Have you ever been in love/infatuated with someone you haven’t met/seen in person and have a relationship with them online?

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How did it go? How long did it last? Did you guys finally met in person?

Sarahr123 · Accepted Answer

I never thought it would ever happen but I did develop a huge crush on a boy I had only met through someone’s conversations, through stories narrated to me by a neighbourhood aunt of my own aunt’s. This aunty was hellbent on getting me to marry this boy and all that started three years ago.

At first I would just roll my eyes and ignore everything but then one night on 29th November 2020 she sent his photo to my mother and his details and told her to show it to me. My mother and maternal aunt as well as this neighbour aunty were completely besotted with the guy and thought he was perfect. They showed me the photo, I shrugged my shoulders and said I don’t like him - he’s not my type. He was different to what I’d usually go for but he was good looking nonetheless. They wanted a good looking groom for me and that is what they’d tell all the matchmakers: “our girl is beautiful - we need a handsome boy.”

The months that followed for some reason I couldn’t completely remove his thought from my head. In April I decided to email his business which is run by him solely and the response got me kind of excited. I felt like he seemed like a nice boy. He is very orthodox and religious though and that is something that escaped my mind with the antics that followed.

So fast forward a few months I made a half arsed LinkedIn account simply for the purpose of clicking his profile until he noticed. I connected, he accepted - as one does on LinkedIn. I also knew his birthday month was approaching and wanted to know the exact date which wasn’t written on his details form (I never found out his exact birthday through LinkedIn - that setting he had switched off). So from 28th June until around 29th July I would check his profile religiously and sometimes he would check back probably at some point thinking what is going on until eventually I got myself blocked. 😂

That was when I had to convert to plan B which was to order from him. So I placed an order and he seemed fine he was really lovely he delivered on 11th August last year for the first time. When I saw him for the first time I was kind of smitten - he was really cute and had a really innocent face.

Then the months that followed I decided that it was impractical. I had met his mother and sister-in-law on the 17th August because the neighbourhood aunty is friends with his mother and she invited his mother to her house. His mother seemed to love me but I think her son is extremely stubborn and doesn’t listen to her.

From the end of August until end of October it played on my head, I’d think about him all the time but I stopped trying to contact him in my very strange ways. I tried explaining to my heart and pacified it with a hundred reasons but overtime I realised the pain of my heart would not lessen. It didn’t help that all the women relentlessly teased me by calling me his wife and always referred to his mother as my mother-in-law in our language. My crush just kept growing.

Then I decided to confide in a friend and she said order again, even my mother told me to do that. It was winter by now and my mother said email him. Coincidentally I did that on the night of 29th Nov - exactly a year after I first saw his photo. He let me know he was out of stock due to Winter season and would let me know when he had stock back.

On Christmas eve as I was talking to my friend about him he emailed me that he could do a delivery the next day on Christmas. I knew it would be a busy day but I was dying to see him so I said yeah sure I can accept tomorrow. He came in the evening and I was so excited to see him all day (mind you the night before I had interrogated him about if he is delivering personally so he was a bit confused)…

annabananna · Accepted Answer

I’ve had and infatuation before with a guy online before. He lived across the pond.

walter89 · Accepted Answer

In my 20s shiiiiiiiiiiii lol never in love online. Have I met females? Of course. We chatted, we met and with 3-5 days we nailed. This type relationship lasted in the 1-3 months gap.

Before you go further, the summary of your answer will be. It depends what YOU looking for. Real relationship as to find your love one. Will be a Hell No is best in person/physically. For hooks ups, smash and move on, then yes.

Now if you want to continue reading to know why as my personal experience carry on.

It stop when I met my ex through friends groups in person. That only lasted 6 months her parents were in our relationship so much. We lost it because they push her little brother between us. Which removed our motivation 😅. Plus non sexual conversation or inappropriate conversation for her little brother to hear. I asked her, if this was intentional or what? Never was from her but her parents were making sure we didn't have sex which was too late we had so many and places. We did enjoy dates non sexual, just hang out, visiting places up to restaurants.

After we break up @ age 25. I decided to open a landscaping business. Well now I am 32 and been successfully. Still single. I haven't used any app but will begin to use it 😉.

My old friend has a kid and tried to date with me. I voided her, just as friends only. When we were younger she had no kid and she look damn good during that time I asked her, she denied. After 7 years she wanted to pick up when I asked. This time I denied. Hell no (cop out). I took care my self not to have kids and this girl now seeking a father for her kid. Hell naaaa. You choose that dumb as* guy desperately.

It would of been differently with me but at the same time. I am glad didn't happen because I am happy where I am. Business owner, 4 rams trucks and a house. No stress on girlfriend or wife. I go to the gym after work. Exchange numbers later we hang out and (maybe not always) we bang and then move on or a work out buddy.

Have I thought getting in a solid relationship? Yes and No. Unless she accepts prenups. Hell I work hard for this to be successful. Now days is hard to trust, Johny Depp case, specially the economy the way is heading.

dtweed1996 · Accepted Answer

Yes it’s been a distant relationship but not for much longer as we finally met face to face

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I’ve had crushes on three guys I only knew online, with two guys it was their looks and with one guy it was his personality cause I had no clue what he looked like during the time we sent regular messages to each other.

RavVid · Answer

Yes. It was back in the days when it was all by email.

It was different then because there weren't the visuals. In fact the visuals get in the way a lot. With email liaisons it was how you reacted to each other emotionally and in many ways it made it more real Pinay_ako. So for me I looked forward to getting home and seeing how her day had gone and I think the same for her. You can try to write erotically eg "I/You stick my/your C#@k... And you/I cum immediately 50 times". Action orientated and it doesn't work because it is fake. But when you write emotionally it does work.

So we started off with "I/You stick my/your C#@k... And you/I cum immediately 50 times" but fairly quickly got to more an emotional level of my day/your day. And it got fairly emotionally steamy fairly quickly. As I said I think we were both happy to get home to read the latest email from each other and disappointed if the time zones didn't work out that day.

Which gets to where we broke up because we hadn't discussed time zones but just drifted into things. She asked me "What part of the States are you from again?" After I said I was from Australia, I never heard from her again.

Pinay_ako, in some sects and regions before a guy n girl get married they have to sleep together. With a big dividing board between them. With sharp spikes on top if not broken glass. They are meant to talk all night. I am not so sure that is not the best way as opposed to "that short skirt is really hot".

cheers

bubblegunnn · Answer

Oh it happened a lot 🥲
Also had relationship too and meh we never met. First months dating we are so excited bout everything, said he wanna fly over my country if its not covid, already looking for hotel we gon stay and stuff, but its been like 1,5 year dating and still no meet. I lost interested, things not goes welll, but he still showed genuine feeling for me, so.
And another guy is, godamn im really infatuated w this guy actually he's really my type, but again, differwnt country 🥲 he's kinda player tho, said he doesn't talk to another girl but me, said he will come to see me after deploy but he's only bragging. But yeah he was really drive me crazy. Now im good without him, times heal..

TwiNshichamp1 · Answer

Yes I met this girl on WhatsApp in 2021 April. We met in the group and we connected a bit. She followed me inbox if I would like to talk privately I said yes. To keep it short, we got along like we liked each other, we flirted and talked until late nights. She likes black guys and her previously relationships was with black guys (she is from Switzerland) and I honest liked her because I also like white women. But she went to Senegal (West Africa Country) followed her female friend. Her female friend had a brother so they connect and so she changed her mind. She couldn't chat frequently no more, no Whatsapp calls and she kept me on reads. I noticed it, I called it out and ended online relationship. We could meet in person one-day thou but things change and I understand that. Took me some days to take her off my mind. But it's fine we don't talk no more and we blocked each other. (Iam from Tanzania by the way)

DiegoO · Answer

Yeah. We had strong feelings for each other. From day 1 when we were sending text messages. I use to be active in chat rooms, for years, during my teen days and I would say: up till my middle 20s.

I know it may sound insane but what I felt for her I never ever felt for anyone, online. Both of us knew the limitations we had and I was aware reality was gonna be entirely different, but that glimpse I received from her, was enough for me to postpone my desire to go Canada. During 3 years my heart was in Spain. That: until I understood there wasn't any real chance to brake the distance—among other things that made me give up on the illusion I had.

⌛Years passed. In retrospective, I am glad we never met. I am better off alone.

TenderFantasy · Answer

No, to me, love grows. I think many people mistake "love at first sight" to mean exactly that, when that isn't true at all. It takes time to know someone and what they are referring to is lust usually, not love.

icantpickausername · Answer

When I was younger, yes. Twice. They both ended up “leaving” me for another girl. When I was older, I fell in love with a boy online but didn’t want a relationship until we had met in person. It didn’t feel fair putting a bunch of time and energy into someone who may turn out to be completely different than what I had created them in my mind to be. People are typically somewhat different in person as opposed to online. I would definitely never consider a relarionship with someone I have never even video-chatted with.

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

Yea I have, i spoke to her for like half a year and dated her for like 2 weeks, I wasn't going to ask her out until I met her in person but I sorta felt pressured to ask her out so I did and it after 2 weeks it all went to shit, to be honest I'm just happy I got the first one out of the way, from what I've heard the first relationship always ends

Kreneman · Answer

Yes, I met this fine beautiful Lebanese woman from another state online. She love my short stories that I wrote and we always had a great chat but she wasn't going to wait on me because she kept her options open and she was seriously looking for a relationship asap in her state but we stayed as good friends for a long time until we both moved on.

beebella · Answer

Now that I think about it, there was one guy, when I was a teenager, that I was in an "internet relationship" with. We only lasted a day or two, he had major jealousy/anger issues. Lmao

After that, there have only been a few internet crushes here and there. One guy did want to actually be in a LDR, but we live in different states and we were both broke (I also wasn't sure how I really felt about him at the time). It just wouldn't have worked out at all.

Someone80004 · Answer

Yes and I regretted it..  That person just broke my heart.  He never respected me at all, or seems willing to respect me. I keep getting hurt every day

Smartman5 · Answer

There have been women on this site whose photos I have only seen, liked, and texted for a while, but I have never met any of them in real life. because we live in far away countries. There are also people who block me even for no reason. There is another woman that I love very much, but she also blocked me. I'm going to do something she wants so badly, but she's not talking to me.

MrPickles13 · Answer

I guess the closest I got was talking everyday for 2 months with someone on a dating site. We never met or spoke via anything but text. I really liked her and she just stopped replying. I did ask about meeting up for an actual date and that but she just made excuses.

Wsx2wsx2ws · Answer

I tried it a couple times. I attract crazies. If you are crazy I guess I will try with you. If you are sane I won't know what to do. But I can always use new friends. TO bad the last 2 wanted enemies.

Guy13 · Answer

Nope as Fiction does not fit in my "Only so much Time" model...

FactsRULE · Answer

If the woman is attractive enough men do fall in love with her/them even never having met them in person. From and inch away to halfway around the globe.

imadgues · Answer

I hv a friendship experience not love or relationship i hv a friend of mine whome i've never met but it's on the plan to meet up if one of us visit the city of the other friend cuz we hv no time to travel

Snsl153 · Answer

No, but I think there are a few here on GAG who are infatuated with me for some reason (and no, I'm not being conceited/narcissistic when I say that either).

alex4you · Answer

I have been in love with a girl ( a very sweet filipina girl ) i met online but because of the long distance our relationship got cold. She wanted marriage. I am still thinking about her now and then...

ChiTown33 · Answer

Uhm, I wouldn't classify that as a "relationship". Lol

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes the most beautiful brunette in the world she comes and goes a lot here but she’s the most beautiful girl I’ve seen in my life she is full of curves SueShe is the only one that knows what she looks like and has seen her salute

Badgirltings · Answer

Yes I have his name was Chris ahhh 😯I was willing to risk it all for a man I have never seen in my life lmfaooo

crossdressingrihno · Answer

I have ex who I'm met online and never seen in person. She was great and it's a relationship that I remember fondly

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Yes, and, if I could still get in touch with her and get her over here, I'd still marry her. Nadejda Moncheva.

superdonkey · Answer

I suppose so we've been talking and flirting for over 10 years

MCheetah · Answer

A crush/infatuation online, yes.  A relationship, no.

sheikalana · Answer

I did when I was younger. It didn't last long that person had a bunch of personal issues and didn't want to be helped.

jcampbell115 · Answer

Yeah, but it's often more of an emotional connection at the time that the communication is happening

vduong1988 · Answer

yes i have he never show his pic cause he was cheating on me with different girls i never met him he was a cheater i don’t want to talk to him

Emerson28 · Answer

Yes I have and I really hope she will get to see me the way I see her in the near future. I just don't know if telling her how I feel about her will affect our friendship.

exitseven · Answer

When I was dating the internet was not even a thing yet.

Better_off_here · Answer

i have had crushes on many woman i "met" online but i have not met any of them in person but i know that it was all a passing phase, we talked for a but nothing too special at all.

TallAnon · Answer

I'm not sure I've been in love before, but I've been intimate online, sure. Eventually people get bored and it fizzles out.

moonpie89 · Answer

No actually. I always want to them and usually the infatuation dies.

dolemite89 · Answer

I've had a couple hook ups from girls I've met online not many tho i usually prefer to ask girls out irl

driven159 · Answer

I don't do online relationships I am a touchy person so no touch no fun

Cowboy6666 · Answer

Yep happened few times with me.  It didn't work due to long distance. 😐

Jerre · Answer

Fatuated yes, in love no. Have to meet them and fuck before I known for sure.

roy_ricky09 · Answer

Love no. Interesting oh hell yes Admiringly intelligent... But she's not responding

DevinAM · Answer

Someone I hadn't met in person, yeah. Trying to arrange a meeting with someone I've been talking to recently, hoping it might go somewhere.

serious · Answer

The answer is NO. Never.

SeekingVirginWife · Answer

Yes, maybe I have a secret relationship with @pinay_ako, and one day we might get married.

Andres77 · Answer

Not yet but I'm really intrigued.

Waldoe · Answer

yes I was, I flew to Manila and then on to Lavezares, we got married, then she cheated on me... she only wanted American Dollars...

JessicaEarl · Answer

No way. Never ever trust anyone online

Fuentes · Answer

No its not possible for me

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

It rarely lasts more than a few months.

maximumpower · Answer

oh, hell no. people actually do that?

Thecubs22 · Answer

No. I don't say that I have

downtowndiner · Answer

I married her.

Jackson619 · Answer

Yes you gorgeous

Xtendable · Answer

Yes…it was fun

gutzer · Answer

Yes very much

Zachgoat308 · Answer

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