My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for 3 and 1/2 years and we are to the point where he is shopping for engagement rings and has asked my dad permission and everything. I love him so so very much but I am so lost with how I am feeling about where life may take us. He is finishing law school next May and wants to move back home to Springfield, IL. I want to go back to Kentucky and work with racehorses again. We are in Nebraska right now (where I’m from) and I came back here after my internship in KY was up to be with him. I took a full time job while he finishes school. (I’ve been back for about a year and a half. I hated my job at first. It’s better now but that was a huge transition for me). The problem is I haven’t stopped thinking about Kentucky but he has no desire to go there. He is absolutely set on going back to Illinois, no ifs ands or buts about it. He has been trying to help me find jobs I might like in Springfield but I just feel like I am the only one compromising here. I know he loves me so much too but part of me worries he wants to propose soon so that I can’t even think of going back. That is terrible to say it like that but I think it’s true. I can’t imagine my life without him and he has been so good for me and treats me so well. This is the one area we don’t see eye to eye on. I know neither one of know what jobs we may find or if we stay in one place but it sure sounds like he is set on home. They have a hunting cabin close to them that he doesn’t want to lose. I am just so lost and confused and would appreciate unbiased advice and suggestions!
Love or career?
