Finding a woman just like her (without a romantic past)... do you think she is out there for me?

[Almost_Incel]

I have been struggling with a lot of depression lately. I am 27 (turning 28 this year) and never had a real girlfriend before.

Back in June 2020, I met this girl on a coding forum. We really hit it off and had an online thing going for 5 months. I finally met her in person in November of 2020, where she discovered I wasn't her type. I was heartbroken.

She never had a male friend before she met me. She was a devout Catholic girl that was sheltered and homeschooled her entire life in the farmlands of rural Illinois along with 6 other siblings. She never had a boyfriend before, never kissed, and was a virgin. She was exactly the girl I was looking for, because I sought a girl without a romantic past, and she was perfect.

I was very heartbroken when she broke up with me. I didn't really count her as a real girlfriend because what we had was almost all online and she dumped me when we met in person for the first time.

Anyways, she met some other guy whom she became serious with back in early 2020. She was engaged to him a few months later, and they are expected to be married on the 22nd this month. I have been struggling about it, especially because her wedding day is approaching. This guy will get to be her first everything... her first love, the first guy to see her naked, the first guy to take her virginity, and everything!

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[DaveJord]

Honestly dude, the older you gets the harder it will be for you to find someone without a romantic past. At 45 men and women both are damaged goods, meaning that it is near impossible to find someone at that age that does not have a history of failed relationships. And honestly that is good thing, because we you do connect with someone, you know that they are coming into the that relationship with their eyes wide open and with reasonable expectations.

SO you want someone with a past, but you have a past... what makes you so specials that a women with a romantic past has to be discounted?

People without life experience have some very distortedly high expectations on what they THINK they want and are supposed to get out of a relationship... but that because they don't have any real experience with it.

Its like taking some one who had never seen a car and then throwing them behind the wheel with no prior experience and watching them get mad and confused every time someone honks at them for running red lights. They just have grasp on the subject and are blowing through the red lights at great risk to themselves and others.

[KrakenAttackin]

Who knows bro. Good women are extremely difficult to find and they get snapped up and married fast. Past about 25 and certainly batter 30 the women are mostly leftovers who have been run through long and hard.

Don't chase women, chase excellence in yourself.

[IMuser]

Why exactly are you seeking someone who has no romantic past? Or do you mean sexual past?

[Almost_Incel]

Mainly without a romantic past... it would be nice if it was both, but it mainly is about whom she shared her heart with, especially during her youth