Did I deserve this kind of rejection?

[Anonymous]

So the girl I talked to for 2 years rejected me. Like yes rejection sucks but I feel like this one was way below the belt. Like this one still hurts and I'm trying to get over it but it's hurting more every day. The picture of the rejection is linked to this but I want to know was this a fine rejection or was this way to cruel. Oh and heads up she never was clear in the begining like at all

Fair rejection

Low blow

[spuitkaas]

I think she was way too nice and apologetic in my opinion. Like you can apologize for maybe not being clear enough in the beginning, but she did tell you. Most people wouldn't care enough to give you this nice and respectful closure message when you reject someone.
It's not her fault that you ignored her statement in the beginning that she wasn't looking for a relationship. You apparently never asked for clarity what you guys were, so she couldn't really reject you either.
She just liked hanging out with you and maybe you interpret her friendliness for something romantic. Sure she could've been flirty somewhere in the contact you guys had, but you status of your company was coworker or even friend. If you see it as more and want to take things further, it's your responsibility to ask how she sees your company. She is not responsible to take care of your boundaries and your feelings. She did nothing wrong telling from this convo.
You should reflect on what type of effort, care or intimacy you give only to people you're dating vs friends and set boundaries in the future. Learn from the experience and move on.

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

This was a good and clear rejection, especially since you werent understanding when she stated she isn't interested in anyone. She shouldn't apologise if it wasn't understood in your part, so i dont know why she isn't sure if she should or not. Either way this was clean and not mean.

[ShadezMcgee]

She was civil with you, dude. I would say this was a fair rejection. I took two things from this post here. First, she was upfront with you at one point, be it in a direct way like she said saying she wasn't interested or in a subtle way telling you to not waste your time that you didn't pick up on. The second is more of a question, but why would you date a coworker?

[DaveJord]

Two years sounds brutal bro, I mean it sounds like she never cared about you from the start... but you dated for two years.

But in the end I voted Fair, for what ever the reasons something has changed or enough is enough for her. Time for you get over it and move on, respect that she was honest and took the time to say something instead f just ghosting.

[Subarugirl]

I didn't say they were dating just talking

[DaveJord]

@Subarugirl so I thought male anonymous was the asker... did I miss something or do you have more than one account?

Talking or dating... I guess its relevant if you are menacing words. Doesn't change my answer... she was never interested.

[Subarugirl]

* He not I lol

[Anonymous]

It's a fair rejection and she was very decent about it but yeah rejection sucks especially when you like that person. All you can do is pick yourself up, stay on mission and get on with living your best possible life.
It's funny that years ago in my teenage and early twenties I was rejected a few times by girls I liked and it hurt, they just didn't see me in a romantic way but I put it to the side and worked on myself built up some muscle, educated myself, went to college, got a good job and eventually they did see me in a romantic way and I dated a few of these girls that rejected me and that was great but in the end I rejected them not out of spite or just to use them for sex but because I felt they weren't on my level and I actually started hitting it off with younger more attractive women with less baggage and no kids. Like one of the girls who rejected me years ago and I dated for a while I actually married her younger sister. So chin up lad.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she was not very clear about her thoughts about your relation from the start, but you obviously also weren't since you only got a rejection years after of pursuing her. Of course it hurts if you thought you build something up and then it was not what you expected. Maybe this will teach you to be more clear about what you want earlier on.

[VikingWarLord]

She did you a favor, now focus on gettin that fuuckin money, you can replace her ten times over with hotter younger biitches now! Remember, you as a man don't have the CLOCK hangin over your head. SHE DOES. At 35 she will hit the wall, but you will be hitting your PRIME. Consider yourself lucky dude, now get that money and get as many hot 18 to 25 year old biitches you can find!

[NathanDavis]

well, she was clear from the start that she was not interested on anyone... and that included you

also, if nothing happened in two years, that's also a clear sign that she really was not interested on anyone

[molonski2]

Very fair , clearly stating what the situation was , it was you who was seeing far too much into the " relationship " , its been made clear now.

[Asker]

But to drag it on for 2 years instead of cutting it off from the begining? I'd rather her cut it off from the begining and not 2 years later

[molonski2]

Well yeah sure , clearly she didn't know what she wanted but you also should not have held out for 2 years.

[Ninania]

Where's the blow exactly? She's apologising all the way through.

[Asker]

I felt the blow where she said I don't know if I should apologize or not I just didn't like that I felt led on this whole time there's a lot of stuff that she did like ow what if I went to your house now or I wish I could eat your food and even saying yea I'll spend time with you next week and she flaked

[Ninania]

That's all part of dating and getting to know each other. If you weren't comfortable with it, set some boundaries. You weren't led on, either of you could've lost interest, that just happened to be her and she's letting you know. Very simple and direct. No blows whatsoever.

[RedStiletto88]

You have no idea how frustrating it is to be clear about not being interested in a guy that way but he keeps being persistent.


She was nicer than I have been in those situations.,

[Marie-Meh]

I'd say you don't deserve the rejection, but it was fair enough. She did apologize if ever she wasn't clear about the situation, but I'm also guessing there were some mixed signals that you got, thus explaining your feeling/stand.

[hahahmm]

Yeah.. because you were being a sucker. While she told you she didn't want anything she was getting banged by 3 other dudes and is probably engaged to a 4th dude already. But she got 100+ hours of free mental therapy and emotional support from you.

[Mistanuddi]

Jus find someone who fancies you. I wasted many times tryna get attention of girls who didn't care about me. But then you realise there was hot girls in the past that had a crush on you. Chase them instead. Much better for your ego. And better results

[Dragonstarterplus]

Where's the low blow at?

Anyway next time don't waste 2 years having a crush on a woman

[Daniela1982]

She told you from the start that she was not interested so it was your own stupidity and nothing else.

[Subarugirl]

What low blow? From the sounds of it you guys didn't date just talked... She apologized to if she gave mixed signals.. the real question here is why it took 2 years to figure out where you two stood.

[Buntyp]

Sorry, but based on what you present here, I don't see that she was being anything but a friend at work.

[slatyb]

You "talked for two years" ? No dating? That wasn't a relationship.

[Alyssa_11]

I’m a little confused. How can she say she had clear boundaries but spoke to you for two years?

[AvaOneLasTime]

Stop wasting your time with a single person over years. Keep trying, until you hit the lottery.

[Nagahime]

This makes like no sense plus she can't spell. Just move on, man.

[Hellraiser1984]

Try being the other guy and finding out about it. It sucks. She lied to me and the other guy too. That's pretty low.

[msc545]

A fair rejection and a good apology. That said, be glad you dodged this particular bullet before things went too far.

[Deserter]

She was super nice and fair. She did an excellent job of taking the sting away. She said she's not interested in anyone right now, not just you.

[JohnK123]

I mean yes and no
she apologized
but it’s not ure fault that u “crossed boundaries” and liked her thats natural

[Hanrej]

How exactly is this below the belt? Seems like a proper rejection to me.

[Dragonpurple]

I'm not sure how she could of done it better.

[exitseven]

It sucks but she did not really do this cruel.

[fonduegirl]

Did you seriously text your coworker I love you?

[joeldalton]

Just take your L and move on.

[Anonymous]

why are you wasting time women are prostitutes

[manfromsomewhere2]

thats confusing