Love is not what you find or what is handed to you... it is what two people choose to create and nurture together. Most people are too self-focused to be healthy partners. They look at it as what's in it for me rather than what can they bring to the relationship that will add to the life of a partner. When they do focus on bringing something, it generally has nothing to do with what they've discovered their partner values and appreciates. Guys assume all they need to do is go to work and provide for the family. Girls assume all they need to do is cook, clean, take care of the kids and give their guy sex. It would be nice if people took the time to learn how their partner sees and defines a relationship rather than assume they already have all the knowledge they need.
I won't settle for someone who is looking for a provider of a lifestyle or someone who expects me to be a lump of clay to be molded by her. Unfortunately, too often, this is what I encounter. People focus on their own sense of entitlement, legitimizing it by saying this is what should be. Yes, they can find people who want the same thing they want, but assuming others who don't want it will change for them makes no sense.
Love is difficult to find, because people are looking for something else and calling it love. Without effective communication, you won't have more than superficiality in a relationship. Rather than insisting on being heard, show the other person you value that person enough to want to understand his/her thoughts and feelings, so those thoughts and feelings can be incorporated in decisions the two make together, without making any unilateral decisions that might impact the other.
Just read posts on this site. People focus on what should be rather than just saying "this is my preference." It's much easier to find what we are seeking when we clearly state it from the start rather than just assume whatever we want is what we'll get. Unrealistic expectations leads to nothing but frustration and disappointment.
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1. Adults don't surround themselves with people their own age in large numbers on a daily basis like they did in highschool.
2. People who want actual love, are for whatever ridiculous reason, refusing to use dating sites, or quit after a short time. This is especially true for most women, who are so uninterested in finding the right guy, that they aren't able to tolerate wading through the sea of internet jerks to find one.
3. People don't have enough patience or work ethic to find the right person.
4. Women see men showing interest in them in any way as being creepy, but they also at the same time, expect men to make the first move, so no one ends up making a move.
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Because people are stupid..
You don't find you spend a lifetime together building it. And when you are old you can say you were in love..
New relationships are just infatuation that fades away with time of 5 years..
That shit ain't love..It’s simple. Unrealistic expectations and never being satisfied. It’s encouraged and even incentivized to throw out the person at the first sign of trouble and find a better partner instead of putting in the emotional work and working through it together. Relationships are hard and our society is repulsed by everything that makes a relationship successful.
People want love but they want it in the package they choose. So people will constantly waste their time on locked doors they have no hope of ever opening. While the door that would actually be the best match for them might be right next to them, unlocked even.
People wants it for free without effort and no one wants to work for it they rather keep looking for the next free doze. They also want it instantly under their conditions which usually are ridiculous high.
Once you find love it still has to be maintained. It can go away with stresses betrayals, growing and changing in different ways. Then if you've spent a large amount of time with the 1 person you thought would be beside you 100 til the end and it goes bad... we block our heartsto not ever feel that kind of pain again. Then there's severe trust issues so I'm not sure once a true love is broken if there can ever be love after.
Define love?
Because girls are married to Tiktok.
And men have no skills anymore and want the female do know and do everything.Because a lot of people don’t want love. I’m not looking for it and don’t want it. I’m content being single as I have been the last 7-8 years now.
The vast majority of women have deal breakers that make them undateable. Ie slut, feminist, fat, career obsessed... i found my girl but it literally was finding a girl that wasn't these things and not finding a girl is match out of dating many women. She was the only girl that didn't have these dealbreakers i met in 6 years i was single and i date and talk to a lot of girls. Thats pretty sad. I know men are quite shitty too but i dont date men so i can't say.
I think it is difficult because people are trying to find it, instead of it finding them. You cannot rush or force love, it happens naturally and on its own time.
Too many people are looking for a good time and not looking for someone who would make a good life partner. You might want to date the most interesting man in the world; but he is the last guy you'd want to marry.
Right now I’m talking with someone and we’re taking it slow because she’s a introvert.
To many tries to appear as something they aren't.
With other words fake.
( Especially female's on multiple fronts )
It's unattractive and transparent.
An other thing is.
Most doesn't have what it takes.Nobody wants to do the work to really get to know somebody. Social media gives people unreasonable expectations.
Maybe that people don't like to compromise. But some require much more compromise than others, making it more difficult.
Love needs lot of patience, Mutual trust, Mutual affection, Sacrifice, Mutual understanding which is rare nowadays.
I haven't found someone whom I can trust thats Why I am still singleIt's questions like these that really make me reconsider living.
Once you go for looks and material tbings, then it becomes unbearable and difficulty.
People being unaware of how it should be like.
Sincere and true love is very difficult to find
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