How do I confess to my boyfriend that other guys are hitting on me, even though I've told them no I'm taken?

[AutumnandDamian]

[Losalt]

It's not a "confession".
Just sit down with him and tell him that there's something bothering you.
Tell him that you feel that certain other guys are flirting with you against your will.
Tell him that you feel uncomfortable with that, with them doing that and with it happening and that you feel he *should* know.
And ask him to talk with them and ask them to please leave you alone.
Because it's *him* that you love, *not* them.

Also, you probably should ask him *not* to get violent with them, as you don't want to lose him if he does anything stupid.

[Datboi65]

Let me give you some words of advice. It's not so much about the attention they are giving you, it's whether or not you choose to entertain their attention. A man would expect his wife to be hit on by other men in his absence, but if she flirts back with them or goes further than that, then it's more her fault than it's theirs, because the expectation is on her to be loyal, not on them to not talk to her.

As for your man, be honest with him. Let him know what happened and that you didn't do anything. It's a sign that you are trustworthy, and he would be understanding and appreciative of your honesty. If he is not, then you just saved yourself the headache of dealing with someone who has trust issues.

[PinkMichae]

What's the point. I'm sure he knows you are beautiful and are going to get hit on. I think that telling your partner every time you get hit on maybe seen as you trying to make them jealous. As long as you do the right thing I don't see why telling him will do any good. I don't need my guy telling me if other women hit on him. I think he's an attractive guy so I assume he does.

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

It’s not much of a confession, so don’t treat it like that.


Just tell him the truth… Other guys are hitting on you despite you telling them that you have a boyfriend.

[deckro84]

Right treat him with the same expectations you would want him to abide by.

[its_amelia_c]

Why do you need to?


If you are not taking the advances of these guys hitting on you then there is no wrong doing.


He doesn’t need to know something that isn’t being committed wrong. It’s not your fault that it happens. Unless you are flirting with these guys and want the attention?

[crossdressingrihno]

Wouldn't count as a confession you haven't done anything wrong in this case

So I guess just ask him for help tell him people are hitting on you and that you don't want them to and that you want them to stop it then tell him not to do anything stupid because he's young and will probably do something stupid if someone doesn't hold his hand while he's doing it because let's face it teenage boys aren't exactly known for rationality and incredible amounts of cunning

[jestergent]

There is a dynamic in there that shows concern. I think look at it like this. Your job is to say your taken, his job is to be assured you say that. But he shouldn't need constant assurance. If it comes up, you tell him what your process is. He should be able to know and trust how you go about things.

[nawtee_me]

You know you or he can not control the actions of others. I am sure your boyfriend understands that since he sees you as being so pretty that others will see that too. At least if you were my girlfriend that is how I would see it and be happy for it since you are with me. Or in this case him...

[LemonsAsks]

Unless their his friend or your interested in them too. I dont think you need to mention it.

He trusts you. Let that be enough.
If he doesn't let him know.

Its not a big deal tho either way.

[AviatorTom]

You've done nothing wrong... there's no need to confess to anything. You can tell your boyfriend that guys are hitting on you and you are rejecting them, but you don't have to tell him anything. Just be a good girlfriend to him.

[Daniela1982]

You only need to confess if you are the one inviting such hits, like maybe dressing like a Ho and going places you shouldn't be going to, like clubs with the girls or worse, by yourself.

[Pyrofox]

If ya tell him he's gonna beat them up probably just to make a point. Be careful miss boyfriend's are pretty protective.

[ChrisMaster69]

Just be open and honest with him.

tell him you are getting hit on by other guys and you have said you are dating him.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Just be honest. And if he gets mad you're being spoken to, even though you're rejecting them, dump him.

[AZandrea]

It doesn't matter whether you tell him or not if the guys asking you out were of no significance to you.

[mobiusforniner]

I tell my wife I get hit on all the time. She even wanted to be friends with my crushes. That didn't work out very well.

[dustybiker]

Just tell him. He should appreciate your honesty. And you turned them down when asked. No harm done.

[Gloree]

I don't think you need to tell him. Just keep turning them down. Unless of course you get a stalker or maybe a very pressing admirer. Then you can tell him.

[Belgie]

You've nothing to "confess" - you are not responsible for what other people do.

[slatyb]

Why do you have to "confess" anything? This is other people's behavior, not yours.

[bowenw]

You shouldn't tell him unless a guy is being relentless.

[Mangospacho]

You don’t have to confess to him that other guys were hitting on you if you told them you have a boyfriend.

[Wise4myage]

Why mention that in the first place? Does the idea inflate your ego or something?

[gabby100]

That males you more desirable, to try and win you over..

[007kingifrit]

that's not a confession. you did nothing wrong. you can just tell him. he's not gana get mad at YOU. though he might be mad

[altdbob]

What the hell, is your boyfriend a priest? Why would it be a confession? Either tell him or don't but when you say the word confess it sounds to me like you feel guilty about it. Why would that be?

[Shy_Steve]

Just tell him, He probably won't be that surprised if I finds you Attractive.

[Uptowngirl88]

What's there to confess? Seems to me u want attention and like drama. Grow up

[WhiteBoyChill]

You literally just tell him. Seriously. Its not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

What do you confess? He knows this is normal for guys because he also hit on thousands of girls before you

[deckro84]

Tell him and show him if it doesn't stop respect him and let him do what he has to do

[TrueConfection]

There's nothing to confess.

[EmbraceThePain]

Just say exactly what you’ve just said here

[Anonymous]

You dont, you are already doing the right thing.

[Anonymous]

He doesn't need to know.

[TrillXHippy]

Confess what? Just tell him

[deshazoj2]

You should always be honest with everyone

[Pterodon]

You don’t. There’s nothing to confess

[itsalyssaagain]

Don’t tell him

[berwise13]

With your voice