Guys, what can your girlfriend or wife do to help you feel more comfortable around her?

[Anonymous]

Let's say your girlfriend or wife is going to the trials and errors of life, and suffering from anxiety, depression, and more. She started therapy and getting help for it and you want to be with this girl, but you're constantly worried or fearful of her condition when around her.

Yet, when you're with your friends you smile more and happier. You laugh at jokes. Anyone can visibly see the stress fall off you when with these friends. How can your girlfriend or wife achieve that? Is it just too late? Talking about it doesn't help, because the differences aren't noticed. Should she hide her problems?

[caring__1]

The most important thing she can do is to be consistent. Inconsistencies cause people to pull back and strengthen their defenses. Even if her behavior isn't ideal, being consistent allows him to plan and predict, which can make him feel more in control of his situation (not necessarily in control of her). She can also be clear, open and honest with him (without exaggerations), so he doesn't have the added stress of reading her mind. He'll generally appreciate knowing what he is dealing with and will be drawn closer with the knowledge she trusts him enough to be vulnerable.

[Honesttguy]

What does he think you gonna kill yourself any moment? He needs chill pill jezzOoh im about to slit my throat come on. Seems like his suffering from anxiety attacks as well. Common ground right there. To help him relax u need to know what stresses him out. If u dont know cause you can't help.

[DavidRaul]

She just doesn't need to do anything to make me comfortable. If i want to be around her she doesn't have to work to keep ne happy. Stat how you are, everyone has problems. I personally would help her get out if this, if i truly love her.