The “Friend Zone” and “Leagues”?

[Anonymous]

So, I have my own way of thinking about many things. I’m very analytical and logical by nature. I spend a lot of time in my own head. That said, my thoughts and opinions on things are usually fairly irregular. So when it comes to these concepts, I am sort of lost. In my mind, the person you want to date and eventually marry is your very best friend in the whole world. So when I see women putting all of these good men in the friend zone, my first thoughts are what more do you want?” and “What are your priorities finding a partner?” In my mind, the dangerous concept of the “friend zone” makes women put all of the best prospects for their dating life directly onto a no-contact list. It seems counterintuitive.

My thoughts on these so-called “leagues” is basically that it’s just plain illogical. It seems to be a wave that people who are insecure about their social standing are able to make themselves feel better. When someone tells me that “she’s so out of your league” or rejects my advances by saying “sorry, we’re just not in the same league”, my fist thought is “if you believe in leagues, then you’re below/not in mine.” Is this harsh? If it were, I’m not sure I care. About leagues, friend zones, or any other seemingly pretentious socially constructed/reinforced hierarchies.

Anybody care to talk about it?

[exitseven]

I do not believe in the friend zone and I do not believe in leagues. If I was friends with a girl and it developed into something more I would do something about it.

[Guy13]

Man-up and stop whining behind your intellect. Your intellect is obviously all you have AND you blow that up too.

[Asker]

First off Guy, I don’t need your approval. I was hoping for a logical argument to challenge my point of view. You don’t know me. I’m not hiding behind my intellect. It’s simply the only thing I care to use when attempting rational thought. Emotion isn’t practical for decision making. My intellect isn’t the only thing I have by the way. I’m also bigger, stronger and more financially well off than most. If character assassination is all you’ve got, you really should try again. That, or you could take your issues elsewhere.