Is it possible to know whether you love someone or not after only knowing them for 3 days?

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nitsuj86 · Accepted Answer

Lust, sure. But love no.

They might check all your boxes, they might give you butterflies, but if you break up on the 4th day, was that love? Does this other person feel the same way? If so, how do you know that for sure?

My point is, that after 3 days it is almost impossible to truly know who someone is. People put their best foot forward in the early days of a "relationship" and a lot of times, you don't see the real person until further down the road. When you have grown comfortable, and start to leak out those bad behaviors that they have been hiding.

Could it be love, sure. It's possible, but I would say that is usually pretty rare. In my experience, the flame that burns hottest also burns the quickest. Whenever I have met a woman that made me feel the way you are describing, it has always ended in heartbreak and usually rather quickly.

You are losing your head, you need to get it back on straight. High emotions, lead to stupid decisions and overlooking shitty behavior. Expect the best, but prepare for the worst.

ohshee · Accepted Answer

It happens to people all the time what it is your energy connect to their energy is one of the most beautiful feelings that you will ever feel a lot of people call it love chemistry there is a bond that you can feel between you

The same thing happens when you're making love one minute before you getting ready to come it's like you can read each other's minds the feeling the feeling is so intense it's so beautiful the girl and the guy thinks they've just been wowed and they call that love but it's not love it's when two energies connect with each other there's a big big difference
This happens too many people when their energies connect because they have never felt anything so beautiful before and they have to understand they've mistaken for love when it's just your Energies are becoming one it's hard to describe it's hard to explain this but if you understand energy you would understand what I mean don't get me wrong it is one of the most beautiful things ever now if those two people can take it further then it becomes even better

Daniela1982 · Accepted Answer

Real, genuine love takes time to cultivate, as well as being at a deeper level than anyone can achieve in just 3 days. What someone is feeling in 3 days is infatuation and having a sense of longing to fill an emptiness in their heart that they think this person can feel. When moving that fast what someone will probably get will be disappointment when they find out this person is way different than what you read them to be. And that longing you have will just be you exchanging one set of problems for another. Give it time. You will know when love hits for real when you find that, not that you can just simply live with someone, but that you can't live without them.

Is it possible to know whether you love someone or not after only knowing them for 3 days?

VIVANT · Accepted Answer

I always think we can fall in love pretty quickly or slow it is kinda I dependent of our will & varies but I think the feeling of loving is more like your inner gushing system at work predicting you may love this person in future— Instinct kicks in. You won’t know if it was infatuation or something untill way later but provided your in touch with your emotionality, I don’t discount powerful feelings just bc they may happen quickly. 😊

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I really love them because. . ? Because of the way I feel when I am around them? That's not love.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Not possible. Most people's mask doesn't slip until around 3 months or even more, and that's with constant contact. With that said, that means you don't really even know that person until there is quite a bit of time involved.

But you're asking about 'love' at only 3 days? Infatuation is commonly confused with love... sheeeeeit, people nowadays even conflate lust with love.

From my own experience, there's been plenty of girls whom I was in love with their bodies... but then a weekend trip, some pillow talk, or whatever happens and I quickly start to realize I don't like this girl at all... as a person. Vice versa has happened as well, where I'm suddenly not getting texts reciprocated as before.

The same goes for completely platonic situations. There's been plenty of times I start to figure out my new awesome friend as some serious issues or character flaws I find dissagreeable as all hell.

sage2021 · Answer

I think it's possible. When I met my first husband I was instantly attracted to him. We saw each other every chance we could. We ended up getting married 8 weeks later and always got along very well. Our friends commented we were the epitome of a marriage. We had a son 4 years later. But then he strayed after the baby was born. I know, I couldn't believe it was either. 💔

NathanDavis · Answer

nope, not at all...

you could think that you know better, but you would only be guessing... and then yes, later, over time your guess could have been right

but you didn't really know, you just guessed it right... and that was luck, still great though, when it happens, lol

hypojoe · Answer

You will know right away usually from my experience anyway every time it was pretty much right away i dont know other people maybe its diffrent some people settle with someone and learn to love them even if they are being treated like shit because they do not or are sick of being alone and some people can't handle lonelyness very well and some do life always seemed better when you have someone to be with and to share it with loving someone that loves you back I would take that over being rich anyday when death comes calling are you gonna worry about money or your loved ones? You should not even have to think about that just know all the meterial things in your life are shit all that matters are the ones you love and thats it you will know when your in love and when you are loved that feeling is almost unreal and you will know soon enough

BCA6010 · Answer

I think that at best, you can have a good feeling that he/she has strong potential for the long term.

The two times I was with someone I was convinced I was in love with and would have a long future together, I had known them as friends for a few weeks before we actually started dating.

Jabberjaw · Answer

You can know if you have chemistry and know they're a good fit in that time if you're both being real. But true love takes time. You have to see the spectrum of their emotions, behavior, attitudes, and once you have a large enough sample size honestly say you love them

DaveJord · Answer

I totally thing its possible that you could be in love with someone after three days. I honestly think its more like your in love with thr possibility of being in love with the person. Eevery now and then some comes along that inspires love in us, with almost immediate infatuation. Its not real love, but its the seed of something that could be great.

Kaneki05 · Answer

It's possible to have limerence quicker than that but not love. Love factually as science knows it is an affection that grows over spending time with someone, that time of affection to get to love is more than 3 days.
"Some believe in love at first sight, but this is just lust on the first night, if it turns into more, then that's alright."

possumpi26 · Answer

Yes, it's possible. After three days I usually know right away that I DON'T love them because that's simply not enough time to build a bond, trust and intimacy. If anyone tries to tell me they love me after 3 days I will call them on it by saying "okay! Then let's get married!" And watch them cringe 🤣

crossdressingrihno · Answer

You can love someone after three days but you can't KNOW you love them

You would need to get to know them better and have time to Fall out of love for them
If after you had to know and understand them but still love them then yeah you know love them or not

pass_the_celery98 · Answer

It’s not possible. I have to get to know a girl her beliefs, her education, her morals. You can’t go through all of that within 3 days unless you literally talk to them all day Friday evening to early Saturday morning, meet up for hours on the same day and then talk all day on Sunday. But no one does that because people have lives, they have work and other commitments. I would say you can get to know someone well within a few months.

DizzyDesii · Answer

Surprisingly... but remember, you can love easily. But being “in love” with them is the hard part that takes much longer like months or years

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

You could have intense attraction from day 1 the intensity would make you feel that you are in love..

Love is something that is your thought and emotion it can be only judged by you.

To feel like falling in love is kind a minute task if you think but the surrounding factors decide if that love feeling is validated or not and it might take more than 3 days to understand if the love will be sustained

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Love is just a chemical reaction that will eventually fade... usually by then you have developed a attachment of some sort to take its place.

Slim57 · Answer

Nah to love someone you really gotta spend a lot of time together and learn the worst qualities they have, and then when you spend time apart and you realize that they're worth it even with all their worst qualities then you realize you love them and that's love, in my opinion

DonkeyDan · Answer

I don't think you can know someone well enough afrer only 3 days, to know if you love them or not. You can be infatuated with them, but I don't believe you can truly love them.

melanieeeB · Answer

In love? Noooo, but I do believe that you already know pretty early on if you're truly interested in someone and if there is a certain attraction

Paige90 · Answer

It takes a long time (years) to really love someone. You have to go through a lot of good times as well as bad before you truly love someone.

dustybiker · Answer

I knew right away. It didn’t hit me until 8-12 hours later. I had a bad migraine distracting me at the time.

pattij · Answer

I think I fell in love with my future husband within an hour of meeting him and we've been married for decades now.

MountAverage · Answer

No, that's not possible. People need to learn to distinguish between love and affection/crushing. Confusing these two is acceptable when you're a teen, but when you grow up you should learn the difference.

Rizwan_khan · Answer

We can't decide that are we in love in 3 days that not possible yeah we can like any person in 1 day or just by one sight but love is a heavy thing and can't decide untill you know that person well all his/her good or bad things.

Just4ThisNow2 · Answer

No, but this doesn't mean that you won't fall in love. Typically, we fall for our perceived concept of a person rather than the actual person him/herself. It takes some time to get a glimpse into who that person truly is.

exitseven · Answer

I think that you could think you were in love but maybe it is just an overload of oxytocin.

TadCurious · Answer

Bella I guess it's possible but I think it's unlikely. It seems to me it would probably be more of an infatuation than true love.  😊🙋‍♂️

Whatever2929292 · Answer

IT is possible and does happen yes. But many times what they have is infatuation and/or a crush

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Yes. Providing one of those days was Groundhog Day!!!

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Anything is possible & in this case is it after three days LUST could be easily confused with LOVE.

Anonymous · Answer

I have absolutely no experience But maybe infatuation and the relationship led to love in the future, meaning you can’t love someone deeply but have infatuation love for them

OldWorldOrder · Answer

"Love" is not a particularly useful term, or even very coherent.

People need to just establish what it is they want from people and treat each other with respect. Your actions matter more than your "love."

Juxtapose · Answer

That's a pretty cheap form of love but then again love does start small and grows bigger.

douride2 · Answer

I don't think it is possible to know in such a short period of time.

loveslongnails · Answer

You can't know in 3 days, you can just "hope" you know. :)

ColHathi · Answer

I dunno, I voted B. I would call love at that stage "infatuation".

TexasRed95 · Answer

Real love takes time and that's my belief. I believe there are strong feelings at the start.

zagor · Answer

No but you can certainly know if you lust after them in 3 days.

Pudsmucker · Answer

If you both are hitting it off right you should be able to tell.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Probably not. You could have a hunch. But you wouldn't know for sure. At least not THAT quickly!

AndrewMG · Answer

I mean 3 days for a mayfly is a lifetime plus 1 day... so if it's good enough for a mayfly it's good enough for me lol x

katiesmuff · Answer

I don't think it is possible because love is so much more than a physical thing.

anylolone · Answer

It's possible to think you love them because you think hornies means love, which is your case.

msc545 · Answer

That is not possible and don't make the mistake of thinking that it is and acting on it. You will regret it if you do that. Give it some time and see what happens.

fonduegirl · Answer

Love? No. Takes time. Interest? Yes. You can tell within a week if they're your ideal are not.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Of course not you don't know them at all it's lust and getting carried away. You need step away think more clearly

Diego148 · Answer

Yeah I think it's possible, because you can fall in love in a minute, and it's still possible for you to know if you love the person or not... So it's 100percent possible.

Selena1987 · Answer

After 3 days, you fall in love? Are you kidding? It’s absolutely impossible, please wake up

more_than_a_guy · Answer

The answer to D is "baby don't hurt me." Jokes aside, in three days it's like, not love.

Smartman5 · Answer

I don't think it's possible and it's very difficult. why are you asking? do you like a guy?

Shy_Steve · Answer

I reckon it's Possible for us Guys, I'm not sure about Girls.

whereismyjohnny · Answer

I think that’s too early to know that

sheikalana · Answer

I think that's a bit too soon.

dolemite89 · Answer

no lol love is a made up concept 😂

qwert1234 · Answer

No. It's called infatuation.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, it could be possible but hard to say

Crankor · Answer

Not really no. That's just a surface attraction.

Iron_Man · Answer

That’s a real long shot

KellyPlayz333555 · Answer

It really depends how you get on with the person

Still-alive · Answer

in my opinion no. i'd call that infatuation.

Chiarac2003 · Answer

Not love💕but lust maybe.

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