Why do people undervalue house wives and house husbands? Why aren’t they given the respect they deserve sometimes?

[Tinana]

(I’m not talking about the good patners). today I was just thinking about how stressful kids are to manage. Imagine staying at home all day with them of course you love them still doesn’t make it easy. You’d cook clean and do laundry while someone works for maximum of 10 hours and comes home complaining about the house or his food. Or trying to make you feel less because he makes all the money and you don’t. My aunt had a baby and I’ve seen how tough it is caring for him especially because she used to work before she got pregnant. Her husband is an absolute Angel but they both need to work because they don’t earn enough individually. Because she has a child it’s been tough for her because she can’t leave him all alone at home so sometimes she drops him off with me. My mom always tells me you have to options with kids forget your financial security and stay at home with them. Or you pay for help this way although you spend money you’re still financially stable. And I’ve noticed that. So to think that some men believe they are better than there wives because they have a job while she’s home with the kids “as the woman she is” they forget that the kids were left with him he wouldn’t have the time for his career. She’s literally sacrificing her career for his. In Nigeria men have this mentality that oh getting a wife means someone to cook and clean for you. I’ve had so many conversations with my make friends and they usually say “that’s your duty” that’s so nasty. I’ve seen my parents work as partners always there to raise each other up. I can’t even imagine having feelings for someone who believes I’m obligated to cook for him. I love cooking but it’s fun to me not an obligation. If you can’t cook then I’m not obliged to cook for you I can’t even be in a relationship with someone who has that mindset. Before we have kids we have to have agreements. To sacrifice your goals to take care of your family is a Lot and they deserve all the love. Also the working partner

[andreasderjuengere]

Everyone deserves respect as a person.

However - ''Housewife'' or ''House-Husband'' isn't really a thing that requires high qualification or extensive effort - unless 'you' own a manor with personnel, and large property attached.
Your inquiry is that of a 'romantic' youngster who re-babbles the niceties that are 'popular' to be said.

I had a 'family' once, provided my share in provisioning and duties, AND followed up a career - I claim no credits... that's just one normal life.
Wake up, girl :)

[Tinana]

Did you even read what I wrote? I never said by society. I meant by their partners. A lot of times working partners do not understand the sacrifices their housewives or househusbands make by taking on the kids and house so that they can focus on their career goals. You should also wake up and understand my point before replying.

[andreasderjuengere]

I did read it. If you want to dictate me my own replies: please go ahead.
I reserve my right to have additional thoughts though.

[RuthlessAggression]

Tom Brady retired, went home and saw how hard it was to take care of kids.

Unretired

[Emiliamazing]

Appreciation starts at home. We both work, but I earn more and my husband handles most of the kid’s school and activity obligations (he is self employed and schedules his client meetings within school hours). If a couple shows each other love and gratitude, it helps. It must go both ways. The kids need to see this appreciation, and do others.

[Emiliamazing]

My husband is definitely retiring before me, as we are older parents. He wants to try and enjoy their teenage years before they move off into adulthood.

[Emiliamazing]

Thanks for the MHO!

[Guy_No1974]

I think that being a stay at home home wife or husband is perfectly okay, and it's just as important as having a job.

[Guy_No1974]

So what's your opinion on this?

[Tinana]

Personally, I wouldn’t want to be a stay at home mom. From watching how hardworking my mom is mom, I’ve learned the importance of having your own money. I’d prefer him to be working while we find help around the house. Because it’s common here in Nigeria. This way we’d be way better off financially. Nevertheless if he wants I have no issues with him being a stay at home dad if I’m financially well off ☺️ What’s most important to me is having respect for one another and emphasizing that our relationship is a partnership. I agree being a stay at home mom or dad is as important as working. I’m just saying that a lot of times people forget how stressful it is doing that. And feel like you’re having a vacation staying at home while your husband or wife is working. Which isn’t so they’re both playing equal roles that should be respected.

[MagicCarpet1]

Because they are Satanists and don't read the bible.

[Jamie05rhs]

Because we don't fucking want kids, that's why.
It's foolish to present a trait as something of value if the other person doesn't find it valuable.

[Tinana]

I’m not talking about you or people who don’t want kids. Or society I was emphasizing on the working partner. If you don’t want kids this has nothing to do with you

[Jamie05rhs]

@Tinana. I'm not entirely against having kids. Just don't sell them to me as an asset. They're a liability. As long as we can be honest about that, then I don't mind having the conversation.

[Tinana]

Sure I agree at the beginning they do seem like liabilities but long term they’re assets. I was just trying to emphasize my question is more about why some working partners think less of their housewives or househusbands when they’re the ones in the background. Taking care of things that would ordinarily distract you from your career. I’m not saying working partners aren’t doing anything they do they contribute a lot

[Jamie05rhs]

@Tinana When is a child ever an asset? Lol

[Tinana]

Welll with hard work your kids could grow to be really successful people which would benefit you when you’re older. It’s common to live with your kids here when you’re old if you want to so I’d say that’s an asset when they turn out great sure it’s expensive but still

[Jamie05rhs]

@Tinana Ohhh. I wouldn't count on that. Especially in America. Your kid will probably turn into a pothead. And even if they don't, they'll still put you in a nursing home.

[Abdulwahh]

House wives are valued but house husbands are meant to work according to my understanding he's the bread winner.