been there. first things first make sure this isn't your gut. it sounds like it could be anxiety, or a detail you haven't quite put together. rule of thumb is your gut is calm followed by panic thoughts. your panic thoughts are just that. you panic and your thoughts race, but there wasn't a calm thought that sent it off. its anxious from the start. 2nd I've def thought id marry my ex (s), im a hopeless romantic so iguess thats expected but like that doesn't mean too much. he said he THOUGHT. just like i THOUGHT some of my exes were a good idea. but anyways about the jealous of past thing. i was jealous of her past because of how many partners she had. insecure and just jealous that she got to experience that while i got to be rejected/left out and alone. the relationship was shit for soooo many reasons, so i can only say what i didn't do and what helped me after everything went down, but not what works.
accept that your lives are different, and the two have come together. he's probably jealous of yours too but doesn't express it. like you're jealous because she was there first. as the great zaywop once said "it doesn't make a niqqa jiggy if you get it first". he means that the second, third or fourth person gets to learn and clean up after their mistakes, being the better person at whatever it is. maybe its just the timing, or they got shit out of their system, or whatever it is your next relationship is usually better than the last if you truly learned from it. so be that better relationship by doing you. dont let it trip you up. dont get baby crazy, just be grateful that you have someone who is willing to commit and feel secure that he has moved on from that. like if it were really that strong theyd still be together. I don't know, id be sure to see a therapist or something if you can't sort it out soon. that kind of thing can ruin a relationship and you dont want to mention being jealous of marriage/baby plans. thats not the worst in the world but def won't do any good long term unless y'all are moving in that direction
Jealousy has nothing to do with the ones you are jealous of. It is merely a statement of your own feelings of inadequacy... feeling you don't have what it takes to offer what you feel others want or what you'd like to give, or you feel inadequate to acquire what others have acquired.
To eliminate jealousy, focus on yourself rather than others. Ask yourself what you'd like to see in yourself and whether it is realistic or not. If it is unrealistic, get rid of it and focus on things within your control. If it is realistic, set a plan of attack to proceed in that direction, while continuously measuring your progress. The more you focus on others, the more the green-eyed monster will grow within you. Awareness is the first step, so you are moving forward already. Best wishes for your success and happiness.
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Maybe because you haven't lived your life as you wanted too and he his? You should consider seeing a therapist.
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