Are long distant relationships, real?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

[TruthBringer]

In generally, No.

I think it's safe to say that MOST long distance relationships are fake. Especially the ones where both parties have never met in person. LDRs are very known to not only fail, but are also notorious for the fact that both people in the "relationship" create a virtual world in their heads. So both people have a different experience and view to the relationship. Something that could be avoided easily when both people can see each other regularly.

All in all, those relationships you spend more time longing and wishing than actually experiencing. You're basically dating pixels on a screen while being 'pen pals'. That doesn't meant here aren't people who maanged to pull it off. It does however mean that the majority couldn't. From what I know is that LDRs have a higher failrate than local relationships. And it shouldn't strike anyone as a surprise as it all speaks for itself.

[lightbulb27]

they can be if both are genuine and put effort in, towards a goal.
I was in one with girlfriend met here on GAG 5yrs ago, we are together and doing well.

her sister married a guy who is french, they did long distance over the seas. baby on the way.

I'm sure there are lots of tragedies as well. It's your life... I'd be careful about it of course. Also, we were at mature ages 35-50yrs old. at your age, not so sure...

[shaysh87]

I think long distance relationships (if they never met in real life) are just two people infatuated over a fantasy about each other. Because reality is, if the only time you see this person is over a webcam or zoom, you really would not have the chance of knowing this person's flaws or get into fights about things. You will just be seeing one dimension of your boyfriend / girlfriend. You can go on the webcam to listen to each other's jokes but you're really not gonna run into any circumstances that will expose each other's flaws or other dimensions of each other's personalities.

And of course its much easier to hide your flaws if your performance is always just an hour or two on webcam. You may be a very different person normally in real life

[SloppyBrown]

Yes! My fiance and I started seeing each other from two separate countries. So long as you agree to meet up every now and then and spend a nice chunk of time together, it works!
They are majorly challenging though, not so much if the person is only a couple of hours away, but some people can grow impatient because of the commuting.

The two of us are moving together to save the grief. I couldn't be one of those couples to live apart for years :(

[t-8900]

My friend married a girl he met online. He lived in Delaware and she lived in Chile. Welcome to globalization. My one old guild back when I played WoW when I was a teen. The guild leader met her now husband through it and married him and had 2 kids with him.
Yes it's real.

[ikEVERYTHING]

Been in one for about a year, met, and got engaged 4 months ago. Yes young but for mainly religious and chastity reasons. We are actually planning to meet today and they know my family and I theirs so yes it can work. My mother also recently got married after having a long distance relationship for a few months

[RobT312]

I don’t think they are sustainable unless eventually you close the distance.
i watched my sisters long distance thing and warned her... eventually it ended in a train wreck.

[Bbgirl20001]

I dated this one guy for 4 years he was my high school sweet heart but he decided military was the route he wanted to go and was shipped off to Germany we did it for about a year and a half when things just fell through because we both were headed on different paths but it’s just a matter of communication and a healthy balance of self care and being togetherness ( as best you can anyway)

[ShaTTeredMasterpeace]

As real as the people involved make them. They can work but it takes both parties being completely committed and on the same page.

[Anonymous]

That depends. If both people lived in the same place before and were dating then, and then one partner moved away, then I think it's real. But these "long distance relationships" where people have never met in real life? Totally fake in my book.

[KAT247]

It can be if you have good communication skills with the other and spend enough time to make it feel realistic.

[Flower7]

Nope because it’s not possible to truly know the other person, especially if they’ve never met.

[madgoat]

They serve a purpose for some but to me, unless you have established a strong physical bond first, they are just fantasy.

[FictionalCharacter]

Not really. It’s mostly attention seeking and sexting. No real relationship. Just sext buddies.

[LoneWolf21]

Are LDR's real? Yes. Is it a good idea to be in a LDR? No.

[spartan55]

Miles wide and inches deep is my favorite analogy for ldr.

[The_Outlaw]

They can be but don't tend to last long. It's better engaging with someone IRL that you can actually see and not an unknown that could be fucking with ya for shits and giggles.

[YesICan]

Do they exist? Of course Do they last? Hell to the no, infidelity is going to happen. Either that or people just grow apart.

[dragoblack]

Only if they keep it up with nightly calls over webcam, Have long distance dating, and whatnot. Great deal of times they are super unstable, if not just text based roleplay

[Cr68ij]

Men will say ita real because that gets them your naked photos

[Rob17792]

hey asshole i never once asked to see my significant other's naked photos or even asked them for it in all the 4 years we been together so stfu

[Anonymous]

Yes. I was in a semi long distance relationship (we lived 1.5 hrs away) so we were meeting distance but still over text 90% of the time.

[Cubus]

My friend has a girlfriend that lives 100 km from him. They are together for 5 years and are happy. His girlfriend recently moved to his city.

[cuzimbored21]

They are but they're difficult. I tried it once with a girl who lived 2-3 hours away and was not able to maintain it.

[TacosRAwesome]

The ones where you meet often enough are real but internet boyfriends and girlfriends are not.