Turning hook up into a relationship

[whoawhoawhoa2011]

So, this guy I was recently seeing for about a month seemed to really like me, but then he ended it saying it wasn't going where he thought it would, that our personalities are really different, and I remind him a lot of his ex-gf who was really demanding. I hadn't spoken to him in about two weeks and texted him asking if he wanted to just hook up and the answer was yes. My question is 1) how long should I wait to text him after we hook up, to hook up again? (i'm horny and am not a ho so I don't go out looking for guys but I don't want him to think I'm trying to get back with him or that I'm too needy, etc) and 2) is there any chance of the hook up turning into a relationship or does it just become an it is what it is type of deal? Thanks!

[heatherlu]

He's already told you that it's not going to be a relationship - I'm not saying hook-ups can never become something more - but in this case I very strongly believe it won't. Something attracted him to you, initially - but when it got down to the nitty gritty of it and you really started to get to know each other, he decided that there's something about you which wouldn't gel and work in terms of the two of you being in a relationship.

He's fine with things being purely sex based, and that probably stems from what first attracted him to you; but that's all it is to him. So if you're in this with the hopes that this will develop into something more, I'd suggest you move on and find someone else - because your not both coming from this at the same angle and that's when things get complicated. However much you want it to - it won't become a relationship because your personalities don't match.

[Anonymous]

Lol you can't turn hooking up into a relationship. If the guy really wanted a relationship with you, then he wouldn't have just hooked up with you for a month. He would have created a relationship with you THEN became sexually active with you. The fact that he even went two weeks without speaking to you says you're not all that important to him. Take this as a lesson learned and don't just give your body away so easily.

[Anonymous]

Hookups are sex. If a guy found a girl dateable, he wouldn't be hooking up with her.

If you want sex, just do it. Don't get attached. Sounds like its too late for that.

[TheAnswerer]

Turning a hookup into relationship is like turning graphite into diamond. They are both made of Carbon atoms, but there is no proven way of "artifically" turning graphite into diamond in a lab. It only happens naturally, when given the right conditions and a very long amount of time.

Make a risk/reward calculation. How valuable is the diamond for you? And how much time are you willing to give to the graphite, knowing that there's no guarantee that it will form diamond in the end?

Now, think how comfortable you are with graphite. It is a physically useful material after all. Do you want to risk losing the graphite while you apply pressure to hopefully form diamond?

You have lots of questions to answer, and limitd time to make up your mind.

If I were you though, I would be happy with the hook-up and wouldn't risk losing it by pushing it.

[girl_power]

well he is getting back just to hook up. relationship is out of the picture

[Anonymous]

It really is like getting blood out of a rock. Guys don't want to date easy women

[Anonymous]

not going to turn into a relationship.