Would you let your partner know if you took a pregnancy test if it came back negative or would you keep it to yourself and not freak your partner out?

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So i was debating if i end up doing a pregnancy test and it came back negative to tell him or not.. the relationship is new. I dont want to freak him out even before taking the pregnancy test when there's a good chance there's nothing to worry about

Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

You should let them know because there's nothing like the topic of pregnancy (real or theoretical) which can give you a great insight onto their True nature - what their ideal 'pregnancy' situation is, and how well they can accommodate new input (what your own values and beliefs are).

Pro-choice and Pro-life differences can be make it or break it situations in all combinations.

In my opinion, its really shitty to be pro-life, but also refuse to 'be there' for the mother because you imagined life differently. If he's pushes for theoretical abortion and you would want to keep it, he might want to weigh his options because he is grown enough to admit he wants to grow more.

I feel like men are 'shielded' from these conversations and they should be actively included in all scares, celebrations, etc. They need to face the cold hard moral reality that women do: having sex could lead to pregnancy and they have a moral imperative to recognize their part in it.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

Yes, the minute you think a pregnancy test is necessary, that's to me when the partner should be told.. Because obviously if you feel the need for a pregnancy test, that means you guys had unprotected sex... And if it's positive, he needs to know that... And if it's negative, then he still has a right to know he had a close call, and he can decide if he wants to keep taking a chance with unprotected sex or start protecting himself from another close call or unexpected/unplanned pregnancy... The same choices you have

CuriousJC · Accepted Answer

It's better to not tell them that your pregnancy was a negative or positive because sometime people are not ready to become fathers to woman's children. God only knows that if I ever got a woman pregnant came out positive, this will be me in this picture. If my family found out that I'm becoming a father to a woman's child, they would mutilate Me horror movie style without even a second thought or an explanation or without me explaining it. My family thinks I don't have the higher brain function because I refuse to let them control my choices and free well so I'm mentally retarded for it though. For the safe side, its better to wear a condom and wait for you to be actually ready to make that giant step in that relationship. I mean Rocky boxing training type ready to move on to being a mother and have a family with your new boyfriend.

ObscuredBeyond · Accepted Answer

If we've done the deed, full disclosure on results is a must. I would love to hear the test results, even if it's not what I wanted to hear initially. Stuff like this comes with responsibility strings attached later. I need to know how many, and be able to plan for what it'll cost me. At this stage in life, I'd be overjoyed if the result were positive. But I'd accept a negative outcome. And if you wanted a child too, I'd say: "We can always try again."

Most women don't need that line explained. So tell him in that scenario you're in where to meet up and when. And better luck next time with trying to get pregnant!

Maxiebleu · Answer

I would tell him, secrets is never a good thing to have.
Also, since you said you have been on and off your birth control, I’m sure your body is just confused. I would get a Dr apt with a obgyn and get tested to be safe. She can also get you a different birth control that helps not make your periods irregular. Doing that will help setting up when is best to get pregnant and when not to etc.
just a personal advice/opinion from myself, is if you guys really want to have kids but are still new to the relationship part, I suggest waiting awhile until you get to know him better. I would hate for something to not work out and you would be a single mother. Not that it is a bad thing at all. But it’s definitely hard for sure.

magiusX26 · Answer

he needs to know too. for the sake of communication if nothing else. better if you tell him before taking the test really. that way he can also try to help you through ypur (most likely) anxiety/ies and afterwards (depending on your stance/sand belief/s) work through what ever options need to be worked through. as well as (say its negative) having an honest discussion on your future plans on kids with things like should you (both) be more cautious in prevention, should you both try again (not unheard of that such an incident triggers you both to want to get pregnant) , or to maybe cool it for a bit.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

I said on another question about BC and unprotected sex.

before you have sex without a condom, you sit down and talk about pregnancy and what happens if she gets pregnant, needs to take a pregnancy test etc.

if both of you are not happy to do the pregnancy thing, then condom stays on.

If you are not able to talk openly about taking pregnancy tests, the condom stays on.

Trust works both ways and in all ways.

bones_20 · Answer

If it was me I’d talk to him about it before taking the test because for one I’d be absolutely freaking out myself and two I feel that’s the sort of thing he should be involved in as well. The choice is totally up to you tho.
Be more careful when having sex so it won’t come to this.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

I would talk to him about it before I felt the need to even take the test, that I am late and/or sick. Right now he would want to be there with me when I took it, then we could see the result together.

I get it though, if your relationship is a little different, maybe not as close or strong or it is a friends with benefits or something you may not want to do that.

TheorionMage · Answer

For MOST people, they skip common sense birth control in favor of the passion and convenience of the moment.
So, you're either "dodged the bullet" or need to try again and again until you conceive...
EITHER way, it took BOTH of you to do the deed, you (pl) will either be relieved,
having stupidly 'rolled the dice' and let "Nature" take its course~

integrale77 · Answer

I would say tell them, remember your not just telling them you had a negative pregnancy test. Your also telling them that your where worried that things had slipped up somewhere and you thought you had gotten pregnant.
So him now knowing you had that worry he can now know how he has to support you be it just emotionally or be it him taking more active responsibility over birth control.

BipBipLeddus · Answer

No. There's no real reason to bring it up unless it's big news. Imagine if everyday your partner walked into the house with a big smile and said "great news, I just checked the oil in the car and it's fine. we don't need an oil change yet"

The only response is "... Okay."

Anonymous · Answer

Last year I got pregnant to my boyfriend and we both freaked out because we don’t want kids and I was diagnosed as infertile years ago because of severe PCOS. So anyway, ever since getting pregnant last year, everytime I start to feel sick or my stomach hurts or I get the same symptoms that I had when I was pregnant, I take a pregnancy test because of paranoia and always tell my boyfriend the result. It would be stupid not to let him know.

EmmaMary · Answer

Just be open, honest and tell him. Communication is the essence of a successful relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

I would say tell him if it's weighing heavily on your mind and you're going crazy about it, say something or obviously if the test is positive, say something. Otherwise, if the relationship is super new and you're not actually pregnant, there isn't anything to tell other then the next time you have sex, you guys both need to practice safer sex if you don't want a repeat of this situation.

Subarugirl · Answer

If you're comfortable letting your partner put their dick inside your body, you better be comfortable talking about the possible consequences of that action.

Jasmine-Darkfire · Answer

I'd be freaking out if I thought I needed to take one and probably a mess, considering I've never had sex. I wouldn't even know who to let know that it came back negative, maybe God?

TrueConfection · Answer

Are you two trying for a baby or it's just a test because you thought you could be pregnant? Does he know you took a pregnancy test? Those things make a difference.

lilyanony1 · Answer

I'd let them know, this would be the perfect opportunity to gage how we feel about the subject and discuss either improving our preventative methods or go ahead and try for a baby.

Confused6333 · Answer

I think it’s completely up to you! Every situation is different.. for me, my boyfriend and I have been talking for a year and a half now about trying to conceive this year and in a few weeks I’m going to be taking a test. If it’s negative I probably won’t say anything about it, just because there’s no reason to for me.. now if it’s positive I’m planning on giving it to him in a gift box 🤣

Youryeodongsaeng · Answer

The most Me thing I'd do and say: I'd tell him that the test is negative and say, "Your dick works good, but your sperm didn't do what it was meant to do."

CurlyGirl42 · Answer

I would do the test with him, not something I want to keep a secret at all.

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

I don't think it's necessary. I take a test like every 2-3 months just incase. I've probably mentioned to my partner that I do this. But no point freaking him out when I know it'll be negative

Adam1978 · Answer

It's a no change info, unless he is freaking out wondering if he slipped up. I see no reason to talk about status quo.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

If you two are serious... you have to learn to communicate with him. He is also responsible regardless if you are neg. or positive.

kmg9150 · Answer

Tell him, if hed leave over that then best let him go. Dont upset him so he says, goodluck with idea of a working relationship.

martyfrazier80 · Answer

Let him know it's time to stop spending money like crazy! That would be deceitful by keeping it a secret

_Angelsbaskett · Answer

Why would they freak out , but either way No if it came back negative then there really is no point in saying anything

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

If you're trying for a baby or if you're pregnant then yes you should let them. It's irresponsible to keep them in the dark because you're afraid of a freak out.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn’t let him know because it’s not a big deal, not to not freak him out. If I thought that would freak him out, I’d tell him so he’d learn from his mistakes and be more careful in the future, whether with me or another girl entirely.

InYourHead · Answer

I wouldn't let them know. I've taken a bunch and never told anyone because they've anyways been negative

beebella · Answer

Why would I tell him if there's nothing to tell? Just seems like I'd be adding unnecessary stress, in my opinion.

GlassTop · Answer

Do yourself a favor and use contraception. Get a depo shot or implant instead of waiting to get pregnant and get an abortion like so many people love to do.

spartan55 · Answer

I guess birth control is an afterthought here... just mind boggling.

Cherry234 · Answer

If you get a negative test result then you don't need to tell him anything.

Flower7 · Answer

I wouldn’t tell him. A negative pregnancy test isn’t news.

supercutebutt · Answer

Are you confusing negative with positive? Your question really doesn't make any sense.

annabananna · Answer

If you are not trying to get pregnant and it’s negative I don’t see a reason to tell him unless it’s just something you feel you wanna vent about.

Nazorella · Answer

I don’t like using plastic so i always take test and doesn’t tell them.

Samoht_Sirrom1 · Answer

Negative mean not pregnant... Why would that"Freak him out"?

Azazeres · Answer

You could bring it up in passing, not being pregnant isn’t really a big deal, unless you’re trying to get pregnant.

Blackcupcake · Answer

he would know if there’s any reason for me to take a test…

moonpie89 · Answer

I'd keep it to myself especially if he's not suspecting it. If he's think I am then I would tell him that's it's negative

Becky316 · Answer

I would be nervous about it and I don't need extra nervousness

Anonymous · Answer

Why in the world would you not share such information with him? I will never understand why women feel like men don't have the right to know about their children.

Gingerguy33 · Answer

Communication is key in a relationship I would tell him

Wise4myage · Answer

If he's freaking out and thinks he got you preggo, then tell him. Otherwise, I say no.

TerryT · Answer

Because it's honest. Why stress a guy unless you're a bitch!

jahaims · Answer

It's best to balways share everything in a relationship

OddBeMe · Answer

If I were up the duck, I’d be too freaked out to care about their feelings.

theblacksheepcat · Answer

i would keep it to myself and make sure no mistake happen next time

Sheahohoho · Answer

I always have my boyfriend with me when i do tests so we find out together if i am pregant or not it is more romantic that way

Anonymous · Answer

I go to the doctor first to make sure. I’d probably freak out.

dustybiker · Answer

They are the first person I tell everything to.

Anonymous · Answer

57% of women are dishonest and don’t value a man’s trust

Anonymous · Answer

Why do you feel like telling him? It’s nothing false alarm.

Citizenkirk · Answer

Why would a negative test freak your partner out?

SenseiSeptred · Answer

It might take you a while to get pregnant.

driven159 · Answer

should never keep secrets ever

Anonymous · Answer

I would keep it to myself.

DepLogic2 · Answer

I wouldn't want to know

melanieeeB · Answer

I would say it

SecretGardenBlood65 · Answer

U should not it

Anonymous · Answer

You should tell him

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