I hit my boyfriend on his face and gave him a bruise that is very noticeable. What can I do to make it up to him?

[Anonymous]

We were fighting yesterday because there was a girl that commented on his Instagram picture saying he looked so cute even though she knows he has a boyfriend. I got so mad after he took her comment as a joke that I hit him with his ps5 controller on his face. He fell down and I started crying because I couldn’t believe I did that. He has a bruise on his face and his right eye is a little bit red still and it’s very obvious because he has light colored green eyes. He has just been quiet and serious with me now. He hasn’t been playful today at all with me. He still isn’t over it and I just feel so horrible because he wasn’t even mad. He was sad that I did that.

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Even though she knows he has a girlfriend*!

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Even though she knows he has a girlfriend because he has pictures of us together on his profile

[HollyK21]

Let it blow over, but in the mean time you need to get a handle on your emotions. It is Never ever ok to put your hands on or harm another person just because you can’t control your emotions. That opens the door to an abusive dynamic and I am sure you don’t want to be a violent person. Check yourself next time, because that was completely unnecessary.

[AndrésC64]

Let it blow over? If a guy hit a girl like that, would you be telling him to just "let it blow over"?

[HollyK21]

@AndrésC64 I’m sorry did you miss the part where I said “it is never ever ok to put your hands on or harm another person just because you can’t control your emotions”? Or did you just ignore that simply because I said let it blow over? There’s nothing for her to do about the situation right now, and the people who upvoted this comment have the sense to understand that. Go be ridiculous under someone else’s comment.

[AndrésC64]

You said, and I quote, "Let it blow over". It doesn't matter what you said after that. You are the one being ridiculous.

[HollyK21]

It definitely matters lol you look dumb. Go away now☺️

[HollyK21]

The sheer ignorance of this is absolutely brilliant. “You said and I quote”, as if I didn’t literally quote myself in the response to you lol.

[Youryeodongsaeng]

I also don't agree with "let it blow over" unless you're telling the Asker to vent her emotions to a thing rather than a person, then I agree. But at the same time, almost everything has consequences because the guy is going to go around lying to everyone that he got punched in the face at some bar fight or something. I would be wary of the girl too.

[HollyK21]

@youryeodongsaeng me saying to let it blow over is more about her giving him space and addressing what happened once the air is clear and they can discuss the situation when emotions aren’t running so high, if he’s even interested of course. Since she sounds like a very high strung sort of emotional person, I envision her pushing for forgiveness and conversation in an erratic fashion, and in my opinion that’s just the worse thing to do, and unfair to him as well. She needs to stay away, let him process this and come to her on his own. Of course not everyone has the same interpretation of what letting something blow over can mean, but given the context in which I used it, and followed it up with pretty lengthily condemning her actions, I figured my usage of the phrase made sense and I think some users understood that as well.

[Youryeodongsaeng]

Ah. It's weird but common how phrases have different meanings to them.

I agree. Talking about the situation whenever he's ready is ideal. Maybe that talk will be the one to finalize their decisions.

[PAcc92]

@Youryeodongsaeng There should be no talking, she needs to go to jail.

[HollyK21]

@youryeodongsaeng I agree with you. I’m sure for some that ‘let it blow over’ was ill perceived, but realistically they will probably get back together, she’ll try and fix what she’s done and whatnot. My only hope is that she gets it together, because that relationship will only work if she corrects herself and her behavior.

[HollyK21]

@PAcc92 let’s save that spot in jail for someone much more deserving. Don’t get me wrong, what she did was NOT ok and I said this in my statements. But I’d argue to say she’s either mentally ill or suffering from some internal issues, and she needs help. Given her response to someone else, it sounds like he is physically ok. So rather than be so judgmental, we should honor what this site is truly for and give helpful insight and advice. She needs guidance, so maybe offer some suggestions and pieces of knowledge that could help prevent this in the future. We can’t take this personal, it’s not for us to unless it was far more serious.

[fonduegirl]

You should heartily apologize and take him game shopping to show your commitment.

I myself tend to get violent ( surprisingly I have never laid a finger on my exes), but yes I've hit my friends. Not cool, man.

If he dumps you, it's justified. If he's upset, do take him out and do a little spoiling.

[Asker]

I am scratching his back as he sleeps. He loves it. My hands get tired though

[fonduegirl]

Keep scratching, kitty

[Asker]

Any other recommendations lol

[fonduegirl]

Shoulder massage...
Blow job...
If it were my brother, he'd like a new gameplay or something.

[Asker]

Your brother?

[fonduegirl]

He's young but his opinion should count, since he's male too

[PAcc92]

If a man did this to a woman you wouldn't be saying "Just take her shopping"

It's like some women are built with a lack of human empathy, like whatever Gene gives the capacity to not be a hypocrite is missing from them SMDH.

[fonduegirl]

@PAcc92 Thanks for crapping on my opinion. Now off.

[PAcc92]

It's not your opinion I'm crapping on, it's your hypocrisy.

You're a bad person, your opinion is just a symptom of that.

[fonduegirl]

@PAcc92 here's a diagnosis to baffle to psychologists lolololololol

[fonduegirl]

I love people making an abuser out of you

[PAcc92]

Because she abused someone. What she did is domestic violence there's no ifs ands or butts about it.

[fonduegirl]

@PAcc92 it's hard to distinguish abuse from accident. But try.

[PAcc92]

Yeah I'm sure if a guy got enraged and "Accidentally" smashed his girlfriend in the face you'd be so forgiving. An accident is if someone trips and falls, or if someone jumps out you and you take a swing. It's not an accident when anger drives you to hurt people.

Both people are pieces of garbage, both will have a continued pattern of abuse, neither should be tolerated.

[fonduegirl]

@PAcc92 You're being hetronormative here to win the argument

[PAcc92]

Well thanks for admitting I'm winning the argument (it's almost like I have objective reasoning and logic on my side!)

Your made up SJW word is flatly ignored, and also completely meaningless here, as the entire point is that Sex doesn't matter here, it's WRONG TO HIT PEOPLE.

Not a hard concept.

[fonduegirl]

@PAcc92 why didn't you give lesbian or gay example?

[OlderAndWiser]

There is nothing that you can do to erase this memory. You aren't in third grade; you can't say "I take it back" and undo the harm you've done. You have demonstarted your lack of ability to control your impulses and your proclivity towards violence. If you were my girlfriend, you would now be my ex-girlfriend with absolutely no contact for the rest of my life.

[PAcc92]

If she were mine she'd have gotten arrested and charges would've been pressed.

[ObscuredBeyond]

You overreacted, to be sure. But the sickos below saying you're beyond forgiveness had better watch themselves! One accident in the future, and they may be too chicken shit hypocritical to put themselves on that same list with you!

As some districts will put you in jail over something this petty, and turn a blind eye when police brutalize you ten times worse, I'd think twice unleashing your rage so recklessly again. I saw a video on YouTube earlier today, where a young woman protected her mother from the violence of her insane younger sister. The system decided to ignore the younger sister's criminal history, and ignore the evidence of the mother having been assaulted. Instead, countless resources were exhausted on railroading the older sister into prison, simply because her one effort to deflect a blow led to her scratching the younger sister by accident! The brat got off with a warning. The older sister went to prison. Since mom was illegal, they illegally revoked the older sister's DACA since before she even got to go to trial, and she was nearly deported!

Because railroading the least at-wrong party is something feds today beat off to.

Moreover, he was the recipient of that lady's antics, and tried to blow it off.

Your anger, if anything, was very misdirected. You were angry with her, not with him. He was the wrong target. I get you were jealous, but you handled it stupidly. I'd advise therapy, and talking to a minister.

You can turn this around still. But you need to handle jealousy smarter than that.

If the gender roles were reversed, and some dude were creeping on my hypothetical girlfriend, I'd be like: "Come again?"

Bait him into digging his own grave. Taking it out on her... would be more than a tad bit dumb. I don't get physically violent against her until she's threatening me - or my life's work - with damage or demise! Self-defense, basically.

So get your jealousy under control, and learn to direct it intelligently.

[Youryeodongsaeng]

If I was him, I'd hit your ass right back. You had no right in the world to hit him. That wasn't even a reason to get mad. You're lucky he took it as a joke. And how was he supposed to react to the comment? He probably felt nervous because he knew he was taken and so he took the comment as a joke. Why get mad at your own boyfriend for taking a compliment as a joke? I mean, I'd be kinda mad and would find it adorable if I had a lover who'd take that compliment as a joke because they were too dense to realize it as a compliment. (I'd find it adorable and I'd be somewhat mad if my lover was so dense that they took a compliment as a joke. But that's different if they have low self-esteem).
Does your boyfriend have low self-esteem as to why he took that comment as a joke? And you got mad at him because he was thinking low of himself? Because there are some people who do hit others because that person thinks so little of themselves, but not enough to make a visible bruise on them.
I have low self-esteem and whenever someone tries to convince me that I'm pretty, I'd always deny it because I know that's not 100% true about me. I may be pretty, but not enough to be considered pretty.

[Datboi65]

Unfortunately, hitting her in retaliation is not something he can do. It's very risky for men to do so, and she can make it appear in court as if he is the violent abuser. You don't want to give them any proof, because some women are evil and lie about this stuff. My advice for men going through DV is to record it so they can use it as evidence in court, unless she is armed and they have to act fast.

[Youryeodongsaeng]

@Datboi65 Yeah, it's sad how risky shit is when you're a guy. I pity the guys who hit back and get in trouble for doing so.

[Craftsman]

First, it is not his fault that he is cute.
Second, it is not his fault another girl finds him attractive.
Third, your momentary anger is not his fault.
Fourth, it is his fault that he has an impulsive and possessive girlfriend. Were it me, that would be remedied.

If he is smart, he will remain distant and serious to the point of severing the friendship with you. I would do that, were I in his situation. I have done so, for far less reason than what you have presented.

If you are smart, you will do something to manage your anger. Do it before someone shows you in a legal proceeding that you are a perpetrator of domestic violence. Domestic violence is a crime, in case that fact has escaped your mind. That holds true on the Federal as well as State level in the United States. Once law enforcement is involved, testimony from neither the perpetrator nor the victim can alter the course of legal proceedings. Injury to an eye, for example, is assault with bodily harm, and the eye is evidence, should such observation be made by police, protective services, or any 'mandated reporter' such as a nurse, doctor, social worker, counsellor or social worker.

There are anger management programs available. A search on-line using "Anger management classes near me" is one place to start. Enrollment in such a program on one's own initiative might help reduce potential penalties in a sentencing hearing.

To put it in perspective, you might consider that, no matter how cute another female person may find him, or how cute that other female may be, so far he has been with you. If that doesn't tell you anything, if you do not value that basic fact, then there is little anyone here can do to help you.

[Kaylove96]

Especially since it wasn’t his fault, you could’ve handled it way differently. I’m surprised he didn’t do anything back to you and he’s still with you! I think you can’t be in a relationship and you really need anger management classes and work on your jealousy and insecurities. You have to understand that of course other females are gonna think he’s attractive just like other guys can find you attractive. It’s how someone chooses to respond to people outside their relationship. That is definitely abuse and domestic violence and you can’t do anything to justify it and make it the same as before. You can’t undo it or anything. He’s gonna remember it and if he allows you the chance this time that doesn’t mean he won’t decide to leave you whether you keep it up or not. It is NEVER ok to do that to ANYONE NO MATTER WHAT! You seriously need to change immediately and work on your shit OR your relationship can just end, you’ll have to get your shit and be prepared if he doesn’t talk to you ever again

[Angelo75]

Well hun, if you (or whichever woman) goes to physical agression with me, it would mean the end of the relationship.

The world has shaped in a way that it's "semi ok" for a woman to hit a guy, but the guy can't do anything back. Making it easier for women to just say "oh sorry i lost my temper".

You want to do something to make it right? Get help on anger management. Not because you want him to stay, but because you want to "fix" your own issue of losing ur temper and get physical with him.
Don't sit and wait and think to do it later. Just start searching for help... right now!
And apologise to him for losing ur temper.
Do NOOOOOOOOOT apologise to him for being jealous or mad for his reaction. Because you had a justified feeling. It is the way you acted that is wrong.

And i'm not kidding. Get help.

[Freiburger]

You lashed out because of your insecurities and harmed another human being. You need to recognise this weakness in yourself, apologise for your actions, explain why you lost control and commit to working on yourself - something like: "I am very sorry I hurt you - this was not your fault. I was overcome with jealousy because I could not bear the thought of you being with her, but I realise that this is no excuse for my actions and I promise to work on myself." Then shower him with tokens of endearment and love until he feels better.

Your boyfriend's triggering comment was maybe not the best thing for him to say, but he didn't mean any harm by it and he did not deserve to be hit. You hit him because you expected affirmation from him that you are his one and only. It would help you going forward if you could voice this need more constructively, and see this affirmation in the way he treats you in other ways.

[Lliam]

Apologize profusely and offer to get naked and bend over his knee for a spanking. No safe word. He sets the limit. Record your offer so that he has no liability. Promise that you'll never do anything like that again and be extra nice to him from now on.

If he's a nice guy and loves you, he may forgive you. I mean, he's not permanently injured or anything. And getting to spank your sexy ass would be both payback and pretty damn hot.

You might also enroll in counseling in order to get in touch with your violent tendencies because this should be a wake up call.

[Datboi65]

You are an abusive girlfriend. So because some other girl flirted with him, you took your anger on your guy and physically assaulted him? You crossed a boundary, and things can never go back to how they used to.

Domestic violence is no joke. How he decides to react to it is up to him, and there's nothing really you can do to "make it up to him" if he doesn't want to forgive you.

My advice? Take anger management classes. Nothing he does justifies physical violence. Not even cheating. Cheating is horrible, flirting with other women is horrible, but DV is a crime that you can get arrested for. If he breaks up with you, respect his choice. Nobody should tolerate abusive behavior.

[Cherry234]

Get therapy. You shouldn't be in a relationship until you can control your anger and jealousy. Domestic violence can happen to both men and women. Even if your boyfriend forgives you for what you did, he won't forget what you did.

[KennethNoisewater]

I would just prepare to be single. I would consider that one to be your one freebie. If he doesn't break up with you for some strange reason and you were to do that again I would say prepare to get chin checked. Women don't get to walk around hitting dudes without consequences. I don't think men should ever a woman. It's a very unfair comparison between men and women and men should never take advantage of that. with that being said, I don't think men should have to eat punches from a insecure childish woman. If you hit someone you need to expect getting hit back. I believe you have officially killed your relationship. You desperately need to learn and grow from this. If he does break up with you, I feel you still need to make it up to.

[Danielle93]

Who on earth assaults their partners over an instagram comment? If you're a jealous freak, he needs to really run, not wall... run to the exit door.
I think he needs to dump ASAP and you should remain single and seek help. Then do not date until you have self-control o era your emotions. Getting emotional isn't ever a reason to hit others, much less your partner.

[Anonymous]

First off it is never okay to hit your man, or anyone tbh. Just imagine the outrage if it was the other way around, why isn't there this outrage now? He has every right to be angry, upset, annoyed- it would justify him breaking up with you!

Apologise wholeheartedly and ask him what you can do to make it up to him. Treat Him, take him out and try to regain that respect.

Secondly you might want to work on your anger, it wasn't even his fault!! He can't help who does and doesn't comment on his pictures, it's the girl at fault- if anything message her and nicely ask her to stop yourself ( don't be rude about it), or simply get your boyfriend to delete the comment or block her? All you had to do way say i don't like this please can you block her or delete the comment, how did that make you so angry?

[Twalli]

First of all he doesn't control her comments. So whether or not it's a joke has no bearing on him. She can find him cute even if he does have a girlfriend (which is what you meant). I'm not sure why your reaction to that was to hit him with anything, the instrument isn't important. If anything your issue should have been with the girl, although it would still be unreasonable as she didn't actually make a move on him. He probably needs time to adjust to the fact that you hit him. I'm guessing you've apologized and crying wasn't the only thing you did to express how much of an issue this is for you. If you haven't apologized do so immediately and then do things to show you're sorry. I don't know your life, but things that I do to show my girlfriend I love her include watching movies she likes, cuddling with her for hours, and changing the distance and time we spend walking my dog depending on how she's dealing with the weather (she can't deal with too much heat).

[David_Kek]

You could try not being a domestic abuser... that might be a start. Judging by your post, i don't think you quite understand how serious your actions are. Say he gave you a black eye because you just laughed off some other guy chatting you up, you honestly think that'd be a situation that "I'm sorry, what can i do to make you feel safe around me again?" would really be enough?
You are a domestic abuser with serious anger management issues. You need serious psychiatric help, and even then I wouldn't be surprised if he left you. You have got some serious introspection to do, with runs a little bit deeper than "What can I do to make it up to him?".

[blurpblurp]

First, you need to seek therapy.
You already said sorry but that was something your boyfriend would consider as red flag and he will be very cautious around you.

If you hit him for something someone else's did, girl... If I were your boyfriend, I'd be scared for my life. It was something that he didn't have control over yet you punished him for that. You probably were so blinded by rage but that was some serious issue.

Please, talk to a professional about your anger management.

[AndrésC64]

Wow. I hate to say it, but I don't think that there's anything that you could say to me if I were in his place. Just like no girl should ever put up with being hit by a guy, no guy should ever put up with being hit by a girl. There's just never call for it. If I were him, I'd be done. When I was still married, my wife tossed/through the TV remote and hit me. It wasn't intentional and she didn't do it very hard. But I came very close to just picking it up and nailing her with it. I've never forgotten that.

[luvstoned4him]

Understand this..

Even in a relationship , women will still pursue and comment on your boyfriend pics. That can't be helped. It's really up to him to stay faithful. However you seem to have a bit of a jealousy issue which can be dangerous if it gets way out of hand

[ohshee]

WTF That's so wrong you hit first of all that's something you both smile about and think to yourself or say that's not all that big boy has. she SHE was giving him a compliment she was saying something nice about him she's in a computer who gives a flying fuck what the fuck are you hitting him for there's nothing you can do because that was uncalled for that was just totally uncalled for I would tell you to get lost

[Lucy68]

As someone that's been in abusive relationships in the past that's not okay and i understand why he's being so standoff. I'm sorry but this was NOT ok and you should be lucky he didn't call the cops on you cause you could have been in jail. And for him this is not going to be forgivable. Talking is one thing but being violent is not okay.

[KatieB713]

That is called physical abuse (and a form of domestic violence, however you swing it).
What you did is soooo not OK...

If you want to make this up to him, you will need to show a significant level of you being sincere and it might take a while. You trying to justify the reason you hit him isn't a good sign.

If you do struggle with your reactions to emotions regularly, possibly therapy?

[Juxtapose]

Imagine if the sexes were reversed, the comments below would not nearly be so tame and I reckon there would be threats of death towards the abuser. But here people are saying the man is a wimp..

Dump him, you're clearly not ready for an adult relationship.

[Gorge95]

Ehhh…Over an Instagram post? 🤦🏽‍♀️Girl. No. Just no. Be fortunate that he hasn’t taken you to authorities and prepare yourself for a possible end to that relationship. You guys aren’t married and you have already exhibited this behavior to him. Unfortunately he probably thinks it will get worse when a girl ACTUALLY speaks to him in person. What will you do then? Nah

[MuffinMachine]

It sounds like you lost control of yourself. Many here are telling you that you’re a horrible person but from the facts given it sounds like you just lost your temper and control. But that doesn’t mean that harming another person is ok.

Only you know whether what you did is something you would repeat and whether the information you’ve given is 100% accurate. If you think it is something you would repeat then you need to talk to someone about your anger.

what you DO NOT need to do is think you are a horrible monster. You obviously see that what you did was hurtful and disrespectful and caused harm to both your boyfriends face, pride and trust in you.

Have an open and honest discussion about it with him. Find out from him how he feels. Tell him how the situation made you feel.

[Lauren-green]

That’s domestics abuse. Imagine if it was a male writing this about a female, everyone would be going off in the comments. It’s the same thing.

[AndrésC64]

Exactly. And the way she tries to justify it by saying that she's not as strong as him makes me really doubt whether she's truly sorry and willing to change. That sounds exactly like the kind of thing that abusive guys would say. "I'm sorry, it won't happen again."

[fantasticass]

Wow, what is wrong with you? he can call the police and have you charged for domestic violence, and other criminal charges. You need to break up with him. Do both of you a favor. You are very insecure, and you cannot be in a relationship when you are so insecure and jealous of nothing!!!

[globetrotter22]

He would of been completely justified to hit you back and if we lived in a fair society (where are you on this one feminists? Huh?) he would have.

Remember you made a DECISIÓN to hit him. You could of not done it but you did it anyway. Why?

He needs to break up with you. I wouldn’t tolerate this. I don’t think I would have hit you back but I wouldn’t stay with you. That’s for damn sure.

[globetrotter22]

by the way after thinking harder about this i don’t necessarily think you are a bad person. This one stuck a deep nerve with me because my mom sometimes physically abused my dad. It makes me absolutely disgustingly hate modern feminists because they never own up to the fact some women are violent. Anyway.

I have to ask when you cried who did you cry for? Yourself because you know you have a problem or for what you did to him and how he feels?

Anyway this compulsion isn’t normal and your anger will flare up again in the future. It won’t be over fickle Instagram incidents either. There will be more serious problems involving bfs and future husbands. The question is how will you handle it? Right now you feel remorseful and confident you will never act this way again. But after that passed how will you act in the future? You need psychotherapy tbh.

[Levin]

I mean, sorry, maybe I should be more sympathetic, but you do sound completely barmy.

Whatever she writes is not his responsibility, and he is not obliged to take it seriously.

You've basically violently and domestically abused him, and you don't even seem particularly apologetic. He should break up with you, in my opinion. It would appear you've got some real issues around jealousy and insecurity, and I'm presuming require some counselling.

[spartan55]

Geez, you need serious help. You physically injured him because of a stupid Instagram LIKE that he didn't even do? Are you fucking kidding me? How is it relevant that the girl knew he was in a relationship or not? Like another poster said, it doesn't seem like you believe it's that big of a deal or understand the gravity of what you did. I didn't see that you even apologized. I would have dumped you on the spot. Wow...

[PAcc92]

You should report yourself to the police you are a Domestic Abuser and you should not be in relationships with others.

What you did was unacceptable, and it shows that you do not love your boyfriend, it shows you think it's okay to hurt people. That kind of a person shouldn't be running around free.

If I could tell your boyfriend anything it would be to turn you in.

[AdithyaR]

Lady, you need anger management.
You're angry at your boyfriend for s compliment that someone else gave him on an Instragram post?
You need to tone down your jealousy and insecurity.
Physical abuse is an absolute red flag and honestly I'd tell your boyfriend to run.

[Citizenkirk]

I'm confused. You say he has a boyfriend so why did you get angry? If he is gay and you are a female, what is the source of the conflict?
You should try not to act out physically when you get angry, what reason your anger may arise from. Tell him your sorry and you won't let it happen again.🤗

[sheikalana]

WTF you need to chill. that’s nit right at all imagine if it was the opposite? you’re so wrong for what you did. you really need to show you regret what you did to him. I don’t know if I could ever forgive someone who did that to me.

[andreasderjuengere]

He wasn't quick enough to defend himself.
It's his own mistake :D
Doing it once only, is a mistake that we all can make. Just don't make it a habit, heh heh.
What you can do... just return to ''nice''. He will forgive you if he's the right guy for you.

[IMuser]

Get therapy (you ruined a face, a relationship and a PS5 controller). If your first reaction after getting mad is to hit someone, you are still a kid in terms of anger management

[lrina]

it's all your fault. such a dumbass. just grow up already goddamn stop acting like a 9 year old. just break up with him, he deserves someone better.

[Donttrustmetho]

She has issues, thank you for putting it very nicely 👍

[ObscuredBeyond]

One time, she acted immaturely. She can still learn. Save your dagger for if she doesn't learn.

[globetrotter22]

@ObscuredBeyond she acted “immaturely”. Yeah (cough)

[ObscuredBeyond]

@globetrotter22 : Bratty kids throw the controller. I've survived much worse. Like, retaliation that I couldn't help her with her homework via legal abuse conspiracy worse.

[globetrotter22]

@ObscuredBeyond “ I hit him with his ps5 controller on his face”

She didn’t throw the PS5 controller at him. She picked it up and hit him in the face with it. There is a difference there and you know it.

[lrina]

@ObscuredBeyond if you're an adult i think you shouldn't be retarded to the point where you will go up to your SO and hit him in the face with a controller for like, no reason.

[ObscuredBeyond]

Her reason was a fit of jealousy. Her motivation was stupid, and her rage was misaimed. I don't believe she's beyond redemption. But I do believe she needs to seek help. If it slipped out of her hand and hit his face, that's an accident. If she repeatedly bludgeoned him, that's a more serious issue.

Either way, I gave her my two cents for a reason. She did a terrible thing. But I see a crucifixion mob mentality erupting. And I find that to be the greater evil.

[TheBigGuy9]

So what? Women are more attracted to men in relationships. I’d seek anger management counseling. You’re one jealous woman that cannot control her emotions. The best thing you can do for him is to stay level headed consistently. Treat him like a King now. I’d dump you if you were my girlfriend. I never would unless I feel my life is threatened, but you’re very lucky he didn’t punch you back!

[Prettysammie]

Your relationship sounds very broken. He’s going to cheat and you’re going to lose your shit in a way that lands one or both of you in jail. Go have some great makeup sex right now and part on good terms. But then you both need to realize that you have issues

[Datboi65]

So many things wrong with this advice.

1) Makeup sex doesn't fix anything. He's still a victim of DV.

2) Just because someone was abused, doesn't mean they are going to cheat. It depends on their morals and character.

3) She's the only one with the issues, not "both" of them.

[ObscuredBeyond]

@Datboi65 : Agreed. Makeup sex won't solve anything here.

[loveslongnails]

You either had a psycho moment, or you're just plain psycho. Either isn't good. You hit him in the face because some random girl called him cute and he laughed it off. Think about how fucked up that is. You'd be my ex-girlfriend by now if that happened. Make it up to him by going to therapy.

[TheFlak38]

"there was a girl that commented on his Instagram picture " always the same shit with your average woman today. We're surrounded by sluts who are totally fuckin nuts. She of course is free to use instagram and tinder and snapchat and twitter and all these other apps that help her explore her thousands of other options. It's only a problem when a man does the same or even appears to do the same. When a woman does it then it's fair play. #FemaleDoubleStandards

[pleasestopthis]

You assaulted your boyfriend because of an instagram comment on his picture... and you think you can get away with this somehow? good luck with that, but I seriously hope he isn't that stupid to accept a woman who uses physical violence against him.

[GlassTop]

Easy solution:

Tell him to fuck your ass as hard as he wants. Make sure you clean it out for him. Let him fuck your ass and when he cums, suck it clean. He will probably want to marry you. This is the ultimate of apology. Hopefully you can take it.

[dustybiker]

Never okay to be violent towards someone. You make it up to him by reaching out for help with a therapist, showing him you’ll take steps not to reach that level of anger again. You've damaged trust too.

[Anonymous]

Leave him. He will surely cheat on you in future. I understand where you are coming from. Most committed men do enjoy having affairs behind your back with any girl who flirts with them.
His careless behavior regarding that girl who flirted with him speaks a lot about his loyalty in the long term. Even if you apologize, he'll never forget that and other playful girls will seduce him. Guys who joke about flirtatious comments actually enjoy it.

[Opinion Owner]

Also those who try to label serious issues like this as a joke, then they're trying to hide something and want to avoid dealing with these situations. It's my experience. Never trust guys blindly. My ex did this too, but the only difference was I never hit him. But eventually caught him cheating with those 'harmless' social media girlsm

[Opinion Owner]

*girls.

[sammyyyyasdfghjkl]

He has every right to not be ok with you. Get some help

[noohair]

There are thinks that can be undone. And you just did something that can't be undone. Learn a good lesson from this and promise to yourself that you will only use violence to save your life. My life changed when my wife started hitting me. I have no answer on how to fix this with him. Antisocial media strikes again.

[jshm2]

You're a petty psycho, and he should sue you and breakup.

In fact he's probably contemplating which to do first. But also trying to figure a way where he doesn't get killed and buried by you in the process.

[Hedo-1]

At this age, you should have known she did what she did to accomplish exactly what was accomplished. Jealousy!!! Next time a similar situation arises, you need to remember this incident and act accordingly.

[RedStiletto88]

Oh dear. Well maybe he will eventually get over it but hitting your boyfriend usually isn’t a good idea especially for something like that.

[SexyAsian]

You need some serious help. It is not okay what you did. He should dump your ass as fast as he can.
You know you would have his ass in jail if he did that to you.

[globetrotter22]

Exactly.

[Hangry06]

Turn yourself in for physical abuse
He might be happy then

[Datboi65]

Best advice all day!

[HighValue]

You can't fix something like that. Once trust is broken in a relationship it can NEVER be fully regained. He will never be able to have the same confidence in the relationship that he once had.

[bowenw]

All you can do is apologize and tell him you only did it because you love him so much and you were jealous. Promise him you won't do it again and you will tell him how you are feeling instead of hitting him.

[Anonymous]

Wow. You’re a domestic abuser.

I hope he breaks up with you. Immediately. You deserve it.

Get some help with your fucking mental health issues and anger management.

[hhadeshatesme]

You just admitted to abusing him. Forget an apology he should drop your ass

[ObscuredBeyond]

Found the cancel culture cancer cell. Serious abuse involves patterns far worse than her one-time loss of control. Focus on helping her get straightened out, so it doesn't become a pattern that will truly warrant his departure. Save the chopping block for impenitent sociopaths.

[globetrotter22]

@ObscuredBeyond why are sticking up for this girl? She committed aggravated assault over something extremely petty. Even if he did something more serious (cheated) she still wouldn’t of been justified to do what she did.

I don’t think she is beyond redemption. I don’t think she is beyond forgiveness. One time incident? Maybe it is. But there is something in her that made her to that. She obviously needs to manage it but that doesn’t mean it’s going away.

This is a giant red flag that is showing itself as a bruise on his face. He needs to carefully get out of this while still saying he cares for her. It is actually possible to do that.

[ObscuredBeyond]

@globetrotter22 : Because I'm reading the comments by others, and it sounds like they want her cooked in a giant pot, island cannibal-style, because she threw a PS5 controller.

I consider that to be an even more extreme overreaction.

Yes, she did a terrible thing. But we shouldn't be embracing eye-leg-nose-ear-tooth for an eye either.

[globetrotter22]

@ObscuredBeyond i calmed down and expanded on my own comment. You should it read it. I don’t think she’s necessarily a horrible person but her boyfriend would be a fool to stay with her. She needs to help herself and get psychotherapy.

[ObscuredBeyond]

@globetrotter22 : At minimum, she should seek a counselor of some sort. That, I agree with. If she's throwing controllers around recklessly over something that petty, it indicates some other unresolved issue that will come back to bite her later. And he shouldn't have to be in the middle of it when it does strike. It's not fair to him. At all.

[globetrotter22]

@ObscuredBeyond well it’s either in you to take it another level or not. If she left a bruise then this wasn’t as simple as “a brat throwing a controller”. He picked it up and hit him in the face with it. In the future she will be using objects like rolling pins to hit her poor future husband over the head with. This won’t end unless she’s gets help about it.

But just imagine if roles were reversed. There is a reason you will never see a guy confessing to hitting his girlfriend/wife on GAG for a reason. There would be fire and brimstone and rightfully so if it was over an incident as fickle as this.

[globetrotter22]

*She picked it up

[hhadeshatesme]

Fuck off with the whole cancel culture B. S. I didn’t wish ill on her or say her whole life should be ruined. Yes people can have their freak out moments once in a blue moon and it doesn’t have to define them but normal people save that out of character behaviour when emotions take over their actions for actual stressful situations. the fact she had such a major freak out over something so small and out of his control tells me it’s probably not a one time thing, she more than likely just took it too far this time. Her question was about how to smooth things over with her boyfriend and not about fixing her anger problems. She’s not going to go get counselling cause a few people on gag suggest it. She didn’t even see what she did as a big deal since she was fine posting about it

[BipBipLeddus]

How about you make it up to him by letting him leave this physically and emotionally abusive relationship he's in?

You're actually terrible.

[Dragonstarterplus]

So you got mad and hit your boyfriend hard enough to give him a black eye... Because a girl commented on his instagram saying he looked cute?

Eh a couple blowjobs and he'll be good as new

[MountAverage]

I don't know, physical abuse is kinda unacceptable.

[HeartFullOfGlue]

Yeah, it kinda is

[Blonde401]

Jesus Christ that’s domestic abuse. Please seek help and don’t ever lay your hands on someone like that again

[Jamie05rhs]

I think we need to talk about the reasons why you resorted to violence in this situation.

Did your parents ever hit each other when you were growing up?