Should a man or a women confess their feelings first?

[Anonymous]

[WonderBell99]

It depends on the individual.

I know for a fact that my guy friends would love it if a woman makes the first move. It doesn’t matter if you are in a relationship or if you’re in the talking stage, when the feeling becomes natural and you feel like you really need to confess your feelings, you can tell them.

Listen, this isn’t a competition. If you really like this guy, tell him how you feel. He may be shy or afraid of rejection. It doesn’t matter who makes the first move - just profess your feelings for him once you’re sure that your relationship has somewhat of a strong foundation.

[Hopelessromantic53]

Quite frankly, i think if the pressure to confess is on both the parties, then the choice and allowance to confess should be for both the parties as well.
Confessing is one of those things where you should really ask yourself if you'd be able to handle getting rejected. At the same time, you shouldn't be so focused on the possibility that you might get rejected that you've surprised when you don't.
Girls, if the guy is showing interest in you more than he shows interest in other girls, or if you have a feeling he likes you, you've got a pass to confess.
And guys, if the girl seems interested and likes being around you, and she seems to like you too, you're free to confess as well.
If you are ready and if you've got the genuine feels, don't be hesitant to confess just because of your gender.
Byeee hope it helps uwuGod bless you and your loved ones ✨

[HopefulGuy94]

I definitely think that man has to do it first , cuz , in general , we , as men , have much more difficulty to express our feelings not only in love issues but also in any kind of issues exist in the world haha I dunno why it is like that but unfortunately it is true. Maybe we are have so many things in common after born. Anyway , but this confessing feelings first of a man only has to be executed again only in really serious relationships which will may be ended up marriage in the future.

[caring__1]

Be clear with your feelings when you become aware of them, though be subtle in your approach, so you don't overwhelm the other person. You want to plant a seed and nurture it; you don't want to be impulsive and impatient and pull the plant right out of the ground. It's not about the plumbing you possess, but the awareness you possess. Sometimes our expression can make it easier for the other to become aware of what is growing within.

[OlderAndWiser]

How about just being candid with your partner about your feelings and not worrying about who reveals their feelings first?

[PrettyPriya]

I don’t think it much matters who does it first. I think it is something you both just feel at some point and comes natural.

Now, whether the man or woman is first to actual say the words I don’t think much matters.

Once you are at that point, you probably have a pretty good idea how your partner feels and should be no fear to profess your feelings.

[KellyPlayz333555]

Everyone's different, including relationships. It depends who's braver and who's ready. My boyfriend confessed his feelings to me first and I accepted him, since he was kind, honest, understanding and easy-going. We also had a strong connection and he's the only guy I ever accepted because one of the other guys who crushed on me wasn't right because he was a bit weird and he wanted to skyrocket the relationship up to the next level. The other guys were extremely horny and I do not accept guys who are horny, dishonest, controlling or rude.

[SMSi123]

Definetely girl,

The guy is AFRAID and shy, (i mean the girl is too)
BUT as a guy i can say that if a guy asks out and she says no The guy Will get bullied a lot and thats why guys are AFRAID to confess their feelings
If The girl does it then its more mild and the guy Will probably say yes
Since guys are easily attracted

He can allso say no but most of The Times like 80/10 he says yes, and if he doesn't. He Will probably be Nice about it and stay friends, but dont get me wrong cus Boys can be douches but IF he makes fun off you remember

He doesn't deserve you
And you deserve better.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the situation. If he's shy he may have feelings and never say it.
If you know he likes you there's absolutely no risk with you going first, the only reason things would go south is if it's difficult for him for some reason. So try to make it easy for him and let him know that you're patient and understanding.

[TheLoneTerran]

Why not either of them? Who ever feels like they can or should, should do so, whether a man or a woman. There's zero point in missing out on a potentially amazing relationship because the 'wrong' gender asked.

[JohannaSm]

Whoever is more tired of waiting in my opinion. I have been on both sides, and if you have strong feelings, just go for it so you can get that relief from the stress. Either way it works out, you don't have as much stress when it's over

[burlen]

When you are feeling hungry, do you ever ask who should eat first? If you are hungry you reach out for what you want to eat. Similarly if you like someone, express your feelings to them.

[sage2021]

After a year seeing this guy, one day I told him I love him. I got a negative response from him that hurt my feelings and never said that to him again.
So, after that experience I let the guy say it first.

[Niko_]

You should give him a reason to ask you out first (long eye contact, compliments (important no to give him to much, not more than 2 per day) and try to be around him), so woman should do the work first but, then he's the one who should confess he's feelings. But in some cases you have to do all the work, so in the most cases he should be first.

[SimpleGuy95]

I don´t think that there is a general rule to be made which gender should be first. I just say who has strong feelings that the other one is the right person for a relationship should go first.

[NathanDavis]

both ways have worked for me really well... so it doesn't really matter to me, but that's just me... every other person might feel different about it

[Jemini_Crocket]

Ideally the man so that I know where he stands. I have severe trust issues so it would definitely be a plus for me.

But I think I could say it first if I'd really fall for him FAST.

[Petermorgan3434]

Women, Should always confess first, Men have been taught/conditioned by harsh rejection to not give it up until the end of courtship/dating. True we are primitive beings, but if we would give heaven and earth to be better

[PhenomenalQueen]

Everyone’s different but I will say timing is what matters the most… It also depends on the maturity.

[dustybiker]

Every relationship is different. You get there when you do man or woman. It should be natural though.

[NZGirl07]

I personally like a guy to tell me how he feels, but it's up to each person.

[TheLadyBug]

not immediately. but over time they should be honest about it...

[mVCyberduVm]

I agree with that
Often times people want to rush it to the point its not believable
Or they want to go some specific route, like for example the man confessing it first.
Just let it be natural.

[Kaamraj]

A man should never ask for a relationship and commitment first because that is his leverage in a relationship.

[Mitt15]

Most of the times it's men , but men do like , women expressing themself first.

[LovingLoverReturned]

Not should... but naturally most women express first... she just might keep it a secret.,

[Espresso-Grande]

I'm the sort of person who'll tell a guy how I feel. But only when I feel the time is right.

[glennos89]

Honestly... it shouldn't matter...

If you like someone?

LET THEM KNOW !!!

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[wa1t1ngFuture]

I agree as long as you have confidence and he likes you too...

[wa1t1ngFuture]

if you just wait for someone to like you and come to you... you will be like my neighbor, she is 60 years old but never got a soul mate...

[wa1t1ngFuture]

Even there are many beautiful women who don't have a mate... and in the end she will come to the man first..

[Ms_Facesitter]

There are no rules. You shouldn't follow any rules. If you want him, you must be the first to reel him in.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Either, but in today's social climate, it's dangerous for a man to do it first. So I'd say out of respect, women should say it first.

[Yucy_Gluttony]

If you feel like you want to you must do it. DO IT NOW!

[NewbutCoolUser]

I dont think it matters much, i think the person would just be happy that the person they fancy likes them back

[Blueeyes81]

It should be whoever is ready first. The stupid games of waiting kill more relationships and potential relationships than anything else.

[Straight2thepoint]

Saying it doesn't count. If you can't read the vibe then u don't even know what it means when feeling get mentioned.

[loveslongnails]

A smart guy can always tell if a woman has "feelings" for him. The reverse is not as obvious.

[Rockstarrrrr]

Both is great as long as you know the other person won't let you down in a bad way

[litty]

What if they are gay/lesbian/transgender? It shouldn't matter.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Women. They are better at it! Granted they tend to go crazy mode in rejection. Guys take it in stride like, yep again.

[2much4u2handle34]

Definitely the man first or the dominant partner. I'm never going to be the first one to confess feelings because it makes you vonurable and puts you in a position to be taken advantage of.

[Juxtapose]

I think women should because men already do it enough.

[Dnice1]

I doesn't matter who confesses first. Either one can do it first.

[zagor]

Whoever has them first.

I would hope not on a first date...

[Rizwan_khan]

There is not complusion of should. anyone can confess their feelings who want to confess.

[Jltakk]

Its not a video game lol, whoever has the feelings should take action. Be honest about your feelings.

[Anonymous]

How about *you* say it first?
Quit wasting time. Or don't. It's your life.
This applies to everybody including myself.

[Anonymous]

I have and when I did I always on the receiving end of it not going anywhere. I don’t feel like confessing my feelings for a woman.

[OddBeMe]

I will say guys are always worried about sounding overeager. So perhaps the chicks.

[dolemite89]

the girl, telling a girl you like her is like showing the dealer your hand in poker.

[Better_off_here]

I think as someone who has been hurt in the past i am gonna say the woman should do it first.

[Anonymous]

a women must earn the trust of a man

its all over the internet
women have to put in the work

[sarah5513]

I think it's best to be natural if you feel that way then do it

[narenyousuf22]

one who is concerned about thier feeling then that person has to convey it to the related one.

[Slim57]

I've found when I express myself to a woman it never goes well so I'm waiting on her first

[SnakeBoop]

whoever. your genitals don't matter

[Whatever2929292]

Whoever wants to. I suppose

[Anonymous]

Male sexual organ is outside while women inside.. answer is there

[WhitneySnow]

They should both confess at the same time

[AssholeNumberOne]

It doesn't matter. Just whoever's braver ig

[sheikalana]

It doesn't really matter.

[Blackcupcake]

whoever, it doesn't matter

[reyesdavina]

Whoever. In my case it would mostly be the man.

[Uptowngirl88]

Omg doesn't matter. It's not a competition

[Anonymous]

How is this still a question in 2022?

[MountAverage]

What on Earth does this have to do with gender?