So ya I had Reassignment Surgery is it wrong of me not telling my next partner, I mean I’m a woman now so no harm no fail right?

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caring__1 · Accepted Answer

Ask yourself whether you'd appreciate something significant to you withheld from you. I'm sure you can think of things you wouldn't want withheld. You may see your situation as irrelevant, but, if that's the case, what's your reason for withholding this information. The only reason you'd withhold it is if you feel your partner would be turned off by that knowledge. If the person would be turned off, what would be the reason you'd want to spend your life with this person? It's unlikely you'd be able to withhold the information forever. Once the trust is shattered, blind trust can no longer exist. Everything you say or have said will be questioned. If you're hospitalized, that information may be important. Many guys seeking women in your age group are looking to have biological children.

It's not uncommon for individuals who have had reassignment surgery to want to be seen as the new gender, yet rarely does that work out, especially when it comes to intimate relationships. The healthiest relationships are ones based on openness and honesty in all areas. Most LGBTQ+ individuals stay within the LGBTQ+ community when seeking a partner, for that group tends to be most likely to accept the person as the person wishes to be seen.

Explore the gamut of perspectives in this article: https://verdict.justia.com/2015/06/18/is-there-a-moral-duty-to-disclose-that-youre-transgender-to-a-potential-partner

FriendlyDrugDealer · Accepted Answer

If your partner is someone you love and care about, they deserve to know you as a person, including something such as transitioning. That’s a big part of you and to hide that could rock the trust in the relationship. I’m not saying you have to tell them right away but eventually they deserve to know

hanony · Accepted Answer

I think you should tell, just for your own safety. We still live in a violent period and telling your partner could save you in the long run.

JessicaShorts8834 · Accepted Answer

@imkass I agree dont need to know I dont see any advantage in telling him or her

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

If you live in a country where people do not regularly carry firearms, then not telling them and they finding out is likely limited to verbals.

doing the same in a country such as the US, could almost be classed as suicide if they found out.

it’s not just their feelings but their reaction to finding out and then also your safety.

I would feel my trust had been ignored and they did not trust me enough to tell me.

this really comes in to it if it’s a relationship, where trust and a future together is critical both are open with each other.

personally I would be fine once I knew.

I’ve taken a friend out on a date post lockdown and she’s trans.

Oigit · Answer

It's best to be honest and up front about it. Because if you are not you are guilty of lying by omission. The idea of "I didn't lie to you, I just didn't tell you." does not work. Because you are purposefully with holding information from a person. Also you have to keep in mind that one of if not the most common reason people lie to someone is to hide information from them. So in effect a lie by omission is like telling someone you where at B doing something when you where at A doing something else. In the end leaving information out is just as much of a lie as giving false information.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Congrats! I hope it works out well for you!
About the only reason I can think of to tell is if he wants kids. If you can get a uterus transplant then you shouldn't have a problem with that except that, because of your hips, you'd have to get a c-section with each kid. However, all of the trans girls that I ever met said they feel it's best to tell up front before anything comes of it. There's always the chance he'll find out and become repulsed by it and you so, it might be best to tell up front so he knows what he's getting into.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Not telling them would be rape by deceit. A man taking off his condom during sex is considered rape because the person didn't consent to the act. Same logic applies here. They didn't consent to having sex with a transwomen, they consented to having sex with a biological woman. Downvote me, call me transphobic, I don't care, it's wrong.

HawkPerception · Answer

It is absolutely wrong of you to not tell your potential partner.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Be honest. A relationship should be built on honesty

Amur8711 · Answer

You should tell them. No matter how much you believe you are you will never be woman. Saying you are devalues women.

Staximus · Answer

Cutting your dick off doesn't make you a woman, it just means you're a mentally ill man

JesseJayNeak · Answer

If you don’t tell and he finds out, he’ll be upset

Guy13 · Answer

Hell express Train

CubaPirate · Answer

All false advertising is wrong

BigBull91 · Answer

I’ll be your next partner

So ya I had Reassignment Surgery is it wrong of me not telling my next partner, I mean I’m a woman now so no harm no fail right?

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