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Are you willing to be with someone who is in love with you, yet you do not love them back?
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Love can develop. It's not real love unless both people know each other well, and that takes time. Both people may not be on the exact same timeline internally, and that's okay. People should have some amount of patience for feelings to develop.
Many relationships provide companionship, friendship, someone to share experiences and interests with, and they count for something. Not every relationship has love. Not everyone wants or needs that.
It's easy to say from the outside, objectively, that imbalances don't work, and the relationship won't last, or should be forced to an end. But life is messy, and the sooner people accept that and become less rigid, the better off they may be. It's not at all uncommon for one to have more intense feelings than the other. When this realization sets in, anything can happen. But I don't think giving up on the situation, the person, is always the best answer. People experience many things, and when two come together, they both need to absorb, and deal with, the other's past. One not loving the other doesn't mean it will never happen. Also, that person may be so burned by someone in their past, they can't open their heart to someone fully... [yet.]
But to answer your question more specifically, I am not interested in relationships where either cares much more than the other. It's uncomfortable. It depends on the who, what, when, where, and why specifics, but my relationships are deep and I want a lot from them, so if at the root of your question is the idea that one/I will never love them, no, I wouldn't want to be with them.
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No, that wouldn't be fair for none of us.
I'll use this to vent, haha.
There's this guy I used to like A LOT. We met years ago, I was 13, he's only 2 years older. Since we met we spent so much time together, I liked him but I thought he didn't like me since he never said anything. Now, I'm 20 and we were just talking random stuff about the past, I showed him a song I'd made for him years ago and he told me he liked me to but he didn't know I liked him since he confessed his attraction while we were playing and I apparently disconnected from the game. Now we are way more open about feelings, he's interested in me, but the thing is that I just don't feel the same attraction I did back then, I really wish I could like him again but I have a new crush and I can't decide to stop liking someone, I wish I could decide who I like and who I don't.
This situation is very difficult for both people involved, assuming the non-loving one is empathetic. As a last resort (world ends, no one else left), it works. Otherwise, best to avoid.
Not to a level of love, but with romantic interest / feelings, I've been on both ends. I honestly prefer to be the one with the interest/feelings. It is painful, but it is under my control. When I knew a perfectly good, decent, nice, respectable, perfectly physically pleasant girl was suffering because, despite these qualities, I just couldn't develop an interest in her, it made me resent myself; I don't like being the cause of pain, though on a surface level, yes, having female attention / interest in me is nice, until the reality of non-reciprocity makes itself felt.
If both partners do not love one another, the one who does not will always be swayed emotionally by others he/she meets who are capable of creating emotions their partner cannot.
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I've tried it in case I could form feelings.
I was transparent about it and she allowed it.
After three months I didn't form feelings, but she was very nice the entire time and I always tried to make her happy too. I'm thankful for that time together even if I don't really miss her.
I answered C cause I'm adding the opinion that I have, but wouldn't do so again. It could have easily led to badly hurt feelings.
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No I would not.. Everyone deserves to be loved the way they love... I would want that person to find someone who could love them the way they deserve to be loved, the way I couldn't love them...
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It would depend on if I could see myself falling in love with them, but generally I'd say no. It's tricky when the feelings aren't on the same level. I know how it feels to love someone that didn't love me back and I wouldn't want to put someone else through that.
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I've been on the receiving end of someone not loving me and it's cruel.
Your whole relationship is held together because of your love for them.
They treat you less than you deserve and it leaves you questioning everything you think and feel.
Noone deserves that.
If you don't feel the same let them go. - 527 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Love is a chemical reaction that seems to always fade. You know the people that love new relationships cause they feel so good, but then things get old and start to suck and the honeymoon period ends and you end up hating each other.
Yeah I'm not bitter or anything, just saying. What your describing sounds like an arranged marriage but in the end the person who isn't in love will want out unless they get something more out of it that they are willing to stay around for. -
Depends what they bring to the table. I'm kinda regret leaving that girl who loved me but I didn't she was kind and very supportive to me and always there for me but unfortunately I didn't love her there was no feeling for her except sex and hangout only. By now I understand a man doesn't need to love the women trust is more important to us by far she was trust worthy I date 6 other women after her non of em were trust worthy. Unfortunately she was just not that beautiful.
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Well on one hand I would say yes, because it's essentially free sexual pleasure if someone is in love with you... (Of course unless the other person is unable to turn you on due to not falling under your sexuality).
Otherwise, for a long term relationship... no. -
I couldn’t.
1. It isn’t fair to them. To love me so selflessly with nothing in return. They would live in consistent heartbreak. Hoping, pleading I would feel the same and I wouldn’t.
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Only if I can see myself loving them. Like maybe they feel it first but I’m not at that point just yet. Otherwise, no.
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Nobody should limit themselves. Unrequited love is brutal enough, faking is insulting them further.
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No because love should be mutual. Otherwise chances are high that it gets toxic at some point for at least one partner.
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Perfect situation for a masterful friendzoning maneuver.
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I would date them, but if I don't start falling in love with them after a few dates then I'd tell him gently "Sorry, but I don't see this going anywhere.
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Well, in order for me to have feelings for someone I got to love them and I hope she loves me back.
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No. Unless the feeling is mutual and there is compatibility, I don't want this.
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If I am not attracted to that person at all and has no common interests, it'd be a no
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Willing? Yes. Will I? Who knows. Likely not, but things can change.
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I felt the opposite. Loved someone, who didn't love me
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Not for the long term.
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That’s not how love works, so no
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I believe in mutual feelings & mutual love
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