even that if you take even more space, he will need it even more and become clingier and sticky, which can also kill your interest early). If you're also constantly texting everyday, then I think you're already quite much in a relationship context.

[bubblespopcorn]

You give incredible advice! I needed to hear every word you said! Thank you! You were right on everything

[DizzyDesii]

I need a guy who can stay addicted longer than 3 months. After that, its like the honeymoons over lol. And i need to be able to stay addicted for longer than a few weeks. 🤣 the struggle is real

[exitseven]

I dated somebody that had magic pheromones or something. Right from the start I was totally in love with her. Some nights we would just go off in my car and park someplace and just kiss for hours. She would wear this perfume that if I catch a whiff of it someplace I still go a little nuts. Sometimes the next day I would wake up with a weird hangover.

[bubblespopcorn]

What happened to the girl? Did it last long?

[exitseven]

It is all here in all it's glory.
What's the worse thing/s your ex/exes have ever done to you? ↗

[OlderAndWiser]

"Addicted" usually means that he needs you to fulfill his needs and it will be a one-sided, selfish (not openly selfish, but ultimately self-centered) relationship. This is a big warning sign.

[KrakenAttackin]

@OlderAndWiser She is enjoying the power.

[OlderAndWiser]

@KrakenAttackin In the short term, it is very flattering to have someone want you that desperately. After a few weeks or months, it drives you nuts!

[PositiveNote]

Oh heck yeah... I think that every girl I've ever met and liked has had me addicted. The addiction is easily severed, however. All it takes is to get to know the person better. Most likely, you see the "real" person and find out she's not what you thought. (That's not meaning she's "bad" or anything. Just maybe not compatible with what you think you may be looking for.)

[TheSpaceGnome]

Yes, thats normal, it's called love.

Also you're weird, who tries to decrease the amount of time spent with someone they love? And why do you think people can't grow while with their SO?

Clingy girls are the best, a good woman can hang on to me for dear life like an obsessed person and I'd give her all the attention she could ever want.

[Anonymous]

Honestly that's pretty lame and a bit controlling of you. Let him be himself and there's nothing wrong with seeing each other a lot, texting a lot, etc. Building a solid deep connection and foundation to a relationship is important. The more you see each other, the stronger it can get.

There is that psycho boundary when someone calls you every hour for example. That happened to me, she would seriously call me every hour it seemed like.

[bubblespopcorn]

After posting this question I agreed to talking in the phone more we are both sick with a cold and still plan on seeing each other because we miss each other. I’m going to be more open with the idea just afraid of getting hurt or to attached

[NewgodX]

Human beings and human emotions are a complex thing so it's all on that specific person but seeing a lot of history of people being addicted to lot of things both good and bad I would say it's very possible and not a bad thing necessarily

[Jouth]

The best relationships I've ever had are when we are both addicted to each other. Every moment we spent apart we would ache to be together again. It takes a really special girl to be in a relationship like that, and those are extremely rare.

[bubblespopcorn]

Did they last long? Your relationships like that?

[Jouth]

One lasted 2 years, the other lasted 3. The key is being on the same page. If one person is addicted and the other person is put off by that addiction, it won't be the same. For what I'm talking about to happen, you have to both be addicted to each other.

[bubblespopcorn]

Thank you

[Jouth]

Yeah for sure

[Yourfriend2021]

If you feel close why not spend more time together?

[bubblespopcorn]

Good sign?

[Yourfriend2021]

If you both care about each other, spend as much time as you can together, life is short and you don't know what could happen in the future.

[bubblespopcorn]

You’re right

[Yourfriend2021]

Good luck :)

[Anonymous]

Uh. . . YEAH! This is called the "honeymoon effect." It's why it's super important and rewarding to spend the early part of the relationship doing a LOT together and having a LOT of sex!

Enjoy the bonding! I'll come in handy later!

[Browneye57]

I think all that boundaries crap is complete bullshit.

[Iron_Man]

Not addicted but It would be called a big-time crash that really cares

[BigKevHanma]

Yes when you like holding her or just being close to her more than having sex with her your really into her at that point

[boxxie2002]

I think so, especially in the early stages when they are not 100% sure they have you locked down

[noohair]

Love is a chemical reaction in the brain. That is why you feel that way. It is called, Love Hurts.

[Jamie05rhs]

What are the actual boundaries that you set?

[bubblespopcorn]

We talk all the time he wants to see each other 3 or 4 days out of the week one week I said let’s do one overnight and the weekend.

Now it’s weekend, we text and now call on a regular basis. He wants to keep in contact not to know where I am but to hear about my day and how I’m doing in general

[Jamie05rhs]

@bubblespopcorn Nothing wrong with that.

But what's the boundary, though? That you only see each other in person on the weekends?

[qwert1234]

Addicted? aka Honeymoon phase?

[Twalli]

In the honeymoon stage it can feel like that

[FilmGuy93]

Yes, absolutely

[Anonymous]

Oh yeah, sure can.