If you can cook, would you date/marry someone who can't?

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shaysh87 · Accepted Answer

No I wouldn't.

All the idiots on here who say yes because they love to cook. Reality is, being married to someone who can't cook will just mean an additional liability to you. Imagine coming home after a long hard 8 hour shift, you're tired and starving. Its always you that is doing all the cooking while your spouse just sits there waiting for food to come to his feet. You never come home being welcomed by the wonderful smell amazing food. Instead you're always the one doing all the work when you're starving. It'll only get worse when the kids come along. Lets see how "excited" you get about cooking when you have to juggle working a job , shopping, house work , teaching / disciplining kids and then cooking breakfast , lunch , dinner every night for 4-5 people for the next 25 years.

aWes0MeNeSs · Accepted Answer

If I was up for dating/marriage, it wouldn't be a deal breaker if they've just never really learned much about it (though if it's because they're too lazy, that's a red flag that they're likely too lazy for a lot of other things as well). One thing I can't stand though is when people who can't/won't cook are extremely picky and critical about food, though, so if they're like that and refuse to eat anything but crap processed foods that taste like something you'd feed to a toddler, it would drive me nuts. Not sure that it would make me stop loving them, but they'd have to fix their own meals if they turned up their nose to everything I cooked or demanded nothing but chicken nuggets and Pizza Rolls for every meal, lol.

ChrisMaster69 · Accepted Answer

I love cooking, however I am also fucking lazy at times and expect people to serve me.

This means I do expect a level of ability in the kitchen.

i do however enjoy teaching people how to do stuff in the kitchen.

there are plenty devices to make their time in the kitchen enjoyable and satisfying for all.

Jabberjaw · Accepted Answer

It's not something I've looked for consciously, but every girl I've dated can cook lol. I can cook aswell. Because it's what I'm used to, so now not being able to cook is a disqualifier to me.

Doesn't have to be the best ever, but at least adept in the kitchen

Iwant2kno · Answer

Yes I would. I think it could be a fun experience especially because I like to cook.

sage2021 · Answer

I did that once and never will again! My first husband is a professional cook and he used to cook some amazing dishes. The second one just knew how to put his empty coffee cup in the kitchen sink. That was his only reason to go in the kitchen 🙄.
My boyfriend knows how to cook. Thank goodness! He makes me the best complete breakfast 🍳🥓🥞 just the way I like it. 🙂

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

No.

Cooking for yourself is a minimum life skill I expect of my partner.

It doesn't have to be fancy. It just has to be decent and balanced. Knowing how to make al dente pasta is a good baseline.

Lack of ability or interest in cooking is a turn off for me. I like well-developed, well-rounded adults.

katiesmuff · Answer

It's done every day of the week! A person can be taught to cook and others love cooking, using their imagination to dream up special meals caring less if their partner can cook. Pretty much the normal that we see is, if it's from the stove it's the lady cooking, from the grill it's the guy.

hIopinionated_ · Answer

If they’re willing to learn and or try recipes on YouTube or something, I would date them. If they weren’t, it’s a deal breaker because I am not about to be someone’s housewife who cooks and makes her boyfriend/husband food. He will starve and I will cook for myself so to avoid that, I’ll just not even brother

TrueConfection · Answer

I can cook and I married someone who can't even heat up soup from a can properly. I used to live cooking and he loves eating, so it was a lot of fun. Fast forward 15 or so years and I started hoping for a break. 😬 We dine out some nights, but I really want to put my feet up while someone else puts together a descent homemade meal (just once). It will never happen.

Screenwriter · Answer

If the noncook is interested in cooking, there's no issue. But if someone just wants to lounge back and never participate in creating meals, I'd avoid them. Cooking is a joy and an art and provides you and your partner and everyone you know with loads of pleasure.

melanieeeB · Answer

No, cooking is a basic skill that everyone should work on and have... not saying you have to be a gourmet cook, but just like being able to cook some basic ass recipes

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, as long as they don't expect me to cook extra for them or ajust to their eating habits, which would definitely be different than mine since I eat home cooked meals most of the time. I would sure cook for them now and then, but I am not up for me being responsible for their food in general.

jahaims · Answer

in my opinion the only people who can't cook haven't tried to, are stupid, or lazy. It's pretty easy to cook. You can literally follow step by step directions to cook. After you do that for a while you can understand more about cooking and be more creative.

Xoirwinkan · Answer

I can cook moderately well. However, I still would like a wife who can cook preferably at least as well as me, since I want a 'housewifey' girl. I like to say that food tastes better when a girl makes it for you! I approve of the old saying, the way to a man's heart is through his stomach!

geonator · Answer

I'm not like super good at cooking, but I might say I'm decent. I could date someone who can't cook, but if I'm working full time and she isn't, I would ask that she try to learn to make at least some basic things we can eat so we don't need to always eat out or have frozen meals. She doesn't need to be like a top notch cook though

CaptainOverthink · Answer

I can cook.
Yes, I would. Having maid-skills is not a criteria for my future girlfriend. But I will assume she wants to help out and share the load evenly.
But I'd also commit to eating garbage sometimes. We'll work on it, okay.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Absofuckinglutely & as for me I learned how to cook for myself & if I date someone who can’t cook, no problem. If she can cook that would be a bonus & her & I could cook together & really fire things up in the kitchen.

jasmine_0603 · Answer

Yeah, that's not really a big deal. Actually, I can cook and my boyfriend can't. When we don't go out to eat, I'm the one who does the cooking, but he does the dishes, so the duties are shared 😉

Sour-rose · Answer

No, just means they'll rely on me. Betta not do that because we'll be poor within days if I say "fk it, ordering chinese"

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Not if they aren't willing to learn. Cooking is an important life skill and I'm not gonna be the one doing it all.

alice55 · Answer

Yes cause everyone can heat up something using a microwave so if I'm sick he could still heat something up and we would not starve.

whereismyjohnny · Answer

I would. I'm dating them not their cooking skills 😅

TruthBurns · Answer

I can cook but if a woman doesn't even have basic cooking skills it's a turn off for me and I probably wouldn't marry one who can't cook unless she makes up for it in other ways

Reaper1985 · Answer

I might not be a great cook but I at least know the basics to be able to feed myself. So I would hope their willing to learn and/or help cook. provided their of able body and mind to be useful in the kitchen that is.

Whatever2929292 · Answer

Oh for sure. Maybe we would have fun trying to learn. That is one of those things that is nice but at the same time if I really like or love someone then that does not matter

ManOnFire · Answer

Yeeeeeeeaaaah, that's gonna be a no for me. I can cook - and I cook good, but I'm not gonna link up with someone who doesn't or can't. They'll always depend on me for food and that's not cool. Sorry.

Anonymous · Answer

No, my coking skills are already better than chefs as I am doing it for years. But women don't respect men who cook if they can't do it themselves. They are either too lazy or dumb or have negative views about cooking and they will always go for guys who prefer restaurants to home-cooked. I have already tried that, but will never any more.

Freyke · Answer

Gladly. Not that it's a plus, but if she loves my cooking, it's just another way to express my affection towards her. I'll teach her. Added quality time right there.

Panzer21 · Answer

I have exceedingly dull taste buds and eat very simple food, so pretty much if a meal is properly cooked and not burnt into charcoal, Id be happy with it.

you can read recipes online and learn to cook in a month or less.

Debris1 · Answer

Of course I would. If he wants to cook on occasions, that's fine. However, I expect to do all the cooking.

Kabluie · Answer

it's fine, i would even recommend things like hello fresh or home chef and you can make learning to cook from premade recipes a date. They basically take the shopping list out of the equation.

DarylRoberts · Answer

I can cook and cook well , yes I would date or marry someone who couldn't it would be a great thing for her to learn , it's such a treat when someone cooks for you

Iron_Man · Answer

I can’t cook in the kitchen and I have no desire to but I can cook outside but yes I need to have a wife that can cook because I’m tired of going to Burger King Taco Bell McDonald’s and Arby’s and pizza places for my food every night

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, but he better be the sort who can afford to keep me barefoot and pregnant because I'm not going to work all day AND be expected to have a hot meal ready for my man when he gets home... Also I want babies lol

kuladiamond · Answer

i would, that just means i can help them to learn how to cook and learn more things myself too, cooking with people is fun.

slatyb · Answer

Of course. Although literally anyone can cook. Some are more skilled than others but literally anyone can cook a potato or an egg.

genericname85 · Answer

i can cook and i think i would. but i still think it's weird that one isn't able to cook. to me that's like being able to wipe your ass. not quite as bad obviously but yeah.

MrJMM · Answer

I mean sure but I would also teach them since I don't want to be the only one who cooks. It's fucking exhausting and if you have to clean the entire house down, do laundry, etc it's just a lot of work that you don't get paid for.

Nigjt · Answer

Yes I do not mind cooking at all as long as she is willing to clean up afterwards with no an I really do mean no fussing about it at all because once that Bs begins it's over for me I will not do both.
God Bless

Creampiekarl420 · Answer

If I learned to cook what’s my motivation to get married

SlickRick24 · Answer

Absolutely you can’t right someone off for such a small reason I actually think it’s a plus maybe you could impress them with your skills. 2 people that can both cook well may end up in competition with each other which may not be healthy.

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

I don’t eat unless it’s good I’ve cooked myself so I wouldn’t mind 🤷‍♀️

annabananna · Answer

My husband couldn’t cook when we first got together. Once he made me bacon that was half burnt and half raw lol. He has really improved since then!

moonpie89 · Answer

Sure that's fine.. I at least expect him to clean up and or help in other ways

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I would date a girl who can't cook, it's all cool for me

Adivabbaby · Answer

Yes I love to cook but I’m not gonna have them dependent on me 24/7 I go other things to do so I’ll teach them LOL

loveslongnails · Answer

Yes, that wouldn't be a deal breaker, especially not if she enjoys my cooking and helps with the clean-up! :-D

pleasestopthis · Answer

No, that means I'll have to do it even if I'm too sick to cook or order food, which can get expensive in the long run.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

It depends. If she can clean and help in the kitchen then thats definitely a start. But if she's nasty and just expects for to be made, then nope.

IsoUser · Answer

When I was younger I actually was a sous chef, so I actually do know how to cook and actually prefer to cook my own meals as well as for others and friends

Sarahslater3738 · Answer

I definitely like to eat I’d like to be with a guy that can cook for me

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Yes, but only if she lets me teach her. Everyone should know how to cook.

ImNoOne111 · Answer

I am already dating one! Her cooking has improved tho. But yes I would. It's not a big deal as I can cook well for both of us so we won't starve

Anonymous · Answer

Anyone can cook, just look up how to lol. So yes I would.

bush123 · Answer

I prefer someone who can’t cook because I want to be the one doing all the cooking obviously

Anonymous · Answer

A woman who couldn’t cook would need to make up for it in other areas. I don't know clean well and often or made good money I don't know. I can cook but it takes time and sometimes I get tired.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Of course! I can teach her. And we can even take a class and learn new things together. :)

AmeerX · Answer

I can't cook but even then I want someone who can cook foods otherwise we both be starving 🤣

bolverk · Answer

No, if I dated/married someone I'd want them to be at least as skilled in the kitchen as I am.

dolemite89 · Answer

no, every adult should at least be somewhat proficient at cooking. when a girl says she’s bad at cooking i just think she’s lazy.

007kingifrit · Answer

no such thing as a person who can't cook, only someone who hasn't tried. it's easy

sofia444 · Answer

Yes I will. But I will expect him to learn how to cook. And Will learn it myself too

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Yea why not, if I date someone, it doesn't immediately mean we life together

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