Why do people undervalue house wives and house husbands? Why aren’t they given the respect they deserve sometimes?

Tinana
(I’m not talking about the good patners). today I was just thinking about how stressful kids are to manage. Imagine staying at home all day with them of course you love them still doesn’t make it easy. You’d cook clean and do laundry while someone works for maximum of 10 hours and comes home complaining about the house or his food. Or trying to make you feel less because he makes all the money and you don’t. My aunt had a baby and I’ve seen how tough it is caring for him especially because she used to work before she got pregnant. Her husband is an absolute Angel but they both need to work because they don’t earn enough individually. Because she has a child it’s been tough for her because she can’t leave him all alone at home so sometimes she drops him off with me. My mom always tells me you have to options with kids forget your financial security and stay at home with them. Or you pay for help this way although you spend money you’re still financially stable. And I’ve noticed that. So to think that some men believe they are better than there wives because they have a job while she’s home with the kids “as the woman she is” they forget that the kids were left with him he wouldn’t have the time for his career. She’s literally sacrificing her career for his. In Nigeria men have this mentality that oh getting a wife means someone to cook and clean for you. I’ve had so many conversations with my make friends and they usually say “that’s your duty” that’s so nasty. I’ve seen my parents work as partners always there to raise each other up. I can’t even imagine having feelings for someone who believes I’m obligated to cook for him. I love cooking but it’s fun to me not an obligation. If you can’t cook then I’m not obliged to cook for you I can’t even be in a relationship with someone who has that mindset. Before we have kids we have to have agreements. To sacrifice your goals to take care of your family is a Lot and they deserve all the love. Also the working partner
Why do people undervalue house wives and house husbands? Why aren’t they given the respect they deserve sometimes?
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