Do girls like good boys or bad boys? What do you prefer? When is the best time to be in a relationship?

[FoArm03]

[OpenClose]

This topic is heavily misunderstood. But it's probably easier described with fictional characters.

So "good guy" would be Peter Parker or Captain America. The boy scout wanting to fight for what's right.

"Bad boy" would be probably Loki but more likely Bucky. Troubled and misguided, but you can see an off-ramp.

A "cocky guy" would be Tony Stark. NOT Dr. Strange. Tony's cockiness comes more from him not taking himself seriously enough to worry about falling on his face. So he's fun. Dr. Strange thinks he's better than you and takes it seriously. Most girls who fall for cocky guys are hoping they met a Tony, but probably met a Strange.

Not to diss Dr Strange so hard.

Note that none of them are clear villains. At least, girls didn't crush on Loki as much when he was a villain.

When they talk about toxic "nice guys", they aren't talking about Peter Parker. They're taking about The Riddler in "The Batman". Thinks he's the good guy, then thinks people dislike him for being good.

Though honestly I think most guys stuck in the "nice guys finish last" outlook are just young men confused by the desires of teen girls who are just as confused, and then older dude-bro authors basically play on their worst fear: That they will have to choose between being a good man and a desirable one, and that these are mutually exclusive.

I think a lot of it also has to do with us raising kids to sit still and obey the teacher and do nothing unless given permission to do so. So the transition to becoming a man is confusing af because this went from "cute quiet kid who listens" to "spineless and lacking edge" all at once by the end of elementary school. And people just expect this change all at once. I would love to see more authentic, empathetic research done in this area because I struggled with exactly this.

I just want to let guys who are struggling with this know that being a good man is always a great asset and women do appreciate it. But it's similar how a girl you know might be super nice, but you don't find her attractive. Being nice is always good, but chemistry is what makes attraction. And you can't have chemistry if you are unwilling to let your quirks and personality out. I feel like that's what girls fall for as much as anything.

[OpenClose]

Girls, does this seem accurate?

[Kaamraj]

The best time for men to be in a relationship is when they have the leverage (higher sexual mean value (SMV) than the girl. Men gain SMV mainly through their socio-economic status, that usually takes time, so when you're older.

[Biancam13]

I like good guys, but I don't like NICE guys. There's a difference. Good guys aren't pushovers, have boundaries but are still good people with morals. "nice guys" are usually associated with being pushovers and desperate. I used to like the bad boys/players, then I grew out of it as I matured.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

I like good guys.
I’ve had my fair share of “good guys that turned out to be bad guys” and it was awful. I never wanted bad guys, my personality would never be compatible with theirs.

[Desconhecida]

Which question should I answer? You just posted 3!

[FoArm03]

Answer whichever question you're comfortable to answer

[Desconhecida]

Okay...
1. Most girls are attracted by bad boys until they realize they need a good one to show them how love should really be.

2. I prefer a good guy since my heart made an alliance with my brain after too many heartbreaks.

3. I don't know if there's ever a good time to be in a relationship. If we overthink this too much, we could lose the love of our lives.

[Emiliamazing]

Good boys for sure. It’s much easier to be with a kind loving individual and make some other suggestions to them than it is to be with her “bad boy and teach them to be kind at times. I think the best time to get into a relationship is when you are happy as you are. Find happiness when you’re single and it will only be amplified by the right person

[IveGotNoName]

Only 14-16-year olds like "bad boys"... it's a clear sign of immaturity to me.

[girlwithglasses01]

I usually end up having feelings for the bad guys even though all the relationships i have had are with the good ones, and it kinda ends because it gegs very monotonous and bland

[SHREYASH007]

How do you define bad boys?

[girlwithglasses01]

Guys with 100s of girls behind them. Always with a smirk on. With a good dressing style usually hoodies. Basically looks like jacob elordi lmao

[Anonymous]

Teenagers- bad boys
Adults- good boys
Teenage girls tend to prefer bad boys which results to them both doing some wacky stuff like throwing toilet paper at people's houses. Someone you can do wild stuff with and ofc without judgement.
Adults on the other hand, are ready for commitment. Good guys come with good family. Good guys=good life.
Moral of the story- Maturity matters.

[Apulu_3]

Depends from girl to girl but for me I prefer someone mature. So basically a good boy.

[lrina]

just a decent person who's intelligent and caring. more of a good guy then.

[Fiend88]

A bad boy on the outside with the insides of a good one.

[my_name_is__]

I prefer good boys. I don't get it? Why are so many girls into bad boys? Because they are "hot"?

[Anonymous]

Remember guys who may be looking at girls' responses here, go based on women's actions rather than their empty words. Bad boys always win out!

[TyLeeAndPink]

In the end, they want balanced guys: not a jerk and not a pushover. That’s perfect.

[Jltakk]

I prefer a girl that genuinely cares and sees past the "he's a funny guy" vibe. If she's ENFP or INTP, doesn't matter to me.

[Waldoe]

JUST be yourself... that way you can meet a girl that like who you are...

[Chthou95]

Women's actions>women's words. a lot of course will say good guys but pay attention to the actions because a lot of times it tells a different story

[Anonymous]

I aggravate to the ones that play hard to get but in the end it would be the nice guys. You deserve to be treated the way you should be treated.

[Gigi2019]

I prefer a good, reliable, mature man.

[Star_88]

Good obviously. Bad only in bed.

[Babygirl_S]

I like good boys who can be bad when needed.

[Anonymous]

I like a good guy but bad in bed lol 😆

[gloria_]

When you are ready to get married