
Are you good at breaking the ice…?


What is breaking the ice, but simply having conversation. Some people are friendly some people are not.
I find a healthy amount of self-respect, and more so common respect for life are probably the two understandings that we as people need most in order to understand the simple, yet at times very complicated event that is to find or create communication. Even more so if it’s communication between strangers.
Then again one can simply just get into a conversation about what it is to “Break The Ice”, and ultimately have done the exact thing that they were pondering about. Life is funny like that isn’t it. 😇
Eh nope. I'm very much more wait until they do to me.
interesting…
so if I was to start chatting with you, you’d be down with it, but you just wouldn’t take that first initiative step, did I understand it correctly?
ahhh, that’s understandable tho… have you interacted with anyone here that you wished would chat you up more?
No, but I do try
Sometimes, how much ever you try, some people are just not as interested as you. It is best to not continue the conversation then.
I try to be engaging. I ask questions to get to know them better, within boundaries, of course. It gets awkward when you have nothing in common though.
I mean it’s embarrassing when you give it your all but it doesn’t work out. Have to try though.
OH MY GOSH i know... "soo how was your day?" "... good..." "thats great! mine to!" "cool..."
@NewbutCoolUser lol... I remember the days of the past
Her: hey! how are you?
Nathan: me too!, yeah.. eh...
Her:
@NathanDavis lol
lmfao… this one deserves mho🤣
Thank ye for it! 😂
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Yea it's nothing honestly. Entirely based on how much you care what other people think. We build up in our mind but it's a bigger deal than it actually is in reality.
I have my own thoughts on it, but a friend of mine said it perfectly. If you looking at saying hi just like asking for a cigarette you'll never have an issue.
I don't smoke like that and even for me that reference made a lot of sense emotionally. Because you never bothered or feel imposed on by someone who just asking for a cigarette or just asking for a lighter
If you go up to somebody like that to say hi with the exact same energy it's a non-issue regardless of what you say
Breaking the ice? Yes. Not replacing it with silence that's far more awkward? Eh, not really. See, normal people often get hung up on social expectations, and being asked "If you were stranded on a desert island and could bring only one religious apocalypse with you, which would it be?" flummoxes them. Not because they don't have an answer, but because it's not the kind of question they expect to be asked, and so you've crossed an invisible line you never agreed to stand behind.
A person, normal or otherwise, who can move past that, will probably say something like "Well, gee, I don't know", and then stop to think about it for a moment, and possibly provoke an interesting conversation (yeah, they'll still think you're a weirdo, but an INTERESTING weirdo, which is much the best kind).
I'm bad at small talk, but not half bad at converting it to big talk.
Oh yes i am 😁. You should see me in real life. The older i get the better i get
aww that sounds fun!
Yes. My job helps though.
I suppose confidence and having quite a repertoire to draw from in most subjects helps too. I also don't have a problem in making a fool of myself
that’s always fun lol
It is :) but I do it with style.
Only if that's not my intention.
If I feel like I have to, then my brain stops and I can't think of anything. If it's just spontaneous then it just comes out naturally.
hahahaha yes that makes sense
Depends on who the other person is..
I'm good at first impressions generally but if the other person can't add to the conversation or never really say what they mean or think then I have trouble directing the convo. In such cases the ice is way too thick.
I like to think that I am. I’m not sure where I learned my social/charismatic skills though. Also, I don’t mean to say “charismatic” in any narcissistic or braggadocios manner. I feel like I can talk to someone upon meeting them and give off a friendly vibe and talk about topics that are simple enough for everyone to understand. Also, I joke and smile quite a bit so that can ease people’s uncomfortableness.
Breaking the ice to mean getting someone to talk to you like on a date? Or just breaking the ice to start a general conversation? The first one I don't really care about. I am not a bit shy and will ask almost anybody anything. As for general conversations I don't give it much thought, I just say what's on my mind!
Nah. Typically I just randomly will start talking with girls and they'll get all weird and giggly on their own. Makes me nervous so I'll typically just get out as soon as I can. Small Town, not any competition a lot of nervous girls with no aspirations other than marrying into a nice family. I hate it lol. I guess I can naturally be funny and that's really enough for any girl it seems.
I wasn’t referring to girls alone lol but thanks for your input
Oh god no. Its a miracle that i ever got married lol.
hahaha I’m sure you’re good!
No I feel like sometimes I can just smash the ice instead of just breaking it
Yes, normally I just introduce myself and smile, and ask a question about the circumstances or I just comment on something. Easy.
Although, I have a very friendly face, random people smile at me all the time, so that helps too I guess.
Don't accuse me of being a cheetah.. You're lion! Now that, that's established.. I'm Lexi and I know it.. Hey, hi, hello, how are you..
😂😂😂
^^^ my only ice breaker routine.. If that doesn't do it, I'm all out lol.
Not sure if I'm good or bad at it, I just talk like I normally do to most people I meet. It comes naturally because I only break the ice when necessary. My cousins love me because when they bring their boyfriends over I immediately befriend them so they do not feel left out in an unfamiliar place.
Breaking the ice is easy.
Depending on who you are trying to connect with.
Some people will look at you like you can connect with anyone and easy to connect with. Such as "Oh, this person seems cool and easy to chat with. Why not?"
Others will automatically and ridiculously think you're weird, creepy and don't want you near them.
If you sprinkle some salt on it, it breaks much easier.
Bahahhah
Not really. Sometimes I get lucky, other times it's a struggle to get a meaningful conversation going.
I am now, before that I was good at falling on my face on the ice.
What changed? How did you improve?
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No because I don't really do small talk well in general.
depends on the girl, i usually try to make them laugh
doesn’t have to be just girls lol
Sure, so good that the Titanic would have completed it's journey, had I been on board.
Yes i break the ice and make it melt then drink it ;)
I wasn't, but I am now. "Hi, how are you? I'm... " Then actually LISTEN and remember.
I am good at making one.
But yes, I can also break ice in a surrounding. It just takes an open minded attitude to do so.
If the person makes a mild effort to respond to it then yes. But some people are just impossible. No matter how amiably you enagage with several subjects to talk about you get one word responses and 'mmhs' 'yea' 'right'. It's a pet peeve really.
I agree. These types I ignore and go talk to someone else and/or go play a game. These types of jackasses are not worth my time. Now before I get the reply maybe they are having a bad day or you just turn them off, I agree and see this VERY VALID point. I can generally tell if they are being bitchy or just wanting to be left alone.
I'm glad you clarified that since writing every instance off as them being "jackasses" isn't fair. But yes I agree too.
Sometimes. It's all individial and depends mostly on the personality of the other person.
Hahahahaha... No... if anything i over freeze the ice
Hell yes! I float like a butterfly, and sting like a bee. I've given tons of advice on here, but I doubt any of it will ever be used. Instead it will just be: "Should I just give up on dating?" lol
I am but one condition has to be met, we have to be alone. I don't do well in crowds. I want him all to myself anyway.
Oh yes. One of my particular talents! When I'm in the mood. Some days everyone can go... you know.
in online dating, lmao no, never get a reply
in real I rarely do that, but people tend to get easier into a conversation
No i leave ice Intact and nobody cares to speak to me either so it’s mutual
It’s not that I’m not good at it, I just have very little interest in doing it.
Fuck no. I'm so bad at it that I reinforce the ice, if anything.
When I take the ice tray out of the freezer I usually have to twist it funny and bang it on the counter and then the ice will break out and I can put it in my drink
I actually think I talk too much sometimes because I hate silence lol
Yes especially ask her where she got her blouse etc.
It depends how comfortable I feel with the strangers.
Lets check out?
Nope , I only add to the awkwardness 😂😂
Pandas are good ice breakers 🐼
@WonderBell99 They are pretty heavy 🐼🐼
That’s okay though, everyone likes pandas 🐼 🐼
The weather says im the best at it
no but i'm so scared i might fall into it until i break it lol
yes i know very well English press hard on button 1
I’m good at breaking the ice in like an awkward way that lets people put their guards down
I don't know I'm really shy 👀🙀
Nope, not at all if not introduced directly
Ya I’ve gotten better
Depends what it’s about
You don't need to break it, just let it melt.
I don't talk unless I have something to say
Yep usually with a movie quote
Only if we are alone.
God Bless
Yup. I got my icepick and hammer.
No, I'm sooo bad at that. :(
Nope lol
lies!!! hahaha
you are really fun and good at talking, what do you mean!!!
I’m pretty sure you still make it fun!
don’t doubt yourself!!!😤💙
@blackcupcake surprised you can type after hearing of Laurence's adventures. 🤣
@prettypriya hahahahaha you don’t understand how many times I deleted and retyped because of my current inability to type🤣😭💀
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depends… are you ready to put your life on the line? hahahaha
hahahaha I’m deaad🤣
If I get a hammer then yes XD
The answer is NO.
i can't even start a convo to begin with
Conversationly not at all. Ice on water sure.
No, this is why I have an ice cube tray 🤣
If I want to say something, then I'll just do it.
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