I have been in an exclusive relationship with a guy for a month. We entered it on the understanding that whatever we have terminates in September whenever he returns home to India. I am struggling with the fear of falling for him and becoming absolutely heartbroken.
I decided to give this a go because I’ve never been into anyone as much as him. I also have an open view of the future and believe that the future is entirely unknown, people change their minds and if someone is worth it you make it work. He is adamant and reminds me off it through every conversation that he is returning home with no intention of compromising or taking me with him (which I would be prepared to do - it has always been a dream of mine).
My friends have told me they think I should continue giving it a shot. They believe that not all relationships are destined to be long-term (which is still what I want). My family keep telling me that if he falls in love with me, he might stay, compromise or take me with him.
I can only at the minute rely on him saying there is a definite deadline. He is very emotional. He’s returning for his mum. He also said that he decided to give it a shot after thinking about what I said about never knowing the future and that if the opportunity came up to fight for me he would.
I can’t believe what he says. Like how I can’t believe my family and friends saying that I have to give it a go or I’ll never know if he’ll fall in love and stay // compromise. Right now, it’s getting me down. I’m terrified of falling and becoming heartbroken through fault of my own. I never normally take risks and I’m scared I’m being used to fulfil his needs whilst he’s here at university.
I’m torn between calling it off before I get any deeper into it or seeing if there’s a possibility of mutual love and drop of the deadline.
Am I being stupid? What should I do? Protect myself or continue giving it a shot.
I decided to give this a go because I’ve never been into anyone as much as him. I also have an open view of the future and believe that the future is entirely unknown, people change their minds and if someone is worth it you make it work. He is adamant and reminds me off it through every conversation that he is returning home with no intention of compromising or taking me with him (which I would be prepared to do - it has always been a dream of mine).
My friends have told me they think I should continue giving it a shot. They believe that not all relationships are destined to be long-term (which is still what I want). My family keep telling me that if he falls in love with me, he might stay, compromise or take me with him.
I can only at the minute rely on him saying there is a definite deadline. He is very emotional. He’s returning for his mum. He also said that he decided to give it a shot after thinking about what I said about never knowing the future and that if the opportunity came up to fight for me he would.
I can’t believe what he says. Like how I can’t believe my family and friends saying that I have to give it a go or I’ll never know if he’ll fall in love and stay // compromise. Right now, it’s getting me down. I’m terrified of falling and becoming heartbroken through fault of my own. I never normally take risks and I’m scared I’m being used to fulfil his needs whilst he’s here at university.
I’m torn between calling it off before I get any deeper into it or seeing if there’s a possibility of mutual love and drop of the deadline.
Am I being stupid? What should I do? Protect myself or continue giving it a shot.
