What is your focus: relationship or career?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

They're both important. Career is necessary to be able to live and enjoy life. But, as someone who has almost died, my priorities have shifted. I no longer live to work. I work to live. Most of us will have many jobs in our lifetime, and most companies are not loyal to their employees. Most companies will work their employees into the ground, and companies will always view employees as replaceable.

While a job is a necessary component of life, no job will ever come before my relationships with my family or my boyfriend. Those people are not replaceable. They care about me as a person, and not just about what I can do for them. I spent several years of my life working around the clock, being contacted at all hours of the day, commuting, never getting a real vacation, sleepless nights, etc. After my near-death experience, I decided none of that was worth it. I stepped away from the salaried world and became a freelancer. Now I travel, and I travel uninterrupted by work. My weekends are my own. My time with my boyfriend is my time with my boyfriend. I would never trade that to climb the corporate ladder.

PrettyPriya · Accepted Answer

If I have to pick one, relationship at the moment. It isn't exactly new or anything but important as we are taking the next steps. Career is solid, so I picked relationship. MHO

Anonymous · Answer

I have worked a few jobs during the Pandemic and what I have realized is jobs are no less or no more secure than a relationship. Money comes and money goes, finding love is tough, it really is. It's more likely and easier to find a job that pays $20-$25/hour by next week then it is to find a girl to be in a relationship with. I am currently working and going to school and it's stressful and tough. I know today, women will often say, fuck relationships and fuck marriages but that's because many people, emphasis on PEOPLE (MEN AND WOMEN) chase the life of higher living. Which is fine, there's nothing wrong with that and working hard with what you dream about, go for it. But this whole movement of this me-centric era we live in of greed and selfies I have pondered to myself what happened to society? I think it's the ideologies of life, I think it's the overbearing feeling of life where we get caught up and are told to work harder and harder and harder and that isn't it. For me, I think the average work week should be 30 hours and 4 days. It would be beneficial because 1) you can have more time for your family or loved ones or friends or even yourself and 2) it can provide hours to others who can only work part time. That's how I look at it but this is GAG and if I even question the western system people will lash out at me and rip me apart. People have to remember, this monetary system we live in today is defined by a country's military means which then becomes the "standard". Is it fair for someone who works his or her ass off in a warehouse getting paid $18/hour for 40+ hrs is still struggling. Meanwhile some other dude does less but gets paid more. I'm just saying this because as much as people may disagree with this comment it will become evident and clear in the coming years and people will know why.

Sarahr123 · Answer

I tend to be quite emotional but I don’t get attached easily. If I somehow find a perfect person that manages to win my heart then they will always be the priority. I work to live, I don’t live to work. If I had my own successful business then yeah maybe I’d give it my life though. But still my spouse/lover would come first nonetheless.

I don’t just put anybody first though. It’s very unlikely I’ll get that attached to somebody unless something shifts inside me that lets me think that 1. The physical attraction is absolutely electric, 2. The emotional connection is cosmic, 3. The trust is out of this universe. I need to love them and trust them and also be very much physically attracted to them for me to drop everything for them.

Some people seem to just pick anyone that is available and force themselves to commit but I can never force myself to like or commit to someone. It needs to happen on its own.

Novacane · Answer

I would say both career and relationship are better when pursued together as it can create a more meaningful life. Way back I focused a lot on relationships and was always sad about my career. Now that I am in a better career and see progress there is no relationship and sometimes that makes me feel sad. I have been by myself, for the most part, growing up so I was always used to it, but no matter how much you get used to it, it will still make you feel some type of way. So as of now I am focusing on my career and myself (going to the gym consistently, eating better, and mental health) but would love to be able to pursue both

Anonymous · Answer

I focus on both. However, if it was a hard choice between one or the other I'd pick my relationship hands down. I enjoy being a realtor and I make good money, but at the end of the day the people I work with don't really care about me. Maybe they like me and enjoy working for me, but if it came down to it they'd look after themselves over me. I'm lucky enough to have a husband with whom I share a strong mutual love. I've been through super high moments and super low moments with him. We've had four kids together. He knows me often better than I know myself. When I'm with him I feel safe. I know in my heart that as long as I'm with him I'll be OK with whatever else may happen to me. My job isn't worth anything close to that.

MandyandScott · Answer

I am starting a new relationship with ex #1. Far too young, a year out of HS, wet behind the ears and knew it all. Today we continue to be best friends and on to a new untapped physical relationship. I’m always in to whatever she wants, back then she was a bit on the cold shoulder side, what I’m hearing from her now is that she has changed 180•. Being both permanently disabled and me working a menial job per social security accordance because I have anger, chronic pain, PTSD rain surgeries for birth defect issues. That in mind I would choose my lady

Medicalbug · Answer

I picked career but I should have said “other”, as I agree with people who work to live. My main concern is the relationships I have to my friends and family, as they are the one constant in my life. Romantic partners also come and go, so my career certainly takes priority over that, but I always make time for the dear people I love.

MissStrawberry912 · Answer

Building a better relationship with myself with more self-love, care, patience, and kindness. So, I can be the best version of myself everyday. Currently, I am focusing on my career and graduate admissions since I don't have much space for relationships in my life, but sure if the right guy comes... I would want to try.

Anonymous · Answer

When the time comes to settle down, a girl will always go to her preferred man. In many cases, a financially settled man is the man of choice.

It may seem as if men have the control in marriage market, but the real control is in women's hand, as they are in less quantity than men so they get to select.

unusuak · Answer

People need a career. Careers help you elevate yourself to higher level... And a great man can support you and help u elevate your art... I would help you do that if your down yo let me try.. I just want to yhelo help peoplen.

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Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Career. I’m good at what I do. I am the most superior person in creation of media. My mind is like a fortress. My hypothesis is correct, I am unstoppable. Also, my Sneaky Thumbholes, they never fail. No heart to calm, no breathe to steady. PERFECTION.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

I have a somewhat boring but very stable job right now, making decent money. Been focusing on relationships, although I have never considered it a one or the other. Often do both at the same time.

t-8900 · Answer

Personally love because I had very little of that growing up from women. When I was in relationships I was propelled to new heights. At the same time when I got out of them I was at the absolute rock bottom.

menina · Answer

At this point is career. A relationship is not going to take me from the shitty country where I live and is not going to give me money and a place to stay.

Flower7 · Answer

Money because money has been more loyal to me than people have.

Blackcupcake · Answer

I’m not looking for a relationship now or anytime soon so I pick career cause that’s what I’m actually working on right now and for the next couple of years

voidheav8n · Answer

Career right now. My relationship with my partner is solid enough to allow both of us to focus on our careers. I do think having a stable relationship is very beneficial because we don't have to deal with all the relationship problems while having somebody to support you during career development.

coderdatuenvy · Answer

I see many answer as career and i wanna write out career as well but can i be honest?

Its always relationship first in my mind idky came out of romantic relationship of 3 years, 6 months ago and relationship is the only thing my mind is subconsciously focused on

Metjuw · Answer

I chose career since right now I'm not in a relationship and therefore my focus right now is to better myself and find a new job.

If I was in a relationship I would have chosen that option because if you truly love someone you will accept them as they are even if they are without a job and looking.

St37xy11 · Answer

I choose both. Right now I am committed to my career and working a job I am pretty satisfied with. I am also talking to a guy I like and taking things slow. So I say both.

Apulu_3 · Answer

Career of course as a student and also working on my dream. After having an independent life relationship can be done the way you want it to be as you will be independent and no one can control you.

chapawapa · Answer

Career. Because I have no sharks in my ocean. Unfortunately... I'd prefer focus on relationships though

Cherry234 · Answer

Getting my college degree and then trying to find a job. I'm not prioritizing being in a relationship right now.

Fireguy17 · Answer

I'm retired, and in a relationship, so I will try to get taller so I don't have to lose as much weight.

Desire-for-Greatness · Answer

Career. Relationships can happen later. I can't focus on my goals if I'm in a relationship.

pink_and_inlove · Answer

Tbh my relationship is the most important thing to me I have no idea what to do career wise despite being in college.

Anonymous · Answer

My career.
I was in a toxic relationship previously and I obviously had to juggle my focus between my career, college, and my relationship…. Not anymore. I will always put my career and college before a relationship from now on.

RobT312 · Answer

While career is a focus, relationship is bigger priority

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Hmm not sure really. at moment it’s likely not leaving red stuff in the shower lol

Nigjt · Answer

Well just to be honest I have an income so I'm cool for now on that.
I just wanna find someone to love with a very strong sexual connection with long intimacy who is willing to keep or make it spicy between us.
God Bless

Slartybartfast · Answer

A man must have a career to have a relationship so it's not really a choice for us.

IveGotNoName · Answer

I spend more time on my studies but I make time for him as well. It's a good mix. Couldn't live without either.

JHNS98 · Answer

Right now I focus on my relationship, but I don't really have a career. Though I am searching for jobs on a semi-committed basis.

TwinkleLily5 · Answer

Both atm I used to focus to much on one or the other.

Anonymous · Answer

As a teen, I SHOULD focus on building my career BUT as a teenager I also go through tons of emotions which includes the term mentioned ''relationship''.
Makes it the two of em
It's funny how we have to take the responsibility of shaping our mature years in our most immature years

BazookaTrouper · Answer

Right now I'm still trying to secure a government job. Once I get in and get back to having an income, my next goal would be moving out on my own. Then I can worry about that other stuff.

Somegirl678 · Answer

i focus more on relationships, but career comes closely behind too

Anonymous · Answer

I'm a stay-at-home wife (and soon to be mother). I want to be the very best hot wife for my husband. If you consider marriage a career, then my answer is both career and relationship.

PaganWarrior · Answer

Career, but I can't help but wonder how nice it would be to have a partner who is also a best friend and there for me all the time, as I am for him.

Lovelylady92 · Answer

I think it’s important to balance the two. My current focus is taking care of my physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual needs. This allows me to do my best at work and in my relationships.

Anonymous · Answer

Always career. Relationships don't pay bills. I don't neglect my relationship, but if I were given an ultimatum between the two, I'm sticking with career 100%.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Both, at the same time, because giving up one for the other is stupid.

EaterPeter · Answer

If man is happy with what he is doing as work / at work then he can be happy in other areas of life. And for women it is relationship I think

YukiCho · Answer

Relationship. My husband and I are very focused on us. It's very good for both of us and makes us healthier!

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

Currently career, when I had the choice last time I picked relationship ( I would do it again )

spearheadbt · Answer

Can't it be both? You don't have to choose between any of the two. That would otherwise be a pretty sad world.

Neosporin · Answer

It's traditionally been career but now more relationship. Trying to be not lonely anymore

grega239 · Answer

I need about 2 more years to get a bank loan for a small house with a bit of land so ill have something to do for a hobby and after i retire.

Anonymous · Answer

My career because money talks and with money love can be bought. Women seemingly don't love men anymore. Maybe for a good reason or 2. Who knows.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Relationship. It always has been. People are more important than money.

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

since there is no relationship, never has been, its more about career

Anonymous · Answer

in my own opinion, career is more important, these days it is easier to find someone, than to find a decent job. plus, a career can put food in your table, a relationship can't.

innerman · Answer

I picked career... feel like am the only one who didn’t take the other path

MJtheCoach · Answer

Fk carrier fk relationship  I want my own money making machine

Oakperk · Answer

I focus on both. And we help each other out when one of us starts to get burnt out by motivating one another. You can balance work and a relationship!

Chthou95 · Answer

Career. Women and relationships are the very last option

Harleigh90 · Answer

Guilty of focusing on a career to much. 🙄

Ninani · Answer

Mental health.

Anonymous · Answer

Career and it always will be. Relationships are just a waste. Girls aren’t even virgins these days

NathanDavis · Answer

business is my focus right now... it's a need

loves2learn · Answer

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