People are fucking parasites. It’s YOUR debt, not his, that makes it YOUR responsibility. The fact that you would think you are entitled to a cent of these winnings would prevent me from giving you any if I was in his shoes. If you were more humble about it maybe I’d share some, but this entitlement shit really rubs me the wrong way
You have such a misguided sense of entitlement that you are already making plans for his money. How very considerate of you. You're not his wife, you discouraged him over $5 a week that would not change his life if he lost, you are entitled to nothing. Stop worrying about his money, it's not yours to worry about. You're the selfish one.
And now you know what happens to money grubbing mutts when their true colors are revealed. If you kept your mouth shut and stopped trying to run his finances for him when he won, he probably would have given you more money and you would still be together.
Getting gold digger vibes no offense. I wouldn't have expected anything from him. Let him do smart shit with that money not pay off your debts. He can pay off yours after he makes more money being smart with it, but that's only if he wants to.
Wow. Imagine berating your boyfriends gambling habits, telling him against gambling (which is fine) and when he actually won, you dare want a piece of the winnings. How fucking hypocritical.
you shouldn't have done that. Now its too late. learn from it.
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Man I'm so glad there are normal pinks commenting here too, that don't agree with "forcing" him to share his won money. It is up to him for the courtesy and forgiveness.
@cookiecrusher Kinda gross, tbh. Taking up your own credit card bill then expecting others to pay for it. To each their own i guess. Glad i don't have people like that in my life.
sounds totally resonable to me. Like if you told me not to buy my 80 inch tv and i did anyhow, then as soon as i plug it in you think your going to control the remote control? HaHa. you should be more understanding of his choice to spend 5 bucks on a lottery. its a form of enjoyment to play for him probly so you should be kind about something someone wants to do to feel good.
It's technically his winnings. I understand your point of view, but asking after he won, is a huge red flag for guys. Just don't ask him about it, treat him like a person, be a supportive & caring girlfriend like he never won the money, and he might consider doing it on his own.
He is your boyfriend not your ATMA. He doesn’t owe you any money. It’s his money and he has 100% ownership over it all. It’s pretty shameless to even wonder about receiving a bit of it. Clear up your own debts on your own feet.
You messed up! Hahaha I'm happy for your boyfriend. So many people will ridicule others for their risks or ventures that may not not seem wise. I'm glad it worked out for him. You're looking to jump on the gravy train now that he's succeeded. You'd just as easily leave him if it didn't work out and he lost most his money. Plus you didn't pay anything in so equality works both ways :P
Well for starters he's your boyfriend, not your husband so he has no financial obligation to you whatsoever. You may have been "realistic" with him but can't expect to be unsupportive then cash in when he hits. You should be thankful if he takes you out for dinner or a nice little weekend getaway
Supportive or not, you're still his "girlfriend", right... in all other ways. If he excludes you from any "benefits" of his windfall, the scenario is clear: the money is more precious to him than you are. Your opinion on the odds of winning a lottery are sound. He's one of the fortunate ones, but his feelings for you are obviously, unfortunate. Good luck as you move on.
What a bunch of losers here. They agree that because you didn't support the idea of lottery investing, that you should be cut out of his lucky hit... even THOUGH you're still his girlfriend, no matter what. Money changes everything. I'm sticking with my comment. You deserve better. Pay off your credit card debt and be gone.
"I really would have liked more but thus will be enough to pay off my credit card (((so it’s a win))) I guess" THIS comment, those words speak volumes about your character and fitness to be his girlfriend. Relationships are not a win-loss thing. I'm going to stop right here.
Pay attention the way he's treating you because no matter what the excuses it is not hand you any money and you are a team you are a couple boyfriend girlfriend whatever that's exactly how he's going to treat you later on in life except for Worse
Did you forget the part where she nagged him for years, and now is entitled to it? You can start talking about a team after marriage. The way most women just use men for money, paying off debt and such then moving on in regular dating is great reason not to.
And we all know he would have given her some if she was a supportive girlfriend and after winning wouldn't act entitled and bitchy.
Lol I hear you and to this day she probably still nagging she has to understand that they're not married he can do whatever he wants with it my point to her was she gets to see him for his true colors of who he really is I doubt this relationship will last much longer anyway because she's going to beg him to death and he will always play on her mind videos of stingy person it's a part of life she either accept it or she doesn't it sounds like the guy's smart if he's going to invest 70,000 that's what should be done with it
Like I said take this as a learning moment he right now is showing you his true colors who he really is in life you're either going to accept him or you're not if you didn't accept him and you walked away I guarantee you in the $70,000 is over with his girlfriend cuz he will have a new girlfriend will break up with him because he's a straight-up Jerk it sounds like but no matter what that's his money and forget about that forget about all the money look and see who the guy really is right now in life he's big and he's bald and he has control he thinks because he has money when the money is gone he's right back down to zero if you're looking at the money you're looking at the wrong thing you should be looking at the person and you re really is he's telling you something right now it has nothing to do with money you're telling you exactly who he is I mean is he taking you out to dinner as a bunch of sexy clothes or is he bought you a pair of shoes as he bought you a dinner
On your up date you ask what you should do and do about the money re read everything you called him said about him then look at yourself do your same words towards him apply to you you getting back together with him or meeting with him is it about your love for him or the money you need to take a stand and pick one or the other what is the most important to you I understand where you're coming from to a point only and then there's a bigger better picture out there but you need to step out of and then look into I mean it's your choice I hope you guys can figure it out but I think everything you guys are gone through it's for all the wrong reasons good luck
He is being fair. You judged him & didn't support him. Just because you don't believe in it, doesn't mean he shouldn't. It's his money & choice. You should not of asked him for money he won without you. Clear your own debt. I wouldn't share with you either.
sorry, that money doesn't belong to you. you should have taken a different approach. you could let him know that a little debt help would be very appreciated and maybe you could do something nice in return. but you can't expect him to divide his winnings with you.
your fucked! you should say thank you for the 2 grand. he's the one investing it for "your" future because your "partners". maybe you should learn how to pay off your debts that way you'll learn how to not rack up credit card debt in the first place
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People are fucking parasites. It’s YOUR debt, not his, that makes it YOUR responsibility. The fact that you would think you are entitled to a cent of these winnings would prevent me from giving you any if I was in his shoes. If you were more humble about it maybe I’d share some, but this entitlement shit really rubs me the wrong way
Never, EVER pay a woman’s debts. It’s her responsibility. God I hate shit like this
You are his girlfriend NOT his wife. That's his money , What makes you think you deserve any of his money? Oh lord sure times had changed.
Even after marriage
@cookiecrusher True I don't understand why would someone be lazy and think their entitled to someone else's winning trophy. You are right.
You have such a misguided sense of entitlement that you are already making plans for his money. How very considerate of you. You're not his wife, you discouraged him over $5 a week that would not change his life if he lost, you are entitled to nothing. Stop worrying about his money, it's not yours to worry about. You're the selfish one.
Your debts are not his debts, you're just thinking about yourself when he got some money.
Wow, you need to step back and not get dollar signs in your eyes.
And now you know what happens to money grubbing mutts when their true colors are revealed. If you kept your mouth shut and stopped trying to run his finances for him when he won, he probably would have given you more money and you would still be together.
And he wasn't just investing in his future, he was investing in your too. Now just his future, because you couldn't stay in your lane.
Getting gold digger vibes no offense. I wouldn't have expected anything from him. Let him do smart shit with that money not pay off your debts. He can pay off yours after he makes more money being smart with it, but that's only if he wants to.
Your debts are your problem not his.
Wow. Imagine berating your boyfriends gambling habits, telling him against gambling (which is fine) and when he actually won, you dare want a piece of the winnings. How fucking hypocritical.
you shouldn't have done that. Now its too late. learn from it.
Man I'm so glad there are normal pinks commenting here too, that don't agree with "forcing" him to share his won money. It is up to him for the courtesy and forgiveness.
You're being unreasonable. You made your own debts, your responsibility to clear it up.
If you are genuinely happy for him, make sure to show it. Such a pity to let jealousy ruin a good moment for him.
Exactly, thank you👏
How is he being selfish?
I'm confused as to why you think you're entitled to his money?
Exactly, thank you.
I actually shocked about the majority of female comments. Guys are only like walking wallets to them and their needs.
They don't seem to posses the ability to be happy for the love of their life.🤔
@cookiecrusher Kinda gross, tbh.
Taking up your own credit card bill then expecting others to pay for it.
To each their own i guess.
Glad i don't have people like that in my life.
Yeah, wasn't chocked really, i was certain there was also a credit card or two maxed. New iphone did come out recently🤣
sounds totally resonable to me. Like if you told me not to buy my 80 inch tv and i did anyhow, then as soon as i plug it in you think your going to control the remote control? HaHa. you should be more understanding of his choice to spend 5 bucks on a lottery. its a form of enjoyment to play for him probly so you should be kind about something someone wants to do to feel good.
Very good analogy!
It's technically his winnings. I understand your point of view, but asking after he won, is a huge red flag for guys. Just don't ask him about it, treat him like a person, be a supportive & caring girlfriend like he never won the money, and he might consider doing it on his own.
Yeah, however women are quick to manipulate🤔
He is your boyfriend not your ATMA. He doesn’t owe you any money. It’s his money and he has 100% ownership over it all. It’s pretty shameless to even wonder about receiving a bit of it. Clear up your own debts on your own feet.
He won it, you didn't. Unless you happen to be married in a community property state, you have no say in it.
I would not be surprised though if he ends up wasting a good chunk of it on buying more tickets trying to win more.
If a guy broke up with me, I'd have moved on by now. No second chances, up to you though.
You were unsupportive and judgmental. Glad he’s not giving you any.
You messed up! Hahaha I'm happy for your boyfriend.
So many people will ridicule others for their risks or ventures that may not not seem wise. I'm glad it worked out for him.
You're looking to jump on the gravy train now that he's succeeded.
You'd just as easily leave him if it didn't work out and he lost most his money.
Plus you didn't pay anything in so equality works both ways :P
Well for starters he's your boyfriend, not your husband so he has no financial obligation to you whatsoever. You may have been "realistic" with him but can't expect to be unsupportive then cash in when he hits. You should be thankful if he takes you out for dinner or a nice little weekend getaway
Supportive or not, you're still his "girlfriend", right... in all other ways. If he excludes you from any "benefits" of his windfall, the scenario is clear: the money is more precious to him than you are. Your opinion on the odds of winning a lottery are sound. He's one of the fortunate ones, but his feelings for you are obviously, unfortunate. Good luck as you move on.
What a bunch of losers here. They agree that because you didn't support the idea of lottery investing, that you should be cut out of his lucky hit... even THOUGH you're still his girlfriend, no matter what. Money changes everything. I'm sticking with my comment. You deserve better. Pay off your credit card debt and be gone.
"I really would have liked more but thus will be enough to pay off my credit card (((so it’s a win))) I guess" THIS comment, those words speak volumes about your character and fitness to be his girlfriend. Relationships are not a win-loss thing. I'm going to stop right here.
Pay attention the way he's treating you because no matter what the excuses it is not hand you any money and you are a team you are a couple boyfriend girlfriend whatever that's exactly how he's going to treat you later on in life except for Worse
Did you forget the part where she nagged him for years, and now is entitled to it?
You can start talking about a team after marriage.
The way most women just use men for money, paying off debt and such then moving on in regular dating is great reason not to.
And we all know he would have given her some if she was a supportive girlfriend and after winning wouldn't act entitled and bitchy.
Lol I hear you and to this day she probably still nagging she has to understand that they're not married he can do whatever he wants with it my point to her was she gets to see him for his true colors of who he really is I doubt this relationship will last much longer anyway because she's going to beg him to death and he will always play on her mind videos of stingy person it's a part of life she either accept it or she doesn't it sounds like the guy's smart if he's going to invest 70,000 that's what should be done with it
Like I said take this as a learning moment he right now is showing you his true colors who he really is in life you're either going to accept him or you're not if you didn't accept him and you walked away I guarantee you in the $70,000 is over with his girlfriend cuz he will have a new girlfriend will break up with him because he's a straight-up Jerk it sounds like but no matter what that's his money and forget about that forget about all the money look and see who the guy really is right now in life he's big and he's bald and he has control he thinks because he has money when the money is gone he's right back down to zero if you're looking at the money you're looking at the wrong thing you should be looking at the person and you re really is he's telling you something right now it has nothing to do with money you're telling you exactly who he is I mean is he taking you out to dinner as a bunch of sexy clothes or is he bought you a pair of shoes as he bought you a dinner
On your up date you ask what you should do and do about the money re read everything you called him said about him then look at yourself do your same words towards him apply to you you getting back together with him or meeting with him is it about your love for him or the money you need to take a stand and pick one or the other what is the most important to you I understand where you're coming from to a point only and then there's a bigger better picture out there but you need to step out of and then look into I mean it's your choice I hope you guys can figure it out but I think everything you guys are gone through it's for all the wrong reasons good luck
He is being fair.
You judged him & didn't support him.
Just because you don't believe in it, doesn't mean he shouldn't. It's his money & choice.
You should not of asked him for money he won without you.
Clear your own debt.
I wouldn't share with you either.
Thank you
sorry, that money doesn't belong to you. you should have taken a different approach. you could let him know that a little debt help would be very appreciated and maybe you could do something nice in return. but you can't expect him to divide his winnings with you.
your fucked! you should say thank you for the 2 grand. he's the one investing it for "your" future because your "partners". maybe you should learn how to pay off your debts that way you'll learn how to not rack up credit card debt in the first place
If you were married, not fair. But I do side with him on this.