Independent * & gauging* and I’m sorry for the lack of punctuation lol I was preoccupied with the fact I was answering a question it’s been so long I didn’t want to give myself tone to change my mind and stop 🛑 😂 💕
Falling in love is absolutely possible immediately. It’s a chemical reaction. in my opinion TO LOVE is an entirely different level it is an action that we we choose towards a person, often motivated by romantic feelings but not necessarily. I fell in love w/ Bella (platonically) immediately and I card for her choosing to love her I’ve committed to that. The feelings come before the thinking about the feelings. lol people make way too much intellectually out of the feeling of love as if it’s something you study for. It’s just there no mediation. It can crawl in slow or pop up but it’s not something you create. What you choose to do with it is volitional. Not the feeling itself. in my opinion
@VIVANT I 95% agree.I technically disagree with your definition of "falling in love.". But I know that I'm kind of splitting hairs here.However, I see "falling in love" as more of a group activity. That's what you do as a couple, as you begin to have the serious, intimate talks, and you discuss deep things, and you both allow each other to be vulnerable with each other, and you share your emotions and feelings, and you have "moments," and you "touch" each other intellectually and spiritually (and you don't hide it lol; you bear your souls "nakedly.". And you give feedback.).
@Jamie05rhs I don’t see that as falling I see that as growing closer through experience & cultivating a relationship. Falling isn’t cerebral.
I also don’t think just bc you fall in love you should be together. I’m speaking strictly of overcome w/ feelings. Many people conflate this with the act of love or the development of life I see them as very diff levels of emotionality from very primal to more sophisticated. Ultimately we are all just using words to deceive our understanding of the world and bc love remains abstract there is a lot of division. In interpretation.
@VIVANT... Fair enough. 🤷
Oh; sure. I definitely agree that. You could have feelings for someone that would be terrible for you.
@Jamie05rhs of course 😂 🤝
Yeah; true.I prefer the more sophisticated. If what I'm experiencing isn't sophisticated, I don't see it as real.And if the girl isn't willing to dive deep into the sophisticated aspects of love, I don't see *her* as "real," either.
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😳 😳😳 was NOT expecting that ending 😢 🤗
You’re not a romantic.
@dustybiker I was here before romance!!
@dustybiker could also make the most gruesome things... sound quite romantic, in Spanish
One would have had to carrier pigeon for translation back then.
@dustybiker I actually can tell right away, if I will get along or not... with anybody, two very distinctive scents... lol
Ok. A bait comment. I’ll bite. …Scents?
@dustybiker (it´s in our blood, yes...) different mixes of certain hormones and chemicals, it's very subtle... similar as to why dogs are more wary of certain people, lol... and cats as well
You triggered a memory. One of my cats hated strangers. When my uncle came over from UK one year he went right up to him. Loved all over him the entire time. Same blood. 🩸
I agree with this.