Have you ever hated someone because you loved them?

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Falling for people that are incapable of being loved and/or loving you back is one of the worst things ever. Especially when they make you think otherwise.

#ihateyou
#iloveyou
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Yes

No

[KieranByrne]

Yes, it happens quite often! I feel it can be affection, concern, thoughts of hoping the person will be OK, trying to understand their life!

Many, many reasons. Personally I like a person to be who they are, and if I am not liked for who I am then I apologise!

I have many friends that I love, some I crave to be, I get jealous because my life is not going to plan, so the only way to escape is to feel like I hate them because of who I am at that time!

I try tell them I love them, and if I do not mean it at that specific time, I hope to mean it in the future!

As for falling in love, I would like to not get over being in love anymore, too many heartbreaks, missed opportunities, misunderstanding, not enough trust, or darn right rude people who screwed their life up and took me down with it!

I hope to be strong enough to carry any whom I love or am in love with to be happier in life, whoever, or if ever i am with them, Never try let it go again even if it hurts me or them!

[KieranByrne]

Good night 'shatteredmasterpeace' sleep well and much love! 👌😙❤️

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Sometimes you have to let go tho. For the greater good.

[KieranByrne]

That is very smart, thank you!

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Sweet dreams! 😊

[KieranByrne]

Tha k you for MHO, and superb opinion! 🙌❤️

[jaybee281]

I wouldn't say it was actual falling in love for me - It was just a few people I really cared about who when I needed them didn't even think about me and hung out with the exact same people that made things bad - Ironically I'd be more willing to forgive the close people that hurt me directly (I'll still keep them at a huge distance) than the close people that didn't hurt me but knew about the entire situation and were nowhere to be found except with those other people.

And I know you're probably talking about people who lead you on - Never had to directly deal with people like that but they're trash - I think it's like my situation in a way - You think they love you so much so you don't feel wrong as you love them back since that it's genuine - then suddenly bam it isn't - I'd say it's even worse when they lead you on because they can constantly play games which keeps you thinking more if they actually care or not..

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Forgiveness is tricky because you forgive but never forget and it's always in the back of your mind. Which does affect how you interact with those people going forward. And yeah, those people are trash

[jennifer_bloom]

I hated my ex best friend for a few weeks cause for 16 years we loved each other like family and one day she ghosted me and refused to acknowledge my existence and I thought that I deserved more consideration than that after all the years we were best friends. Now I think it’s good we are no longer friends because she isn’t religious like me

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Relationship > Religion

[tatianamay]

No, one sided feelings is NOT love. Its called infatuation. Its only love, when the person reciprocates your feelings. I reckon it must be hard to lose feelings for them and move on, but its not impossible.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Yeah I know. But since there are people in the world that pretend to reciprocate feelings, it gets tricky.

[tatianamay]

They are usually highly manipulative people who win our affection by being lovey-dovey at first and then unmasking their true colors little by little. Its not that easy to spot the red flags with these nanipulative prople. They tend to be extremely calculative and use our weaknesses as their strengths. A third person can see that they are manipulating us, but we can't. Even if we do realize it, it'dbe very hard to lose feelings for them.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Wise little owl you are. But you're right. They're definitely manipulative and narcissistic. You don't usually find out until it's too late.

[tatianamay]

Thank you! 😊

Absolutely! They are narcissistic, self centered and defo manipulative. They play mind games, like being hot and cold, verbally/physicallg/emotionally abusing you and then apologizing and causing a huge scene etc. Its better to take suggestions of our well wishers because they can see right through them. Our judgement would be clouded because of all the sweet-talking that they are doing

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Truth

[nawtee_me]

Love is not a feeling, and true love doesn't require love being given back. If you put conditions on love then what happens when the conditions change? Love is an action, it is the most selfless action known. It is giving of ones self and asking nothing in return. In fact if you really love someone and want them to be happy then you would love them and want them to be happy even if it was with someone else.
The minute you put conditions on love it become something else... I will love you if you are skinny but if you gain weight then I will stop loving you... That is not love it is doing as I tell you to do or else...

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Nah. I always back my words with actions. So if I'm telling you I love you, then I'm also showing that I love you. It seems like you're trying to excuse people that lie and lead people on and I just don't have the patience for it. It's fine if you don't love me back, but don't fucking lie to my face and say that you do.

[nawtee_me]

I really am not making excuses for people who lie about their feelings I just think there is more to love then just saying it. I can love you and not be in love with you, but I can not be in love with you without loving you... If that makes sense...

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Yes, it makes sense.

[NathanDavis]

nope... one sided feelings is not something I consider love, so I just don't get involved that much into that kind of situations... if they don't feel like I do, then it's not love, it's something else, infatuation most of the times... but I've never called it love

and I sure don't like to dwell and waste away on such unrequited feelings... it's not easy but I pull back like a maniac right away, before any of that starts happening

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Yeah except when someone makes you believe that they feel the same, it's a bit different. If I catch feelings that aren't reciprocated then I immediately put distance between myself and the other person.

[NathanDavis]

that's something else I won't do... believe people

either they prove themselves to be genuine or I do not get involved with them in the first place

and when people are genuine, then there's no need to believe or leave it to luck or faith

so, I've been quite selective about the people I've been with

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Smart man

[NathanDavis]

lessons learned... years and years ago...

[Vikkrram]

In mine opinion i think it is then not love , it's like falling for someone and then expecting them to feel same for us.
You can really sense when anyone have feelings for you. Sometimes those people will show same feelings to you coz at that time they also want attention but in the long run they won't make u feel special always.

[AviatorTom]

No, I've never hated anyone.

It's important to note that the opposite of Love is not Hate, it's Ambivalence (don't care).

Like and Hate are opposites.

It's very common to love someone and not Like something they do, or don't do; Hate is possible but that might be a bit too strong a word for most.

[wankiam]

hated and love are more closely related than most would think... the true opposite of love is indifference, not hate

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

I agree.

[Anonymous]

I loved her and hated seeing her lonely, but I’m mentally ill and crazy. She seem like she liked me back, but I can’t be in a relationship when I’m a whack job. I felt bad rejecting her, but it’s for her own good.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Well good you on making that decision.

[Opinion Owner]

Yup, I guess or I’m crazy for doing that.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

I don't think you are. I think you made a decision that will benefit you both in the long run. And if it was meant to be you'll find your way back.

[ohshee]

I don't know if it's an actual hate I might be angry but it's only for a. Of time and then one day it will hit me and have a safe and this is the reason why I don't like you because it gets to that point

[FTnWo]

Yes, someone that I loved so much made me not like them anymore and I kinda hate her for that.

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Sucks doesn't it

[FTnWo]

It sure does it was also avoidable and so stupid and petty but that's what lies do

[Phoenix98]

Never been an issue with me.

Don't get me wrong I definitely look back at some of my relationships and wonder what the hell I was thinking. But I don't think I ever hated any of the people I was with.

[koolbrz]

This is true. No believes me when I said we can hate the person we love because we love them

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Most definitely

[koolbrz]

@gwenhwyfar what do you think

[Gwenhwyfar]

Yeah I agree

[snackthatsmilesback]

I've loved someone because I hated them before, but never the other way around.

[DizzyDesii]

More so hate myself for loving them

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

That usually comes before the hating them part for me

[Kingofkings1992]

Never. I’m not required to have anyone in my life. If I don’t like their behavior, they’re gone.

[Pillarofhell]

Sometimes people get angry at you as a way to emotionally invest themselves back into the relationship. But I dont do that.

[Neilbud]

Yeah... that whole maturing thing is a bugger.

[CinnamonBunPrincess]

I'm sorry but I don't understand the question...

[Jmmmfi4]

I suppose you could say that

[Iron_Man]

No that’s not how I roll

[OddBeMe]

No I always have a reason.

[Slim57]

Sounds about right, betrayal is a tough one

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

Yeah it is

[varan69]

I dont hate at all

[LegendaryIcon]

nope

[kkrystian]

Yes 😥