Unfortunately, it's the only tool ex-partner's often feel they have to control the other parent. When people become bitter and resentful, they often choose to stay in the past rather than move on with their life, living with the goal of financially destroying their ex at any cost. They seem to feel blaming their ex for their anger and disappointment will make it go away, though it never eliminates the pain they hold onto. This action is illegal, as visitation can't be withheld, even if support payments aren't being paid, but it is often effective. Though, the one doing this has no way of enforcing it legally, they know fighting it in court is expensive, a drawn-out process and puts the kids in the middle. Fathers who truly care about their kids (not just wanting to lower support costs) will often fade away to avoid complicating the kids' lives more than is already happening due to the actions of the manipulating ex-spouse.
My ex did this when she realized she wasn't entitled to half of everything I owned prior to meeting her. She planned to drag out the divorce proceedings forever, hoping I would lose everything I had, even if she gained nothing, and complicate my relationship with my kids. She finally allowed the divorce to end just days before she married her next ex-husband, but the two of them bought off my daughter with material goods and junk food (leading her to become obese). My daughter hasn't been open to a relationship with me since she was in junior high school. Luckily, my son didn't buy into the lies and bribery of their mother. He can't understand how his sister still believes the lies their mother told them, and they are in their 30s.
One day, when my son was in kindergarten, we were laying on his bed talking. Out of the blue, he said "I can't talk with you." I asked what led him to believe he couldn't talk with me. He said his mother told him that. I asked him "what are we doing?" Hesitantly, he answered "Talking?" That experience helped him to stop blindly believing whatever his mother said.
Hi Jade 😊 it's me 😀 I didn't mean to sound like an idiot. It is just what I've experienced. One of my friends at work was a great husband and father, yet once his wife left him she definitely used their daughter as weapon against him in terms of when he could and couldn't see her.
As you have said I've seen my Dad go through a bad time with my step sister. Sometimes her mum would try and stop access completely, but she failed!
I know there are some men out there that are bad father's but not all men are. It's one of my big worries that if we did ever split up it could cause problems if we had a child together. I don't think we ever will split up but no one ever knows there have been some great couples where it all goes wrong after years of good haha 😂
I'm not bias about it babe it's just what I've experienced growing up. That women get majority of custody and can even say when Father's can see their children. I do understand that some men can't be arsed, but we aren't all like that haha 😂
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Some women definitely do. My mother being one of them.
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u Yes it does happen frequently where kids get used in the courts
Some can do this yes. But majority for the time it doesn't happen
Yes that is true, and its sad. But men do it too.
Absolutely.
Vindictiveness is common
OMFG, women constantly use children as weapons.
Yes. Absolutely it is true.
It is true for some women not all
Yeah pretty common
Yes some do
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