Do you agree with the saying " love yourself first than to be loved by others"?

[Nazgol]

I don't agree. I believe it's not even related , a person can fully love themselves but would like to receive the love of someone else because it's a basic human need

[Apulu_3]

It's not like that. There is no single person in Earth who doesn't have people who love them. It's just that we don't realize who are they. We are getting their love unknowingly. And if you don't love yourself then who is going to love you. First see that if you are really worthy of love. If you don't deserve love them yes loving yourself in such situation would be ego. If you don't love yourself then you don't even know your own worth because no matter what kind of person you are you deserve at least a pinch of love. If you aren't loving yourself then don't expect others to love you because if you don't know yourself then how will others know you to love you. Thus to get love you need to have self love. And by self love I don't mean to be self absorbed. Ego and self love are two different things. If you see this way. Think that you are a glass and water is love but you don't have water and are totally empty so how will you give others water when you even don't have a drop to share that means to love others first love yourself. There are various examples like this in nature but only a few can recognize it.

[SweetDumplings]

I agree with you I feel like that whole thing is bullshit because you don't have to love yourself and someone might love you regardless if you love yourself or not, I seen it happen many times and it happens throughout the world for many years so that whole thing I feel a bitch made it up honestly.

[DiegoO]

Absolutely.

I am gonna use an analogy.

Imagine you have a garden, but you are not taking cared of it. Bad weed is growing, plants are dying, plagues are all over.

Imagine now, that you get to know another gardener. He/she is the opposite. The plants of its garden looks healthy, the plagues are controled, new plants are sprouting.

What would you have to offer? You would only have a damaged garden, with unhealthy plants; therefore nothing healthy to give. Sooner or later the other gardener would notice that, and leave you out, far away from his/her garden, because you doesn't seem to care about watching out for your plants (emotions), or for the garden itself (your mind).

[islandman91]

I totally agree with this. I been in toixc relationship all my life until i started going therapy. I lreaned a lot about my slef and what I really need out of my relationship ( work, family and friends). Here the thing if you dont know how to love yourself and be kind to yourself then can ask other to do the same? How do you know the way someone is loving you the way you want to be loved in that relationship?
Also when you love and take care of yourself other can see and fell that. They in turn will bring that same engery
This is why i agree with love yourself then other will start loving you

[EssexK]

I don't agree. I think you can become your best self or work on being your best self but to love yourself can have a bit of a different meaning here in the UK and it's one where you always put yourself before others and have a very high opinion of yourself, which is not responded to very well. That said, I believe you can learn a lot more about yourself from loving someone else and they loving you in return.

[TwinkleLily5]

It’s definitely some truth to this, but some people will still love you at your worst. 9/10 if you do not love yourself you will sometimes unintentionally hurt those types of people. Most people would rather not get in the mix with a person that doesn’t have self love because more than likely that person have a negative impact on their life.

[VanillaSalt]

I believe the need to value your self worth is important for self preservation however for one other reason… in the animal kingdom the best males get all the females… but in society people expect everything to work out and are surprised when it doesn’t. It helps to have self worth so women and men want you. Because without a partner think how much you lose.

[alleon]

I believe you have to have some self love and acceptance. If not your insecurities will be pushed onto your partner. And it’s not your partners job to give you that. They can add to but they shouldn’t be the source in which you have any happiness. You need some level of it on your own

[Sugar100]

I don’t agree because I know some women have boyfriend since age 18 and never been single so it’s easy for them to say love yourself as they never been single thier whole life. People marry as u cannot live life alone, happiness is with a partner and marriage only. Everyone in street I see is married with kids.

[KingofCups]

How can you love someone else if you don't even know what it feels like to love yourself? You have to know what you deserve, you have to know your self worth, you have to value your potential and ability. Love is like respect. You have to respect yourself if you want other people to respect you.

[InferiorElegy]

I don't agree, I used to believe that I loved myself but I've never been shown love.
I realized later on that I've only ever liked myself because how can you love yourself when you don't know what love is or how it feels because no one has ever shown you or made you feel loved.

Without ever being shown love, no one can be expected to just know how to love themselves, which means by this statement no one will ever love them.

[shaysh87]

firstly, you cannot love yourself if you were never ever shown in your life that you are worthy of being loved. Anyone who love themselves, had been shown by someone at some point in life that they were worth it.

[Diodoro]

I believe you'll experience more love when you're not chasing it and that ultimately getting right with yourself comes down to self esteem. So self esteem.

You do need to love yourself first but what that looks like gets misinterpreted

[ChrisMaster69]

Nah I am a lost cause, I will happily love others but can’t do the same for myself.

too many scars and too many memories.

[Razp_Sorbet]

That's not what the saying means. It means you should love yourself first, before loving someone else or letting someone else love you. Relationships are exhausting when the other person isn't content with themselves.

[melanieeeB]

I honestly believe, that you should learn to love yourself first and respect yourself and learn to stand up for yourself and learn who you are and all that is important

[Anonymous]

That's true. To make it simple it means you should have loveable life and things to do and when you and your things are enough for your happiness then that moment you can get someone don't put your whole happiness into 1 person. Sometimes life is like anime series smh

[Subarugirl]

Have you ever heard the phrase, “you can’t pour from an empty cup” or “put your oxygen mask on first before helping the person next to you.”?
Both apply in this situation.

[crmoore]

That quote is a little different than the one I've heard. The one I've heard is "you can't love another before you love yourself," of which I disagree with. So if that's what your quote means, I disagree.

[DonkeyDan]

You can't expect someone else to love you if you don't even love yourself.

[jasco]

Honestly loving yourself is good but you have to realize that everyone has likes and dislikes. Just because you like yourself doesn't mean you shouldn't change for the better

[ikEVERYTHING]

Yes. It won't be until you have self confidence and yourself put together that you will be able to handle any potential bad situations that could come from having a relationship.

[Sevenpointfive]

i do believe that. you'll never love another until you feel you deserve to be loved

[Seangreen]

I don't believe it either. They say that probably because most people desperate for love most likely have confidence issues

[Anonymous]

If I waited around to fully love myself I’d still be a lonely virgin. I’m super tough on myself. The trick is pretending not to be.

[roy_ricky09]

That's absolutely true, if you can't love yourself then you can love others and understand them fully

[Anonymous]

I think you need to love yourself first before you can truly accept the love of others. But that is not to say you only need one.

[unusuak]

You really can't love someone else if you'r all caught up on your shit

[Morgador]

You can't truly love anything unless you love yourself first

[dragoblack]

I would say change the phrase to "insecurities are a spiraled path of toxicity"

[Anonymous]

I agree with you, but I know what the saying means but of course it is better to feel loved by someone

[Julious0202]

if you don't love yourself, how will others love you?

[Apulu_3]

Exactly

[CandaceSims201]

It deposited on what is.

[Otakugeek]

It’s possible dude it’s called masterbation

[loveslongnails]

Yes, only if you want a healthy relationship. LOL

[vald9inches]

Nobody likes desperation

[Hadesheim]

That is pretty healthy yeah

[ItsMeElliana]

nope

[Toldol2]

We all deserve love