Guys; would you care if your wife didn’t take your last name? (Page 2)
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I know I sound like a male chauvinist pig but I would be insulted if she didn't take me last name. Like she is not taking this marriage seriously and it would only be temporary to her.
I would definitely take my husband's last name. Not cause of the patriarchy, but because I really want us to be family in the real sense.
One couple I know both changed their surname to one they chose together (an entirely different name).
Just a thought!
This is just a ego fight
While it's nice on one level it's also losing out on the continuity and family ties that last names are meant to represent.
I'd feel better about both adopting each others last name for instance.
Also, such a change wouldn't be legal in my country.
Here there's strict rules for what last names you may use during naming and name changes, and you have have to have some kind of claim to a last name in order to use it.
You can get it from parents, grandparents etc or spouses.
Or show that you have a strong claim to the name in your culture (for instance due to religious reasons)
Picking last names willy nilly just isn't a legal option.
Not first names either, but the laws for those are fairly relaxed.
@Losalt I'm not sure what the details of the laws are here regarding name changes. The name they chose was an ancestor name of one of them. I don't know if that counts.
@TheConfection
In what country if I may ask?
Here in Norway that would probably qualify as long as it can be spelled with our letters, since they'd probably have a claim to the name through said ancestor.
@Losalt USA
@TrueConfection
There it depends on the state.
But as a rule of thumb you guys have next to no laws regarding names.
As long as it's possible to enter in the local states computer systems.
Something that has resulted in some truly crazy names being used in the US...
I would prefer that she didn't, in fact.
As for offspring, they should take both names.
Whose name first? Just draft it.
Nope. I'm married (and she did take my name) but i honestly didn't care, and was kinda surprised she wanted to. I left that decision up to her.
No it's not that special but she better top it and not have the most mundane name herself if she goes in that direction.
I know it's just an old outdated tradition, but a part of me definitely feels rejected and insulted if she doesn't take my last name. I would definitely care.
If you are planning to have kids I would say absolutely. If not, maybe not, but for me I would still prefer that the wife take the husband’s last name.
Now if it’s your second marriage, then maybe not. I could be convinced either way.
Why guys can’t take a womens name? I always felt it was not fair only women have to take guys name and guys easily keep their own name. Not right.
Well, in Iceland there isn't really family names as much as fathers names.
So girls are named the name of their father followed by "dóttir" and the name of *their" father followed by "son".
There wasn't really ever a tradition for wives to change their last name to their husbands among the natives although the Danish upper class sometimes did while Iceland still was a part of the Danish kingdom.
However in recent years it's been more popular with naming children after the mother.
So name of mother ownership s then "dóttir" for instance.
Let's just say that my values are more traditional, and leave it at that.
not at all... no
and it is not my last name, it is my parent´s... lol
My husband was surprised when I told him that I wanted to take his name. I think most of the guys probably wouldn’t have an issue if you keep your name. Or you could hyphenate.
When i meet a woman with a hyphenated last name i immediately suspect I am dealing with someone with issues that I cannot trust
i don't think they would because my last name is very cool
It would bother me, unless there was some practical reason not to take it. I would at least want her to hyphenate her name.
Yes, she is getting to marry me, why would she not want to take my last name? And do my kids end up with some hyphenated name?
Why would a man get married nowadays? He doesn't get anything he used to out of marriage, just a feminist who will divorce him and take his stuff when she gets bored.
I would want a Last Name Coolness Level discussion, but I wouldn’t mind changing my last name if hers was cooler or making a new last name
I'm old fashioned and traditional that way so it is expected and she did without hesitation or me even asking her.
What you his property? Why do you even take his name I never understood that with Americans ! You have yours to be proud of?
It's not a problem if a girl doesn't take my last name