7 Years Dating, Should I Do Something More To Become a Fiancee? (Page 2)

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We met in college back in 2011 both graduated in 2013 we dated since 2015 His parents purchased a house for him in 2018 His dad got him into a really good paying factory job that he makes 90K a year He got a new car from his grandfather for a birthday I went further in education while he was working.  Icompleted 3 degrees and have a ton of school debt but secured a great job that pays (starting 70k/ year) I split my week as I'm in health care, 12 hr shifts. I work 3 days a week that i stay at home with my family as is 5 min drive to the medical centre i work at. the other 4 days i live with my boyfriend i do the cleaning, laundry, cooking, groceries any chance i can. We are equals, we both pay for bills, etc.  - My boyfriend told me he wants to marry me but first wanted to finish school and get his own house. He did in 2018.  - He then told me he wants to be financially stable enough to afford a ring, yet in the past 3 months he has dropped over 25K by purchasing new gaming computer, modifying it, custom case and cover, lights, the works. He dropped 300$ on a gaming keyboard, and nearly 150 on a gaming mouse. We both game, i get it. He wanted to treat himself which is fine.  I've tried to discuss marriage multiple times, as we have a great relationship and he says he wants to marry me one day, but we've been dating for 7 years, still just. His two reasons were originally a house and being financially stable. He knew i wanted to get engaged and married one day, as that is MY wants from a relationship. He assured me he does too. But here we are, year 7. And still nothing.  I am having insecurities because i constantly an stuck wondering why hasn't it happened yet? Why did he say those things if he didn't mean them? He got upset and became sad when i told him im disappointed we aren't engaged yet and that i feel like im not special enough to even be a fiancee to him. He knows my traditional views.  Do i need to do more as a girlfriend? Any ideas?

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Then break the norm and propose.

ODC2112 · Answer

In Italy it is normal.

sofia444 · Answer

So many toxic answers from Alpha males

Philyouup · Answer

yeah, ask him. that’ll get an answer pretty fast

EaterPeter · Answer

Please see a therapist.

Sketti2021 · Answer

Ain't going to happen

Anonymous · Answer

He won't propose, he'll fear divorce-rape too much

Anonymous · Answer

that's why you shouldn't have sex until marriage

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

You're desperate

Joker_ · Answer

ultimatum

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