Ohk we've been friends for 2 years then finally decided to officially start dating then 2 months after making it official , I talked about making out then he actually thought I was talking about having sex which was awkward , we didn't talk for a while after that then , we started communicating again now he said instead of us meeting up and talking like we usually do he suggested I come over to his house and he mentioned we could make out since I talked about it and also thigh kissing which I fully don't understand the meaning to , doesn't that lead to sex or its just a normal thing because as he said I should wear a sexy pant , lolz so I'll have to open up my body #naked , he just doesn't understand I'm not fully ready for something this extreme , I really love him but I think he sexualises me too much. please i need your help what do you think i should do to help the situation.
How do you know if your boyfriend sexualises you beyond the average to know it's not love?
I absolutely hear what you're saying and this has to be one of the hardest things ever in any relationship it's usually the same scenario the guy is always the only one and the girls not ready the girl is always the smart one because she knows no matter what she allows one thing leads to another I mean I could tell you what I would do but that would be wrong for you probably you can compromise a little bit and I could tell you is that so so many different ways how to do this. But I'm not going to. you not less you ask me cuz I don't want to put it out there and then you do it one of them and doesn't work for you because I didn't take the time to understand what you were saying I would like to be straight-up honest with you and how to do about this or not go about this just remember be patient you're going to have to keep telling him over and over and you are the boss of your body don't let anybody else try to tell you any different you do it when you are ready if you can't respect that then he doesn't love you do it he should love you
Sounds to me that you two have a need to communicate. That communication, that talking and clearing the air of the fog of misconception and misunderstanding is best done almost any place relatively public, with you dressed a bit on the modest side. Going to his place, with sexy clothes, will give him the wrong idea, and that could well destroy the relationship. That's my thought from the top of my head. Other advice exists, and may be more correct than mine. In the final analysis, it is your being true to your beliefs and feelings that count. Best of success.
I think his behaviors are completely normal as he is your boyfriend and you have known him for quite a while. You need to openly communicate that you aren’t ready. If he doesn’t respect it, that’s when he’s putting sex over caring about your thoughts
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You MUST talk to him and tell him how you feel. He's not sexualizing you anything beyond what's "normal", but you can't expect him to know how you feel either. You were friends for 2 years before this, and now you're together, and wanting to be intimate with you is normal (and he's likely been thinking/wanting this for a long time, probably thought about it long before it was "official"). So just talk to him and tell him how you feel, and be completely open and honest about it. Don't worry about it either, you'll feel much better afterwards.
You can never know your partner’s thoughts. All you can know is their behavior. If you are looking for a sign that they want to stay with you long-term, forget it. People can be perfectly loving for years all the while waiting to meet the person they really want. Or even if they had no notion of wanting someone else, suddenly they meet the love of their life and they go to be with them. If you are happy now that’s as good as it gets.
Two years is a long time. It doesn’t sound abnormal. He has probably been thinking about it much longer than you have I am guessing. Communicate what you want. Talk about everything, including your expectations and then listen to his. If you both care about each other and want to make it work, you will meet somewhere in the middle.
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You should tell him he should sleep with other women for the time being because you're not to that point in the relationship. It helps everybody. He'll stop obsessing about you. He'll be satisfied. Everybody wins.
