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Boyfriend won some money in the lottery but won't share because I was "unsupportive." Is he being unfair or am I being unreasonable? (Page 6)
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My question is
Why do you think you should get some money?
Did you support your boyfriend?
Let this be lesson
I agree with your boyfriend
You don't deserve a penny
Be lucky he doesn't upgrade to another girlfriend
It's your own fault for making fun of him for buying tickets. He invested, you didn't, he earned it, you didn't.
Check yourself before you wreck yourself
I think its fair. He won the lottery its his own winnings unless its your money he spent on playing that game you would get a share.
Nah, he's being fair.
You're his girlfriend, not wife. You're only due what he wants to give you.
If you didn't spend money on the ticket/card whatever it was, it's not your money.. you didn't spend money on it, so therefore, it's not your money
SORRY
I hope you don't get that money either
ITS NOT YOUR FUCKING MONEY. YOU DIDN"T FUCKING GAMBLE IT. IT IS NOT YOURS
He may be being a little selfish, but he doesn't owe you shit. Especially because you weren't supportive. You should have established before that if he wins he'd give you some percentage...
“Punish” you? Really? If I was him I’d be out the door
It is his money and his to do with as he pleases... If he wants to give it all away to the homeless guy on the corner can't he do that? It is his to do with as he pleases...
Just out of curiosity, what street corner are we talking about?🤔💩
I will have to agree with your boyfriend. But make no mistake, this is the perfect time for you to leave him and find someone who will consider your good advice
Key word your his GIRLFRIEND your not entitled to anything of his. are you married to him no do you have kids by him probably not so why should he share any of it with you then?
Your boyfriend is right.
Do you love him or love his money.
If i was him or his mste. I would make you an ex
Even warn the police his life is endanger from you.
Stop over pricing your vagina
This made me laugh. You're not married so he owes you nothing.
Smart man, that's all I can say
Investing would be smarter still
Maybe he's just teasing you. But he doesn't have to share it with you.
I am disgusted at this question and many of the female responses here, including some women who have claimed elsewhere to be feminists. Truly disgusting.
The hypocrisy and entitlement of so many modern women is just insane.
I'm happy to hear he dumped you. Smart move.
Don't say anything about the money. It's his, not yours, and you have no right to any of it. If you care about HIM, and not his MONEY, then be contrite and try to be a good woman. Otherwise, leave the poor guy to find a good woman who isn't a gold digger.
I mean you’ve been together 3 years and you’re not married? Then he doesn’t want to share? Where is this relationship even going, what’re you doing?
The relationship ain't gonna last. Op better leave the relationship lol
What's not being married got to do with it?
And it's only been 3 years, so what if they aren't married?
You are very disobedient
you should not backtalk your master
and if you live together he she manage
all the money
Master? This is not the 1700's
Sorry Master, I was super busy yesterday. I'll PM you later.
FYI, it's 2022, and his name is Master.
@youngmix I am so pleased with you right now, it's orgasmic.
If you won I bet youd share with him. Sadly a lot of people are self absorbed. He doesn't have to share it with you its too bad he doesn't see it as an investment to help you with your debt.
Enabling somebodies debt habbit, is not investing.
He should invest that money into realestate rentals or plot of land and 5x it in 20 years. That's investing
You can invest into people as well. Its not enabling it. Its looking out for the woman he loves unless he doesn't see her as forever but temporary.
I get it she wasn't supportive of it and at the end of the day its his money. But why rub it in her face?
The end of the day the money means more than her.
Investing into self or others is learning/teaching them. Not throwing money at their poor decisions, and doing the opposite of teaching. She isn't starving, she is doing fine, just feels entitled.
If she nagged him for years, you think she didn't nag him when he won to share? And we also only hear her side, which is already sugarcoated to make her look better.
How do you know her debt = poor decisions?
I know my debt was from someone who stole from me.. bank was a piece of shit didn't believe me so I left the bank won't ever return!
Its paid off now just have student loan debt. Which education isn't ever a waste!
Each to their own. If I won I would share with my man. I hope hed share with me but if he didn't that be fine cause of how well he treats me and how we communicate.
Money isn't everything but sadly this world revolves around it.
As it often is, most people use loans to buy shit they can't afford, yes even pointless degrees fall under that.
Money isn't everything, yet universaly none of you women date down? Stop the BS 😗
And how is throwing your own 💩 at the love of your life to handle, when you are doing fine? Just selfish and entitled.
And her degree is shit if she can't even pay it off, and makes a huge drama over 7k
Thats why you dont get a loan without a budget... didn't go to university went to college its the same thing and mine is pretty much gone now.
I hate the term dating down!!! A person isn't determined valuable cause of their education, credit rating, looks. Why do people forget that. He didn't even finish high school past grade 10. he's extremely wise and he taught himself he also teaches me cool things.. like how to build a computer or light socket , how to change a tire... I enjoy those things... I want him to teach me how to use a powersaw I kinda wanna get into carpentry not go to school for it just make furniture on the side for fun. We made a sliding barn door together. Why put useless limits on love?
I dont understand the last paragraph.. I paid off the roommate that stole from me before I met him. I didn't throw any of my shit at him.
Anyone one who knows me knows im not selfish or entitled. So you can shove that up your ass!
Was talking about the question poster and most women here and there being very selfish and entitled.
Trust me, us men hate that term too.
But that is how women judge men, based certain height, make more than them, they handle making less for a short period of time when the guy is trying to make more.
If he can't or doesn't want to it's bye bye.
Tiny % of women are different. Although i do wonder how would you look at him if he didn't have anything to teach you, like most men have it with their women partners.
Women in general likes to make her problems our problems. Thus throwing their problems at their partner.
We have to educate ourselves cause I know I didn't learn many life skills in high school, college or from my parents at some point people have to learn for themselves and stop making excuses for why they dont know.
We are all born into dumbness 😗, so it's pretty equal for men and women, the starting point.
Yes I agree most people are selfish why I tried to word mine kindly. But still say its his money and its okay if he doesn't want to invest it into her.. like she would for him... I assumed cause I learnt not everyone has the same heart as me so I guard my heart and I dont lend money anymore.. I give money away when I feel led too... not to organizations that I dont know if it ever gets to the person but to random strangers.. I dont give beggers money I give them gift cards to grocery stores or restaurants.. put today a gift bag with toliet trees (sp? Lol I think you know what I mean) if the person is just lazy than that could be a thing but I like giving directly to the source in a way I know it won't go towards a bad habbit.
Not everyone who begs I feel led to give to. I trust that inner voice.
Yes the height thing makes me angry just hearing through my mans eyes he told me this is the first time he has ever felt truly loved. I have dated short and tall men.. I wish more women realized height has nothing to do with a good man!
I've dated from 5 ft - 6 ft 5.. im 5ft.. 6ft 5 was the shortest relationship I ever had.. met him at work seemed nice first week of dating he wantd sex I am someone who honestly believes any man and woman can have sex but what about life ambitions and goals? He attempted to force himself on me I felt trapped so I just said okay let me undress you first pulled down his pants didn't even look at his package and ran to my car. Anyone who jumps into bed without really knowing them is a red flag he was definitely the hottest guy I dated looks wise.. he tried to apologize at work saying most girls think its hot but he thought I was hot... I said dude your attitude makes you the worst I have absolutely no interest in you at all anymore... please leave me alone lets go back to being strangers.. height has nothing to do with if a guy is a good guy or not. My man now is 5ft 4.. I couldnt ask for better.. when I was dating another short guy this tall guy tried to hit on me in a coffee shop about 7 years ago now... my man at the time and I would take turns paying for each others drinks.. this guy held the door for us.. I said since you held the door you can go ahead of us he said no im in no rush.. so its my turn to pay and this stranger comes up on my side and says shame on you to my ex letting a lady pay for you.. the cashier is laughing I said debt a few times and the stranger hands her the cash for both of us.. he said you need a real man and puts his arm around me.. I threw it off me and said thanks I have one.. grabbed Brentons hand and walked out.
Tall guys sometimes think they are more desirable I think before women mature or aren't babied they have those stupid expectations. We can't determine our height. I want to fall in love with the person inside the outter shell... the outter shell changed but if you find a genuinely good person thats all that matters.. as much as I like to say I dont have a type I do but im not shallow to only date my type when I thought it could work I tried it.
I used to think without an education youd be in a dead end job but my man makes almost $2 more than me an hour and I couldnt be more proud of him so many times we grow up with our parents opinions abd they become our own without investing things for ourselves. So those women who have thought they were above you for whatever reason.. aren't good enough for you.. think of it this way you dodged a bullet! Be confident in who you are abd what you have to offer and the right woman will love you entirely and essentially the rest of the women's opinions dont matter!
I believe I would cause most the men I dated didn't teach me anything thats what makes this one so unique.
You said women in general likes to make her problems our problems. Thus throwing their problems at their partner.
This is true. Personally why I think this happens because women have a hard time thinking logically when they are emotional. Men have a better ability with it. Also women feel safe sharing their problems with their man... men seem to think we want them to fix it but a lot of times all we want is an ear to vent to. To get it out so its not troubling us... what safer place is there than with your man? Also might have to do with her relationship before she was with you some men can be very controling and make her feel like her wants her choices aren't good enough hense why I think people are indecisive they are afraid of upsetting someones feelings. It may not be a pervious boyfriend but also a family dynamic that caused it.
Essentially none of us perfect.. a relationship takes work not just starting a relationship but making it last. Loving beyond the mistakes up front tell them your under no circumstances will I continue in this relationship if this happens fill in the blank... ours are unfaithfulness and abuse. A relationship is a two way street whats good for one should be good for the other. Also I find talking through flashbacks that happen make them feel less real even tho that threat is no longer here.
I guess I have come to realize the grass may look greener on the other side of the fence. Figure out why I think that.. what is it that I think is missing and speak to Matt about it. he's done the same with me. I wish this or that. Or it bug me when you do this or that... too much of the time we are too concerned with defending ourselves we dont put the effort in to change the behavior or its just a miscommunication.. when you focus on your own grass it will be the greenest on the block! Perfect love casts out all fear! Also so many times we take what happened to us previously into our new relationship.. the past is the past leave it there. there's a reason the windshield is so big and the rearview window is so small. I wish you all the best!
You don't have to look at porn to know that "assholes" come in all shapes and sizes.
Tall guys have bigger egos as most women prefer them, so they think they can get away with much more, and often can. Then again, short guys tend to have a complex and over compensate.
Yeah, education isn't everything, i started as a regular welder, now i'm pretty much retired.
Youtube has a pretty interesting channel called "its complicated" asks a lot of deep questions from men and women about dating and relationships.
I think most people would benefit from learning how the opposite gender thinks/acts
Haha so true!
Yes thats definitely a part of it I think another part of it might be their upbringing! My man was raised by a single mom as the oldest; he had to quit school to work to put food on the table. His sisters both finished plus have secondary education. To this day he still does all the upkeep to his moms house. I think the more the parents spoil the child the more entitled they act. We can be our own worst enemies.
Retired cause of covid? Could go into business for yourself!
Never heard of it. I really enjoy the youtube channel women of impact.. im not a feminist so dont even go there.. it covers really good topics! Ill check that out yes definitely wed be better off learning about the other gender but also each individual man/woman will handle things differently. Cause not all of us fit the status quo for example I have always hated shopping even long before covid.. much rather walk in nature with my dogs thats probably my favorite thing to do!
We all learn as we go... we never finish learning even sometimes we have to unlearn things that aren't beneficial to our growth example all men ever want is sex. Or a woman only loves a man with deep pockets sometimes they want to create division among us cause were not us strong if were divided.
I'm sure that this experience and the need grow up fast both helped him and also holds him back to enjoy his life more.
Nah, because i don't have to work anymore, i have plenty. I also have 2 running businesses, in making welding robots and other welding stuff.
Yes, apes together strong😅 (i don't know if you got the reference)
Yes he has big dreams hense mentioning id pay for his GED cause I believe in him. His mom I love her I appreciate her a lot but she hold him back guilting him to take care of her being the only boy in the family. Not his fault she hasn't tried to find another man... putting fear into him about everything... I litterly had to ask him who is he dating me or his mom? She tries to help but sometimes keeping your nose in your own business is helping. We discuss things she over hears abd says Matt do you really want that? Things we have talked about for years but when push comes to pull his mom guilts him back to do what she wants of him. At the same time I have never met a man like him. That what he does is enough. I moved in during covid after the second wave so thankful for everything can never repay them enough. But ill be moving out shortly. I can't afford anything close to his work. Plus Id prefer country life. He understands that and we will go back to seeing each other on weekends cause I was in a better state mentally. Not having his mom say Matt doesn't like that but yet he asked me for it. I miss my own space not sharing everything with his mom and sister. His other sister lives 5 mins away.
Was a big adjustment for me to go from my own space to sharing everything to things I want being in the way! He knows im not happy and he agrees very supportive. They also used to smoke in the house it bothers me... now they smoke in the garage.. I smoke weed outside cause the smell bothers his mom so I wait 10 mins before I come in. Just miss my own space.. dont care if he just comes up weekends or if he gets a new job. I am satisfied with his love that having him immediately beside me 24/7 isn't needed. If he wants he can break up with me.. but as for me I know there's no one else for me. I was on my own for years before him id be fine again.
Thats amazing at 32! Wow! Im impressed!
Yes we are apes together strong! Honestly I googled it.
Yeah, his mom, needs to step up and send his kid free.
Needs to realize that she is wasting his best years and causing him more stress and hindering his romantic relationships.
It's a very common problem, it's called a son-husband.
Huh ill have to look into that didn't know it had a term thank you! I didn't realize it until I moved in.. he's worth it tho but at 36.. at this point I have started to wonder if he's just telling me what I want to hear. I am happy with him I love his mom more than my own his mom has been to me like what I wish my mom would be like.
Im thankful for everything but there comes a point I want my own space and he can choose where he wants to be. Sorry I ended up venting hah see its a female thing. I swear. Last thing I want to do is cause problems between him and his mom. Thats all ill say about it!
I am prefectly happy on my own but the right man does add value to your life! He does bit he's different around his mom. Shits gonna hit the fan when I move out. I can see it now so im gonna give her an extra months rent even tho I won't be here.
Some people just complain about everything thats bad never get up and fix it. I had seizure in 2020 was hard for me to take care of myself my landlord raised the rent. My dad abd Matt were helping me.. I was an hour away from Matt.. where I grew up.. things were going up abd down so dad said I had to move back in with them abd give my cats to Matt. I said no their cat doesn't get along with other cats. As I was praying about what to do. Matt asked me if the animals and I wanted to move in with him so thats what I did.
I have figured out how to manage things now better. They helped me get back on my feet. Gave me a wonderful environment to heal now its time this birdy flyes away hopefully her mate follows but I have no control over it. I have made peace with whatever happens. Time for a change.
He might need your help getting out of that situation, i'd suggest talking to him about what he wants in life and etc could lead the convo there.
Could maybe find a solution that works for everybody, decent men and women (partners) don't come by very often, so could be a good idea to fight a bit for it, even if uncomfortable, like living together etc😗
So true!
Gonna surprise him with supper made when he comes home today. I think I found something new wed both like. He has a hair appointment right after work so he's probably gonna be hungry when he comes home
"Sadly a lot of people are self absorbed" You're saying this while ironically standing up for the very woman who is self absorbed and thinks she is entitled to things she has no entitlement for. Just because he (in his very right) doesn't want to pay off HER debts, because she is NOT his wife and she was NOT supportive, in the first place, doesn't make him "self absorbed". It's funny how she doesn't support him in the lottery tickets, but then wants to benefit when things DID go right, despite never actually supporting him on it. That's called wanting your cake and eating it too.
Learn the difference between investing and giving away money to people who are not only not entitled to the money, but are probably going to leave eventually.
He has no obligation to give your money grubbing ass any of it. In fact if i was dating you and heard your demands id probably dump you.
The question should have been. “What are we going to do with YOUR money?”
Maybe if you wouldn’t act so butt hurt. He would send a little your way! Or you could start charging him for sex?
Not many guys or girls would think about investing their winnings. Most would be thinking of ways to blow the whole load and have nothing to show for it.
What would you have done with the money if he would have given you half of it?
He seems to have a good head on his shoulders and would make a good keeper.